27M Has been “Cheated” by a “Liar” 30F
Dont know if this belongs here but i need any advice you can provide.
I have broken up from my gf of 2 years for reasons i cant seem to remember, fast forward to 5 months we have met again on our common friend’s wedding in thailand, didnt talk much, went our seperate ways to do our own thing, after another 4-5 months, we became couple again, so a little more than 9 months we were not together i believe.
2 years of our current stable relationship, i kept asking her what happened on thailand, she kept saying nothing happened or what her history with men was, she kept insisting that she has been only with 3 guys before me.
Then i grilled her that someone already told me, what happened there, why does she kept lying about it, she said “**she was protecting me**”, i really didnt have a follow up question about that, thats it.
In my mind, i was just trying to create drama for us, i literally mean it, i was creating drama out of thin air since i was bored, i was actually hoping that she will just say her usual answers.
2 long years of stable relationship, im already 27 thinking about marrying this woman who i thought was my bestfriend, who i can tell anything to, we have already planned our wedding, nothing fancy, we will just go to a city hall, get officially married with our family and friends as witness, wait until we get financially capable to have a proper ceremony.
Im immature in so many ways, she was my first and was hoping my only girl.
I know its not cheating if we have broken up, but i still feel cheated.
TL;DR:
I broke up with girlfriend for reasons i barely remember, spent about 9 months apart, briefly crossed paths again at a wedding in Thailand, then eventually got back together and built a stable 2-year relationship while planning marriage. Out of boredom and wanting drama, i kept pressing her about what happened in Thailand that someone already told me what happened there and whether she lied about her past with men. After years of denying anything happened, she finally admitted she lied because she said she was “protecting” me — leaving me questioning the honesty and trust in a relationship i thought was completely open and headed toward marriage.
Is what im feeling really okay? I mean this hurts more than our first breakup, i know i manipulated to get the answer but it doesnt make the answer less painful, even sadder than the story of boku no pico, you guys should try to watch that.