AITJ for not inviting my ex’s family to my baby shower? (TL)
I (26F) am pregnant and recently had my baby shower. Now, my ex-boyfriend's family is furious with me, and I want to know if I was in the wrong.
My ex(29M) and I broke up a while ago. Since the split, neither he nor his family has messaged me or checked on my pregnancy once. Because of their complete silence, I decided to cut ties. I own my own business and am financially stable, and my amazing family has promised to help me raise my child.
Recently, my parents hosted a huge baby shower for me. In our culture, it is customary to give a cash gift to the baby's aunts (the father's sisters). Since I didn’t invite them, my parents gave that money directly to me instead.
When my ex's family found out how big the party was, they went crazy. They started spreading rumors in our community that I cheated on my ex and that's why they aren't involved. I ignored the gossip, but then things escalated. My ex's sister started messaging my phone with abusive texts, calling me names and threatening to sue me for custody. I broke down crying, but my parents comforted me and reminded me that with their lack of involvement, they won't win a custody battle.
Today, my sister and I were at the mall buying baby things when we ran directly into my ex and his mother. My sister grabbed my hand and whispered, "Don't look at them," and led me away. My ex looked totally shocked to see me, and his mother was staring daggers at me. We avoided a fight and went to the food court, but I've been stressed ever since.
They completely ignored my pregnancy until they realized they missed out on a big party and cultural cash gifts, and now they are threatening legal warfare.
AITJ for excluding them from the baby shower?