Bad dating/flirting etiquette?
Oof, I don’t know if this is just me being unlucky or what I am noticing a pattern that doesn’t sit well with me. Wondering if anyone else has encountered this?
I am all for a positive mention of another partner when it makes contextual sense. If you’re happy, I’m happy! But lately I swear that any time I am texting over a dating app with someone, or flirting on a date, or something along those lines, that person brings up a partner and how happy and perfect they are together. Not in a “making sure you are fully aware of the situation” way, but in kind of a “unconsciously monogamous, my twu wuv” kind of way. And this has been multiple different people!
I know the answer is to ask more questions, get more answers, communicate, but I’m just venting. Where’s the common sense?! Like, seriously, do you think it makes me feel like you’re interested in me at all when you say and do those things? I’m not saying I need to be treated like your soulmate, but acting like you already have one is…certainly a choice. That kind of…I don’t know, surprise hierarchy? Is so depressing. Let there be a little magic and spark, ya know?
For a more specific example-I was at someone’s house (a long term friend that we have transitioned into beginning to go on dates, so all still very casual) and their nesting partner was around. We are all very good friends and hang out together often. Somehow the conversation devolved into how perfect they are for each other and how if it didn’t work out between them that they can’t imagine dating anyone else and continuing on. They’ve been poly for a long time now. And I’m just sitting here like…uh, what? Not that we’re serious, but wow, somebody clearly has some priorities that I was unaware of.
Anyway. Just wanted to share and hear about others’ experiences and thoughts!