u/78Fern

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Coping with loss of parent

My mother passed away in Late February. I am dealing with her cremains this week. She never failed to tell me how much she did not like me since I was a child. Nevertheless I still cared about her. I realize this is an unresolved issue.
I am trying to grieve and my husband is spending this time provoking me. Last week he was loving and kind and this week he is someone else. He pushes me until I get mad. I am considering kicking him out. It is becoming a pattern with him. Is this a grief reaction?

I just want to get my mother’s cremains in the ground. I want to do this peacefully without dealing with his provoking behavior.
It’s like clockwork. Every 3 to 4 weeks he does this. He denies it and blames me. Im exhausted.
I can feel myself shutting down.

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u/78Fern — 5 days ago