AITA for being annoyed at my friend every time she calls?
Hi everyone, this is my first reddit post so if I leave out any important details, please bear with me.
I, (22F), have this friend, also (22F), that calls me all the time. The problem isn’t the fact that she calls me. She only calls me or talks to me to tell me about something she did with another friend and how fun it was, but never says that I should tag along next time or even invites me in the first place.
She always goes out with other people and never makes plans with me, but when she calls me, all she talks about are the plans that she had with other people. For example, just tonight she called me, telling me about a movie that she saw with a mutual friend of ours and how good it was, she said “It was so good. You should really see it sometime.” Every time she does this it just makes me feel really sad and left out, and I don’t even want to pick up the phone anymore. It happens so often that at this point, it feels hurtful and most of all intentional.
Do keep in mind she is more extroverted than me. I tend to be a little bit more introverted because I struggle with depression and my social battery runs out really quickly. But I have shown her in the past that I do like to be included and when I am, I feel like I can put my problems aside so that we can all have fun together.
In my opinion, I think I’m being left out. Some might say that I need to be the one putting in the effort to making plans, but I do. Me and her are in a group chat together with a few other mutual friends, including the one that she just saw the movie with, and I tend to try to plan hangouts often. I just don’t try to anymore because I feel like they always fall through, even though the people that I’m in this group chat with often hang out a lot without me and I only find out about their hangouts until after it happened already. I suspect that they have a separate group chat without me in it on purpose.
Am I being overdramatic? Am I thinking too much about the situation or taking these things too personally? Or is this an issue on her part that I should address with her? I’m open to and would love any feedback, because to be honest sometimes it makes me feel like I’m going crazy.