A little about us. We’re been together for nine years and married for less than one. My wife lied to me about days and times that she took nude photos, that was my first clue. After 3 times of lying about the nudes I dug her old iPad out of storage, charged it and updated it. When I updated she was still logged into her Apple ID and every thing synced. I immediately found multiple nudes photos saved in her hidden album, some saved from messenger (I don’t have a Facebook or the messenger app) screenshots of communications between them and deleted texts that didn’t get deleted from recently deleted. The guy in question is old friend of hers, they used to hook up, and she has assured me there’s nothing to worry about. I stayed awake all night last night watching the exchanges on her messenger app. She works 12 hour shifts and that is when she does this. They talked about getting a hotel, she mentioned how she waits around for him to message her all day, and mentioned how she’s not happy and neither is he. I know I’m all over the place but I’ve never experienced this before so please bear with me. I found texts from Sunday morning at 1:30 where she sent an old video of us having sex then a video of her masturbating, then he sent a video of himself masturbating. She speaks to him primarily on Facebook messenger, even calls through the app, then deletes every morning or evening before she gets home. Any advice on what to do in terms of divorce? we have a daughter together and her live will be flipped upside down for sure but I can’t stay with someone who is doing this. She is literally sending nudes and talking about hotel meetups with guy then telling me she loves me more than anything.

My worst nightmare has manifested right before my eyes, and it feels all too real, even in this moment. The pain of betrayal is palpable, and I can hardly comprehend how deeply I’ve been hurt.

I was not only deceived and misled, but I was also subjected to gaslighting and treated with a shocking lack of respect. The gravity of the situation is compounded by the fact that there is actual footage of the infidelity occurring in her car, parked directly in my designated spot, just outside my front door. It’s a surreal and painful reality to confront, and I find myself shaking my head in disbelief.

It’s truly disheartening to reflect on the sad and desperate situation she has created for herself and for our family. To think that she believed this behavior was somehow appropriate or acceptable is beyond comprehension. As a parent, one is expected to uphold certain values and carry oneself with dignity. We have a daughter who looks up to us, and it is vital that she learns from our actions. I refuse to allow her to grow up thinking that filming inappropriate acts in the parking lot of her mother’s long-term boyfriend’s residence is a normal or healthy way to navigate relationships, let alone life itself.

Her judgment is seriously flawed, and it leaves me questioning whether the maternal instincts I once believed she possessed can outweigh the reckless decisions she has made. What on earth could have led her to think that this was acceptable? What part of her reasoning allowed her to justify such actions? I am left grappling with the questions of where, when, and how this all unfolded.

The situation did not end there, either. She continued to make questionable choices, frequenting hotels and storage facilities in a manner that raises further concern. At this point, I find myself questioning whether I want our daughter to be around her at all. The weight of this revelation is heavy, and it's hard to process.

I wish I could say that at least she received some form of compensation for the humiliation she has endured. Perhaps a small consolation prize for the degrading experience of being filmed in a car at nearly 30 years old. But honestly, I doubt that she did. What she seems to have gained instead is attention and a lifetime of potential blackmail. Allowing strangers to film intimate moments with her during the first hour of meeting them speaks volumes about her character—not just as a girlfriend or a wife, but as a mother as well.

I hope she feels a profound sense of shame and takes time to reflect on her choices. If nothing else, I would like to think that she has moments of clarity that remind her she is human. I wish that these reflections might lead her to reconsider the path she has chosen, as it is one that is far from dignified. I cannot help but feel a deep sense of sorrow for the person she has become, and the impact her actions will have on our daughter’s future.

My wife (31) and I (33) have been together for nearly 7 years, married since 2023. She struggled with drugs in her past but was sober and doing well for the most part since we've been together. Around the beginning of this year she started hanging out with these younger girls she works with (19 and 22 at the time).

She eventually started getting more and more distant from me, not coming home at night, etc. I found out she relapsed and started using cocaine and Adderall, and drinking heavily. I didn't handle things well at first and was angry at her for being so selfish.

Things have been up and down since, one day she'll say she's going to stop and the light in her eyes is back, like the old her. Then the next day she won't come home from work, tells me she hates me and then goes on a bender before eventually coming home and apologizing.

Monday, (it's Wednesday as of posting this) she admitted that she's been cheating on me with a 23 year old she met through the girls from work, and that it's happened several times since April. She says that she was blackout drunk when it happened, but in the same breath she said it wasn't just once.

She said she might be pregnant but the test was inconclusive, but its "almost definitely yours if I am).

I texted her and told her she needed to decide if she was going to stop all of this and come home or admit to herself that she was going to keep going until she hit rock bottom, she replied and said "I don’t know how stupid you think I am. I’m not I’m just selfish." I feel so incredibly broken right now, and have no idea what to do.

She calls me abusive and controlling because I want her to get sober and stop living like this. She's mad at her mom and her sister because they want her to get clean and try to fix things with me. Everyone that actually cares about her is telling her to just come home and get away from these young girls she's using with, but she won't listen to anyone.

She F/23 cheated I M/25 found out after our immigration interview should I divorce her now or not jeopardize her immigration status even tho thinking about her hurts. Meaning I would wait for her to get what she needs and then continue the divorce process

Hello, I think I need some advice. I’m 25, pregnant with my first child, and got married in the spring to the love of my life. We’d been dating over a year when we got married, and I’m literally about to pop. We live together, have two cats, etc etc.

I found out recently, after we got married/pregnant; that he’d cheated on his ex. A lot. And he’d lied about it to me. I have no evidence that he cheated on me, but I still feel like I’ve been stripped of my autonomy. Like he stole the choice from me by with holding information.

I found out yesterday, that a month into us officially seeing each other he was using dating apps. No messaging, no meeting, just for sexual gratification. That being said, it crosses my boundaries and I consider this cheating. Again, i was stripped of my autonomy.

He’s been very apologetic, understanding (bare minimum I know) and has made me feel seen, heard, reassured me he’s not that person anymore… but how can I trust him?

I’d like some genuine, useful advice on what to do. Thank you

So I was in a relationship for the past 10 years I'm 26 and she is 25. We were happy together we used to travel alot we both have good jobs and we were financially stable. I was doing everything to make her comfortable with me but 1 day we had a bit of an argument it was no man's fault we got carried over for a small argument. We were staying together I had been sick for some days and was waiting for the doctors appointment. She knew this and she continued arguing with me. I tried to stop that I said sorry for apparantly no reason then suddenly she said she is gonna stay at a friends home i begged her not to do that but she went. I was physically not fit to drive and go with her. Her friend was not at her home only her husband was there. They were also friends then he started comforting her and in that moment she forgot about me and had s*x with him. I feel completely betrayed next day she came back and apologized to me and told everything but it's just too much for me to handle. What should I do?

PS: I know this is vague but I'm in no state to explain everything and this happened 2 days ago

I am 34M, and I have relationship with that woman that I proposed, that lasts for 3 years. I recently discovered that my fiancèe cheated on me during her solo trip to Spain with a 22 year old last summer.

Dont ask me how i knew it but the important thing is I learned the truth. Mind you this happened on her FIRST night there when she was out alone and was apparently approached by that kid. What hurt me most is that she was blaming the situation on me and that she was unhappy with the relationship because we had many fights. And for her, it was logical to cheat.

Her exact words to the kid were : i enjoyed a lot when we had sex and i didnt feel guilty or think about him and so I made sure that we cant continue. And then this : I felt like I love you long time, maybe it wouldnt be the same with another boy but this is how I felt. It was brutal for me to see these. When these events happened she was calling me on video to make sure i didnt suspect anything and I love you so much texts. They were texting all the time during her stay there .

Then when she came back to Athens Gr, she offered to SEND him money because he was unemployed and living with his parents lol, and she was asking him to visit her in Athens where we LIVE TOGETHER. Meanwhile that 20 year old was broke as fuck, unemployed, and smoked weed all day. He never came and eventually she stopped texting him because for him it was just a fun fuck with an older girl.

Its funny because i was always providing her money, helping her in difficult situations, bringing her home every night, supportive, paying the bills and because i though she loved me, I proposed her earlier this year before I knew all that. But to this child, she offered to do all that after 1 day.

I am devastated and I feel completely dissarayed. I dont know how to handle the situation, and how to confront her about this. It will be impossible to trust her again or any other girl for that matter. Any advice will be appreciated.

My girlfriend told me yesterday that she cheated on me out the blue but then switched it real fast and made it seem like she was just joking. Should I start building my Rico or do nothing and just trust that it was all just a joke

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year, and I’m trying to figure out whether I’m giving him another chance because I genuinely believe in us, or because I’ve become used to accepting things I shouldn’t.

About 5 months into the relationship, he kissed another woman and told her she could touch him.
In another situation, he kissed me and slept with her the very next day.
I stayed and forgave him.

Since then, there have been other things that have made me question his respect for me. I found an old chat where a female friend was asking what he even saw in me and joking that I probably “smelled like cheese.” He didn’t shut it down. I also found messages where he referred to another married woman as his “girlfriend” and asked ChatGPT to treat his girlfriend well.

He still hasn’t told his parents about me. The timeline has gone from “two years” to “September” to “next year.” We’ve now started couples therapy, and my therapist told me to stop telling him what he needs to do and let him show me through his own actions.

I Q loved him, but I’m exhausted. I need actions, not promisesq.
If you were me, would you give this relationship another chance, or walk away?

my boyfriend cheated on me with his ex girlfriend? although it seems I️ was the other woman

This makes me sick to my stomach but I️ know I️ need to tell someone.

My ex boyfriend and I️ broke up in January. It was random. We were planning to move in together in February. I️ was extremely heartbroken. He randomly blocked me which led to me calling him on unknown numbers just trying to understand why he broke up with me.

He would reach out and ask to get back together and I️ would say no. I️ tried my best to move on and even dated two people briefly. I️ told him about the other two people whenever he would consider reconciliation.

He told me he hasn’t seen anyone since we broke up and that it felt like cheating to him. to me, this was hard to believe and I️ even told him that. We eventually got back together around the end of May.

We have been extremely happy together, or so I️ thought. I️ was trying to be very patient with him and a way better partner than who I️ was when we originally dated. he even was telling me how perfect I️ was and how he wanted to marry me and all sorts of nonsense.

There were some red flags as his phone was constantly in do not disturb while with me. He refused to ever use his phone for carplay - for directions or to play music. he would say it’s because he wanted me to be the DJ, which was funny since I️ love taylor swift and he does not.

I️ found some objects at his apartment that didn’t appear to be his. he also was following his ex girlfriend on spotify. they broke up four years ago and she honestly isn’t that attractive so I️ didn’t think she was a threat (dumb I️ know and shallow of me).

I️ kept asking him if he really didn’t see anyone else when we were broken up and he said no over and over. I️ would ask about his phone being on do not disturb and he kept saying he got “too many spam calls”. i’m not sure anyone gets spam calls at 10pm.

The worst part is that I️ found out after bringing him to my friends wedding. I️ actually found out in the car driving home from the wedding with my friend also in the car with us.

at the wedding he was telling my friends how much he messed up losing me and how much he cares and loves me. he even was planning our wedding with me.

in the car, my phone had no service and he was refusing to use it for directions. eventually he ended up plugging in his phone . I️ was sitting in the back seat with my dog while my friend was in the passenger seat.

I️ had to convince him to let me play music on spotify. I️ then saw them messaging each other on spotify (I️ knew his ex girlfriend’s name). it also told me the songs were sent off of spotify.

he started begging for his phone back and I️ said no. that I️ know he’s cheating. at this point he started panicking and crying. he kept saying she’s just a friend and he loves me and I️ need to give him his phone back.

he pulled over to the side of the highway and demanded I️ give his phone back. my friend stepped in and said I️ deserve the truth.

I️ went through their messages and saw that he cheated on me several times. he was driving all the way from boston to maine to see her. he kept telling me he was going to his family’s lake house in maine. i sent myself her number. it turns out they have been seeing each other since march. and his family even knows about her.

she told me she doesn’t even care for him. and that he knows that. I️ feel so heartbroken.

he eventually told me the truth and told me that he’s a bad person and he doesn’t know why he did this because he loves me. I️ feel confused because technically, i’m kind of the other woman, but I️ thought I️ was his girlfriend? I️ really love him and even threw up from stress the night I️ found all of this out.

i’m really not sure what i’m looking for but this definitely helped writing it out

Problem/Goal:
As promised, ito na yung full detailed story time of how everything went down. It got so much worse , kase I found out more.

The cheating actually started last May. My ex and this girl started talking non and nagkita rin sila. I found out back then, ai didn’t do anything yet, bigla na lang sya umamin out of nowhere. He claimed he "took care of it," talked to the girl, told her he had a girlfriend, and cut her off.

Guess what? little did I know, aware pala to si kabit sakin. She knew we were still together, but she went for it still.

Nung nalaman ko na niloloko nila ko parehas, it changed everything. From my first post, wala akong pake sa girl kasi sakin, dinamay lang sya nito ni ex. Pero knowing that these two are having a whole affair while he was still with me? I decided I was going after both of them.

Context:
I LET HIN DIG HIS OWN GRAVE. I played it cool. Kunyari we’re good lang ni ex. nag agree ako sa lahat ng sinasabi nya hahaha that mf thinks I will agree sa sick terms nya. Get this, yung "terms" nya is kami still, while keeping the “easy” kabit, kase pumapayag lang nga naman sya whatever sabihin ni ex hahaha. And me? oo lang ng oo, kunyari goods. He really thought he won.

So feel nya safe place na nga, sinasabi nya mga plans nya and all nasty things about kay kabit, and of course, sino may screenshot nito? ako rin hahaha. My ex also kept lying to her, telling her that he and I were already broken up or mag bbreak, kasi waiting for her turn na si kabit eh hahahaha (even though we were very much together, and alam din ni kabit).

Previous attempts:
Yung plan ko talaga initially was to separate them so I could focus on pinning him down alone, without involving si kabit. I reached out to her just to clear things up and gather proof for my proof na isasampal kay ex. During our chat, I explicitly told her that he and I were very much together, and she fully acknowledged it. I even forwarded her my screenshots of his actual plans and how he trash-talks her, just to warn her for awareness.

Pero nagulat talaga ko how low and brainless tong si kabit. Literally A DAY AFTER knowing the truth, she was right back up in my ex's ass anyway. Kahit may screenshots and photos, she still chose to believe that liar na wala sa kanya sinabing totoo simula una hahahaha. In the span of 2 days, 4x na ata sila nag break at nag balikan, pero naniwala pa rin siya kasi akala niya “genuine” si ex hahahaha kakahiya at nakakaaw, nag aabang pa si kabit ng “explanation” sa intentions nya raw hahahaha

It gets worse, zero self-respect and di pa girls girl. Palaban pa yan, she doesn't care and leave her out of it daw, tapos kausap pa ex ko while we’re together at the time, tapos sabi ko pa wag sabihin for my safety, dedma sha, focus sya kay ex hahaha

so eto na nalaman na ni ex I reached out and completely exposed his words to his mistress, he lost his absolute mind. He got so mad, accusing me of "ruining his reputation" (siniraan ko daw siya hahahaha) and twisting things. I LEFT THEM FIGHTING sa mga sarili nilang shit HAHAHAHAH

I didn't even waste my breath arguing. Sinend ko lang yung screenshots nila sa bawat isa. It was beautiful. Watching his lies collapse right in front of him made him cry, nag panic eh hahahaha

Moving forward:
Sobrang gulo ng mundo nila and I am so glad I am no longer a part of it.

To J (kabit): Good luck babe hahaha tapang tapangan saying u don’t care, pero waiting for my leftovers. All yours babe 🫶

Again, thank you so much to all the ate's and tita's here who gave me advice and had my back when I felt like I had no one.

*DISCLAIMER*** long thread ahead** ⚠️

My sister moved in with me and my boyfriend about two years ago.
At the time, I was pregnant with our first child and my sister and I were really close. Her roommates were trying to upcharge her on rent and she didn’t really have anywhere else to go, so obviously I let her move in with us.
She’s always been the party type. She loves going out, drinking with her friends, coming home with some crazy story. I actually loved hearing about her nights out.
A couple months after she moved in, one night she came home drunk and I was the only one awake. We ended up sitting on the couch talking for hours.
Somewhere in that conversation, she admitted to me that she had slept with multiple friends’ boyfriends and even some of their husbands.
I remember judging her HARD in my head, but I laughed about it with her. She’s my little sister. I love her. I support her even when I don’t agree with what she’s doing.
But I never forgot that conversation.
And then I started noticing things.
Sometimes my sister and I would be getting ready in her room and she’d be changing. My boyfriend would try to come in and I’d tell him, “She’s literally naked, get out.”
And he’d still come in.
The first time he did it, he acted surprised.
“Oh shit.”
I brushed it off.
Then it happened again.
And then a third time.
And that’s when I started thinking, why are you so comfortable just walking into her room while she’s changing?
But I didn’t say anything.
Because what was I supposed to say?
“Hey, I think you might be attracted to my sister”?
I convinced myself I was being paranoid.
Then, about a month ago, I was doing laundry and found two pairs of my sister’s underwear in my basket.
I just stared at them for a second.
Then I told myself it was nothing.
We all lived together. Clothes get mixed up.
Whatever.
About a week later, I’m picking clothes up off the floor and I find my sister’s shirt and sandals.
She had worn that outfit the night before. I knew because she’d actually asked me if I thought her outfit was cute before she left.
My daughter and I had gone out that night and didn’t get home until around 2 AM.
And I remember looking at those clothes and thinking…
No.
Don’t go there.
That’s your sister.
But the thought was already there.
What if?
No.
She would never do that to me.
…would she?
The next day, I was rearranging my bedroom and had to move my mattress off the bed frame.
I slid the mattress forward.
And something caught my eye.
I reached down between the mattress and the headboard.
It was my sister’s pants.
The exact pants she’d been wearing the night before.
And then I saw her thong.
I just stood there.
I don’t even know how long.
Because suddenly every weird little thing I’d ignored started playing in my head at once.
The underwear.
The clothes.
Him walking into her room.
Every time they’d been alone together.
And I remember thinking, How could they even do this?
In my house?
While I’m here?
My boyfriend was out of town for work at the time, and my sister had just left for the weekend to stay with her best friend.
I wanted to confront them.
But then I thought…
No.
I needed to know.
So I decided to set them up.
The morning before my boyfriend got home, I told him I was going out to eat with my mom and daughter and wouldn’t be home.
He said that was fine and that he’d probably shower and rest when he got back.
My daughter was already staying with her grandma that night.
Everything was basically perfect.
Then, as I was leaving, I saw my sister pulling into the driveway.
She honked at me and rolled her window down.
I swear I had to act completely normal.
I asked her how her weekend was.
She told me all about it, then asked where I was going.
I told her I was going out with my mom.
She said she’d come, but she was hungover and wanted to go inside and take a nap.
I smiled.
“Okay.”
But inside I was thinking, please don’t.
A couple hours later, my boyfriend texted me.
“I’m home.”
I told him I was still out.
Then I left my mom’s.
The drive home was only about 30 minutes.
It felt like three hours.
I kept thinking maybe I was wrong.
Maybe I was about to ruin everything over nothing.
Then I turned onto our street.
And I saw both cars.
My boyfriend’s.
And my sister’s.
I didn’t pull into the driveway.
I parked a few houses down.
I walked up to the house and tried the front door.
Locked.
My heart was pounding so hard.
I took out my key, unlocked the door and quietly walked inside.
Our rooms were upstairs.
I started walking up the stairs as quietly as I could.
Thank God our stairs were carpeted.
I got to my bedroom door.
And stopped.
I could hear them.
I don’t even know how to explain that feeling.
All the sadness I’d been holding onto suddenly turned into anger.
I opened the door.
And there they were.
My sister.
My boyfriend.
Naked.
Together.
I completely lost it.
My parents had to be called because things got so bad they had to separate me from them.
I left that same night.
I haven’t spoken to my sister since.
My ex has begged and begged for his family back, but I don’t care anymore. The only relationship I have with him now is coparenting our daughter.
We have a court date next month for custody.
And honestly?
The part that hurts the most isn’t even that they slept together.
It’s that I trusted both of them.
I let my sister move into my home.
I trusted my boyfriend.
I was pregnant with his child.
And apparently, the two people I trusted most were the exact two people I needed to worry about.
I still replay that night in my head sometimes.
Especially the moment I opened that door.
I don’t think I’ll ever forget it.
Would you have done what i did?

I (30M) discovered that my 8 years girlfriend (28F) has cheated on me all through the first year of our relationship.

I have the bad habit to check her phone from time to time. It started several years ago with me suspecting her of being dishonest about her doings while she was on Erasmus in a foreign country. There was a guy she was pretty close with, and during her exchange I asked her if there was anything and shared my jealousy. I didn't want to be comforted but the truth. At this time she assured me that there was nothing, not even some attraction between them. But I couldn't shake the uneasiness I was feeling. My GF and the guy (23M at the time), was doing all sorts of activities, going to watch sunsets, doing sports, going to the beach or watching movies during the evening.

So I checked her phone when she came back from that exchange. "I really want to fvck one of my friend".

I found this message in a conversation with her two best friends. I confronted her about who this friend was. It happened to be the guy that made me insecure all this time.

I mostly felt betrayed because of the lie, not because she felt attraction to another guy. Also because I realized that I will never have a truthful answer about what happened. Since then we moved on.

The cheating that happened was with her previous sxxfriend. She dated a guy (28M) before we got together. I've learned about him two years into the relationship, because she asked me if it was okay if he spent the night at her place. I wasn't comfortable at that time, but I thanked her for coming to me. She told me that he was just a friend since with been together and nothing else. She kept seeing him occasionally for a drink. The only issue I had with this is the labeling of their relationship. She kept saying, "a friend", but he was more than a friend from my POV because they used to fvck. It was an issue every time she met him until she admitted that even though they were friends now, I couldn't see him as her other male friends. Whom she didn't have sxx with.

This is it for the long context explanation. A few days ago I went through her phone, and saw that she was still talking to the "previous sxxfriend". With some morbid curiosity I scrolled through the text, there was nothing special in the text just two friends talking. However I couldn't explain why I checked messages from 6-7 years ago. And saw that she was still flirting with him at that time. I've discovered that she kept seeing him romantically for the first year of our relationship. And she kept asking him "when do we see each other" even after. And this until he talked to her about me. He learned through a common friend that she had a boyfriend. And she stopped asking him to see him.

I feel greatly betrayed and confused. It has been so long since it happened, she is not the same woman and I'm not the same man. But still, all those lies. I don't know what to do. Do I confront her, do I break up, can I keep on with our relationship without saying anything ? If she did it once did it happen again after with someone else ?

Thank you for reading through my rambling and for your advice. Please excuse my poor writing, english is my secondary language.

Together 3 years, near marriage, found out a month ago

I found out early July that my boyfriend of 3 years was cheating on me with a younger girl he works with. I have gone through every emotion several times, I've had good days and horrible days. I am currently in the process of moving out of the apartment we shared and I feel now just as bad as I did when I first found out. I am still crying even on my good days, it comes out of nowhere. I should feel worse when I talk to him but I don't, the few times we've had to chat to work out logistical stuff my body has relaxed like he was my home. But he also feels like a stranger.

He told me the morning I found out that he doesn't know when he stopped loving me. Then a week later he told me he did love me, regretted everything, and still wanted to be a part of my life one day. After that he got second thoughts again, then a week or so later apparently made up his mind, broke it off with the girl, and told me he loved me and was committed to me. I am not proud to say I entertained it because it made me feel less helpless and it was easier than feeling the pain- it gave me the power to determine what I actually want to do. But the literal next day he said that he did need space and it "wasn't fair" for him to try to work on US while he was in the headspace he was in. I was back to feeling helpless.

I finally told him that even if he does love me, I can never forgive him and after everything with the apartment is done I need to be rid of him to heal. I didn't really mean it when I sent it, but I knew I had to do it and that eventually it would be true. I thought that was the way to regain some control over my life. Only now he's acting aloof, surgical, and super distant when trying to organize logistical stuff (I wasn't at my best, I had moments where I would text about logistical stuff as an excuse to segue into whatever else I was feeling- but sometimes it truly was just logistics). Saying he doesn't want to talk casually and doesn't want me to be in the apartment if he needs to come by.

I agreed that it would be easier to not have to see each other, I'm the one that said it in the first place, and I told him I was never going to ambush him or force him to see me. But why does *he* get to say that? I hate how hard it is to stand by what I said and not miss him, and to not feel a bit stung by the fact that he just accepted it and is now acting like he never wanted anything to do with me anyway.

On top of the original pain now I feel ashamed of wanting him to keep fighting for me so that I can feel less helpless and less unwanted. But he did what he did and every time I think about it I feel sick. How long is this pain going to last? Which feeling is going to last the longest? Right now I feel like it's the anger. I really just need some reassuring words to let me know that it's okay that I am still feeling so horrible over a month in.

Me (19f) and my boyfriend (19m) have been dating for a year now. I met him when I was sixteen but he had a girlfriend at the time, so I fell back. In February of 2025, I messaged him and we’ve been in cahoots since. We broke up that summer because he said he needed to “focus on himself and his goals.” I believed him like an idiot and he started texting me again towards the middle/end of July. We got back together in August and everything was okay from there. At the end of April this year (2026) I got a text from a girl (it was his ex) asking me if I was talking to him and I answered yes. She told me that they’d been messing around since June of 2925 and that he’d disguised me in his phone as a family member. She made me call his phone to which he didn’t answer because she said she was sitting right next to him. My heart broke into a million pieces and I’d blocked him on everything that same night. He reached out to me through a game and was adamant on him being at work that night and everything I was told was a lie. I believed him and he suggested we take a break from our relationship because I didn’t trust him.

The next month (May) was filled with silence from both of us, only texting every few days. More effort from my end of course. I started to notice things on social media like him following her and he’d reposted a post of hers she made in December. We spent Christmas together btw. I called him out on it and he said just because he did that it doesn’t mean he’s messing around with her. I didn’t believe that shit. I’d be stupid as fuck to believe some shit like that, but I let it go because I’m in love with him. That all happened in May of this year (2026).

June (2026) came around and I moved back home (the city we met in). We were long distance btw. I’m closer to where he lived now because I was pursuing a job in the city in which he stayed. I texted him subtly letting him know I was around (like a dumbass) and we caught back up again. We ended up meeting, talked for a bit, got back together, then went our separate ways. The next few days/week we spent together and I was so happy. I found solace in his presence, forgetting everything about the whole ex situation. I fell vulnerable and opened my heart and body up to him once more. But I just found out (August 2026) that he has me blocked on social media (masking it as him deleting his accounts) and he was reposting about wanting to get back with his ex 3 days after we’d spent time in each other’s presence (in June 2026). I feel used and disrespected like he was using me to distract himself of memories of his ex. They weren’t following each other on social anymore now and he pointed out to me that he blocked her. Not ever did I think my first love would go like this. I didn’t give up my virginity for this. I’m feeling an aching pain in my chest once again and I’m realizing now why a lot of people say love isn’t enough.

I have the thought to break up with him and let him go for good since he clearly isn’t healed and wants to be with someone else, but he’s my first everything. I want him to be my forever, so I’ve been trying to make it work. I’m conflicted on what I should do since the reposts are from two months ago and I feel like we’re in a better place right now.

So my husband and I have been married for about 10 years with 2 kids. My daughter is about to turn 7 and my husband yesterday brought up the most hurtful accusation. He thinks i cheated on him with a coworker 7 years ago and my daughter isnt his. (Not to mention she looks like him!!!) Ive never cheated on my husband. This coworker he speaks of was never someone i would even seak a relationship with if single. It just doesnt make sense to me that hes accusing me of cheating 7 whole years later. He states hes been holding it in this whole time. Now he has me thinking that he may be cheating. Am i crazy to think that??? Advice please. Im so so hurt by all this. I told him that im willing to give him any test to prove i didnt cheat, whether its a paternity, lie detector, all my social media passwords, phone records, anything.

So I 46(M) caught my wife 45(F) talking with several different guys on several platforms . She was in a special relationship with some guy in Spain , we live in the states btw, for about a year and was telling him she loved him , I also found her looking for plane tickets and air b nb out there as well. She was having the emotional affairs for about a year and a half before I caught her. She was using Snapchat, Skype, google chat , telegram, signal, Instagram, and tik tok. I am a small business owner and I have no idea about social media and all this stuff , but basically I haven’t been the same after all this . I caught her about 6 months ago but I think about this constantly and I can’t wrap my head around it . Like after 2 decades with this person I thought we had made it and tbh never had any doubts in her whatsoever. I haven’t told anybody around me because I realize nothing physical took place but it still feels like a big knife in the back. I have been a broken man since this happened and now I am insecure about damn near everything. Please can anyone give some advice please ?I can’t focus on my work or anything else for that matter , this was a bit of a reality check though I am assuming I got too comfortable.Up until this point everything she says feels like bs