my boyfriend cheated on me with his ex girlfriend?
my boyfriend cheated on me with his ex girlfriend? although it seems I️ was the other woman
This makes me sick to my stomach but I️ know I️ need to tell someone.
My ex boyfriend and I️ broke up in January. It was random. We were planning to move in together in February. I️ was extremely heartbroken. He randomly blocked me which led to me calling him on unknown numbers just trying to understand why he broke up with me.
He would reach out and ask to get back together and I️ would say no. I️ tried my best to move on and even dated two people briefly. I️ told him about the other two people whenever he would consider reconciliation.
He told me he hasn’t seen anyone since we broke up and that it felt like cheating to him. to me, this was hard to believe and I️ even told him that. We eventually got back together around the end of May.
We have been extremely happy together, or so I️ thought. I️ was trying to be very patient with him and a way better partner than who I️ was when we originally dated. he even was telling me how perfect I️ was and how he wanted to marry me and all sorts of nonsense.
There were some red flags as his phone was constantly in do not disturb while with me. He refused to ever use his phone for carplay - for directions or to play music. he would say it’s because he wanted me to be the DJ, which was funny since I️ love taylor swift and he does not.
I️ found some objects at his apartment that didn’t appear to be his. he also was following his ex girlfriend on spotify. they broke up four years ago and she honestly isn’t that attractive so I️ didn’t think she was a threat (dumb I️ know and shallow of me).
I️ kept asking him if he really didn’t see anyone else when we were broken up and he said no over and over. I️ would ask about his phone being on do not disturb and he kept saying he got “too many spam calls”. i’m not sure anyone gets spam calls at 10pm.
The worst part is that I️ found out after bringing him to my friends wedding. I️ actually found out in the car driving home from the wedding with my friend also in the car with us.
at the wedding he was telling my friends how much he messed up losing me and how much he cares and loves me. he even was planning our wedding with me.
in the car, my phone had no service and he was refusing to use it for directions. eventually he ended up plugging in his phone . I️ was sitting in the back seat with my dog while my friend was in the passenger seat.
I️ had to convince him to let me play music on spotify. I️ then saw them messaging each other on spotify (I️ knew his ex girlfriend’s name). it also told me the songs were sent off of spotify.
he started begging for his phone back and I️ said no. that I️ know he’s cheating. at this point he started panicking and crying. he kept saying she’s just a friend and he loves me and I️ need to give him his phone back.
he pulled over to the side of the highway and demanded I️ give his phone back. my friend stepped in and said I️ deserve the truth.
I️ went through their messages and saw that he cheated on me several times. he was driving all the way from boston to maine to see her. he kept telling me he was going to his family’s lake house in maine. i sent myself her number. it turns out they have been seeing each other since march. and his family even knows about her.
she told me she doesn’t even care for him. and that he knows that. I️ feel so heartbroken.
he eventually told me the truth and told me that he’s a bad person and he doesn’t know why he did this because he loves me. I️ feel confused because technically, i’m kind of the other woman, but I️ thought I️ was his girlfriend? I️ really love him and even threw up from stress the night I️ found all of this out.
i’m really not sure what i’m looking for but this definitely helped writing it out