My[30F] MIL[63]’s BF[63M] keeps invading my personal space, how do I handle it?
Background: My husband\[30M\] and I have been married 6 years and have two kids, \[4F\] and \[1M\]. Both he and I lost our fathers in our early twenties, we were already dating when they passed. Both our mothers have since been in other relationships with varying degrees of success. My mother\[58F\] dated an alcoholic, but my siblings and I threatened to cut her off from out kids as we all felt he was dangerous and he had proved this by pulling a “pewpew” on a family friend when said friend told him to quit being disrespectful with my mom. My mom at this point had had enough and promptly dumped him. My MIL has also had a BF/fiancé for the last three years. He has always made me highly uncomfortable and I have never had a specific reason other than woman’s intuition.
This past weekend my eldest had her first horse show and we all attended, my mom and eldest sister, her three boys, who were all competing, and my MIL and her BF. I am still breastfeeding my youngest in addition to him eating solids. My mom, sister and I were going to stay till the end of the event for the prize giving, but my MIL and her BF were going home after my daughter’s events. When it came time for them to leave I was laying down at the back of our gazebo, breastfeeding my son. My MIL popped in her head to say goodbye and her boyfriend crouched down beside my head and said goodbye and thanked me for inviting them, ect. I was very uncomfortable as I couldn’t move without exposing myself and he was taking his sweet time about saying goodbye. This left me feeling disgusted and violated. When they were gone my mother was appalled and asked if this is something he does a lot and I realised that it was. When we got home after the event I broke down in my husbands arms as I was tired and stressed from the events of the day and I told him everything. He proceeded to tell me that it couldn’t be so bad and that if it bothered me that I should do something about it. I don’t know what to do about the BF and I feel my husband is not seeing the gravity of the situation.