u/AMothersMagik

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A couple of questions....

Edited for spelling/grammar errors 😅 its seven am. Im not awake 😆

Okay, so, two big questions. One, for the March event, the cherry blossom, we got the challenge badge. We got one for the Oz thing, too, but we also got that wall decor piece that matches the pin. Was there a wall decor piece for the cherry blossom one?? Did i miss it?? Cuz I would have LOVED a wall decor piece of my Flora dancing in the petals!!!

Second question about shared goals.

Okay, I made a post about backing away from sending daily vibes for a bit because im entering a chaotic period of time in my life. I'll be back, but I wanted to let my tree peeps know that I was first of all okay and, second of all, not ignoring them or going inactive permanently. I just know myself well enough to conserve my energy where I can to complete the Humungous tasks we have coming up. So....I made the post. Then, I made a daily goal (see attached photo) that I then shared with as many Cheepity Peeps as I could ( I was surprised! Ive never done a shared goal just for tracking progress rather than budding up to do the goal together, so I was all prepped to have to make multiple goals to tell each peeps, but was super grateful that progress tracking goals can be shared with multiple cheeps!). How can I tell if they've seen it? Like, for them to show up in the list of peeps I shared it with (in the editing of the goal page, it says "shared with...." and then a list of my peeps i sent it too, but it certainly isnt every cheep) do they have to accept the share request? Or are they in there regardless?

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u/AMothersMagik — 1 day ago
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Trying Not To Cause A Scene....

EDIT: (sorry it took so long, was on the phone, obviously, and then had to dash to work) We have gotten on with the vet. Based on security cameras we have determined the cat got to the flower bwtween midnight and 1:12am. Vet says not to panic if cat isnt already showing problems, as its bee over 8 hrs. They gave me a list of symptoms and signs to watch for but said otherwise not to panick. Addtl edit: I also want to clarify. I summarized events to keep the post slightly shorter, initially, but my son did in fact pick this flower on Friday, and said it was for Mothers Day. (He has no sense of time, part of his AuDHD, and hasn't quite yet nailed down his days of the week. He just knew mothers day was this weekend. To him, as a homeschooled kid, the weekend is Friday/Saturday/Sunday). Sunday morning we had decided to preserve it so we had already hung it in our drying rack at the very top of our biggest window. Im still not even sure how the cat got it down. My husband, after id left for work today, did go looking to see if he could figure it out. He didnt, but he DID find 2 more petals, mostly dry, just like the one still attached. So it seems like she may have just played with them, not eaten them. We updated the vet and they said the petals being partially dry will also help the risk factor go down.

At 613am. Im the only one awake.

I got up ahead of everyone else so I could take a shower. Im a mom of two. Its been a very long hard journey to get here. Been through a lot. As a person and as a family.

We are at the bottom of the financial totem pole. We are poor. We are broke. We are all the things.

Im the primary money maker. I literally save all year for us just to be able to get ONE present for each of the kids for their birthdays/Christmas.

Which is why, even though it does sometimes make me sad, we never do anything for pretty much any other holiday. Including Mothers Day. And my birthday goes by unnoticed most years too.

My kids are too young to really understand (7 with special needs, and not even a year and a half). And my husband is not great at planning and has no money for gifts.

So most years, special days for me mean I get to sleep in a tiny bit on the day, and come home from work to a homemade cake or my favorite meal and a relatively clean house and he does what he can to keep the kids off me for the day so I can enjoy my own pursuits or just relax. This is enough for me 🥰🥰 The love of my family and a bit of being able to self care and put my load down for the day.

I work VERY hard to make sure my family has everything they need. Not everything we want, thats for sure. But everything we NEED is covered and there without fail. Sometimes I feel so underapprrciated. Burnt out. Overlooked. Unloved.

Its not true. But that doesnt prevent me from feeling it sometimes.

This year was different slightly. This year my son remembered Mothers Day. This year he saw the most beautiful red and yellow tulip growing in our yard and demanded Daddy cut it and put it in a vase for Mommy. Its was so beautiful! And so sweet....

This morning I woke up to the attached picture. The stupid cats ate my flower. 😭😭

So now im venting to yall and trying not to cry or scream in frustration and wake everyone up at quarter after six in the morning.

How come everytime something nice that is meant for me, it always has to go sideways?

And why am I so stupidly upset over a damn flower 😅😭

u/AMothersMagik — 9 days ago