How do I take the last step into getting over someone? 18F 19M
After a sudden and rough breakup caused by lack of communication on issues by 18F, a few months later she slides back in my DM giving small talk, and I decide to give her another chance. By this time, I had already gotten over her, but I still reminisced on just the feeling of having someone to love. We seperate again & about a month ago I learn that she hit my line not even a day after she broke up with someone. Even then, I had gotten quite an ick because of her superficiality and how selfish she is.
However, I still feel a longing to check on what she is doing, I'm quite an emotionally stable person and I am in touch with my feelings, I've already pinpointed that I probably miss the control I had about knowing what she was doing. (I was never controlling during the relationship, we had a lot of trust for each other)
Some details about her that I think contributes to me wanting to see what she's up to:
- she is very pretty, however in a way that mainly attracts me (she has a unique face that happens to be my type, I have overheard others referring to her as 'mid').
- her friends are a bad influence and frequently badmouthed me while we were in a relationship and overall contributed to her not communicating with me, instead seeking refuge in their 'advice'
- she goes to my school (i have graduated already and I am on a different continent)
- She would frequently make her instagram public which was so obvious that she wanted me to see it (one time I made mine public to test this and she immediately made hers public too), she doesn't do it anymore though.
I don't know. I'm already repulsed by her actions and how she treated me but I still check her socials often. I'd like for someone to maybe help me find something to stop this. I don't get sad at all, I just don't think this is the healthiest hobby to have.