u/20leghitter

Gonna try and keep it short but we’ve known each other 5 years she’s definitely avoidant and it really is hard working around that especially since she’s a traveler I don’t get to see her for months but for her I manage anyways we spent some time together about a week ago things went great as always when we’re together and we made plans to make more plans blah blah. At this point I consider her someone who doesn’t like to text and I get that because I don’t either unless it’s her. Anyways I’m trying to see her again make plans etc but she just went cold after that night. Texted her, waited 2 days no answer, 3 days go by I try to call on her day off still no answer but she texts me this. This was 4 days ago still no response today. Oh and she leaves to go back out of the country in a few weeks

I’ve known her for a while now and she really is just bad at texting but to communicate something like plans to see each other again is mandatory ya know? We always have such a good time together but when we’re not I’m always the one initiating everything. Anyways I guess I’m asking for input on if I should give up on this I truly don’t want to but even as a avoidant is this acceptable? Like why make things worse by telling me we’re going to talk just to not talk is that a common thing? I’ve been texting her like crazy ever since I definitely wish she’d just block me instead of ignore me. She also knows I’m more of a communicator so to me theres really no excuse for all of this

Also** I know what’s acceptable and what’s not acceptable is different for everybody i’m just asking for points of views or if anybody has been in a similar situation

first time writing anything on here but I’m honestly stuck…. Backstory**Met this girl about 8+ years ago in my hometown and we dated for a short time but i ended up getting incarcerated for 2years so we agreed to end things (didn’t want her to leave but didn’t want to hold her back either) and possibly try again whenever i got out. Anyways i never stopped thinking about her even when we didn’t speak for awhile. I can’t even think of taking anybody else seriously besides her and I wouldn’t want to if I could. After being released we met up a few times just to hangout and catch up—even though i know i only want this person with all of her good and bad but maybe time would change that? Well we both had other things going on plus I was focused on my business and at this point she was focused on moving from the US to Mexico (where her family is from) which I never even considered but to me, being with her is worth it. But I didn’t, she moved there with her twin.

Present*** Her year visa just ended so she’s back around for a few months before she goes back because she definitely wants to go back but yesterday was my first time seeing her in over a year and we went out and had a good night didn’t even get freaky we just ended our night standing outside 5am holding each other for atleast an hour without even speaking literally the most in love thing. She also mentioned me moving to Mexico with her which is crazy yes but after being away from her for this long i literally would with some planning. Man I could write a book about this girl…. Neither one of us are perfect but when we’re together it feels that way to me. Also I’m not big on having a lot of friends so even up to this day she knows more about me than a lot of people I’ve dated.

problem** i don’t think she feels the same way about me how I feel about her and by that I mean she’s always on my mind even when I’m busy and I’d always find the time for her. She’s definitely more reclusive when it comes to feelings and more of a live in the moment type of girl so talking about emotions is always trickier I don’t want to force anything and I don’t want her to shut down either but last night when I told her that she’s the only girl I ever wanted since we met she asked me why?I told her I’m trying to figure that out still but It really got me thinking why after all this time she’s the only girl I want to take seriously?? She’s not an angel or anything but when I’m with her nothing compares to it, and I’ve tried with a few other girls but it’s pretty pointless unless I lie to them about her which I’m not trying to do, so yea no I just want her. Is feeling like this normal or is she dragging me along?? It’s easy for me to tell her how much she means to me but for her it doesn’t seem that way and again it’s been over 8 years since we met does this sound like something worth risking it all for?

I don’t get it

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