Some Millenial Friendship Drama
AskReddit has a post currently: What is that one thing a friend ever did and you kept cool but knew instantly you would pull out of that friendship?
i wrote a bunch and at the end, i realized 'hey this doesnt answer the question at all!' but didnt want to waste it so here ya go
tl;dr: two friends, didnt keep my cool, instantly pulled out of one friendship and slowly cooked another
best friend(L) for twenty years and another friend(M) that i've known prolly as long. my irl friends and i (all of us in our 30s, minus my teenage brother) have a mutual discord server. this all took place there but most of us hung out irl most weekends.
i said to everyone: 'hey, im gonna try streaming for a year. looking for work sucks and my wife is supporting me in this. you enjoy me streaming to you guys anyway. mind giving me a follow so i can get affiliated quicker?'
everyone except M followed. a few days go by, i ask him if he could follow me please im almost at what i need. he says no and i said lol why?
he wrote me fucking nine paragraphs about how i just want to play video games, it would be unethical to support me, i should just get a job and his relative did it and it ruined their marriage... i argued with him about it for way too long and i really shouldve dropped it and the friendship there immediately, by thats not the focus.
the drama had spilled into our discord and everyone thought this whole thing was really dumb cause all it was was a follow and the tiniest bit of support.
i started talking to L during this and he told me to stop being a brat. he then started talking to my wife in the discord saying that she resents me. so i transferred the server to someone else and left. while L kept drilling it home. seriously pissed my wife off. and then his wife sent me a long ass goofy letter.
a week later, another mutual bud was real depressed over the loss of his other friend, so i went to hang out with him. L showed up too, it was cordial, he apologized.
i figured we'd been through worse as friends so we'll keep in touch and hang out again eventually. never hung out again. id send him memes and we traded funny stories once or twice. i sent him a lot more messages than he sent me.
i eventually realized he has zero interest in this friendship anymore.
streaming sucks, i dont do that anymore. it was a good time for a bit but my only viewers were my friends and i dont always like entertaining. started coding more. L's a tech guy so i sent some cool projects i made to him, no replies. like a legitimately cool project i knew he would appreciate, a week went by and i said fuck this, blocked and moved on.
the rest of the group is still together and thriving without them. we hang out less but i also dont really drink anymore. i also realized we havent had a single argument amongst us since. trying to get employed in dev but hoo boy it is rough.
thanks for reading