My wife relapsed and cheated on me
My wife (31) and I (33) have been together for nearly 7 years, married since 2023. She struggled with drugs in her past but was sober and doing well for the most part since we've been together. Around the beginning of this year she started hanging out with these younger girls she works with (19 and 22 at the time).
She eventually started getting more and more distant from me, not coming home at night, etc. I found out she relapsed and started using cocaine and Adderall, and drinking heavily. I didn't handle things well at first and was angry at her for being so selfish.
Things have been up and down since, one day she'll say she's going to stop and the light in her eyes is back, like the old her. Then the next day she won't come home from work, tells me she hates me and then goes on a bender before eventually coming home and apologizing.
Monday, (it's Wednesday as of posting this) she admitted that she's been cheating on me with a 23 year old she met through the girls from work, and that it's happened several times since April. She says that she was blackout drunk when it happened, but in the same breath she said it wasn't just once.
She said she might be pregnant but the test was inconclusive, but its "almost definitely yours if I am).
I texted her and told her she needed to decide if she was going to stop all of this and come home or admit to herself that she was going to keep going until she hit rock bottom, she replied and said "I don’t know how stupid you think I am. I’m not I’m just selfish." I feel so incredibly broken right now, and have no idea what to do.
She calls me abusive and controlling because I want her to get sober and stop living like this. She's mad at her mom and her sister because they want her to get clean and try to fix things with me. Everyone that actually cares about her is telling her to just come home and get away from these young girls she's using with, but she won't listen to anyone.