I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the invisible rules many of us grew up with about being a “good woman.”
Not the obvious ones—the quiet ones.
Be responsible.
Be reasonable.
Don’t do things just because you want to.
Have a good reason.
Make it practical.
Don’t be selfish.
I’m writing a book about this idea—how women are taught to postpone themselves or wait until something makes sense to everyone else before doing what they want.
So I’m curious:
What did you learn a “good woman” was supposed to be?
And did that change as you got older?
If you’d prefer to share your experience privately, I also created a short anonymous set of questions where women can tell their stories in more detail. Some responses may be used in the book, without identifying details.