u/Ab1snail

Hello all, I really need some help making a decision. I been feeling really awful recently and really don’t know what to do. I’ve been with my boyfriend S for 1 year. We get on okay but lately I’ve been feeling like I need to leave.
I am quite an insecure individual and need words of affirmation and to spend quality time together to feel loved. He isn’t good with words or feelings and other than saying ‘I love you’ he doesn’t really say anything sweet or nice to me. I have spoken to him about this before but it doesn’t really seem to get better. When we spend a weekend apart, I’ll ask if he missed me and he will say ‘yes, it was weird without you’ but give me nothing else, he also doesn’t really express a desire to spend time with me.
A couple of months ago we talked about moving in together and agreed it was time. Since then he seems to be dragging his feet, every time I mention he says he wants to but just isn’t looking forward to the actual move.
On top of this. Our sex life is not how I want it. We have sex once a week, I always try to initiate more (he said he’d be up for it) but then never wants to. He has ED but we don’t have to just have penetration. I’m unsatisfied with this.
I am left feeling, unloved, unwanted and undesired.
The issue is I have a really hard time meeting people. I have only met a handful of people in my life that don’t drain my social battery and he is one.
He is my first relationship in 5 years and I spent so long looking for someone I liked, was attracted to and had things in common with. I thought he was the one. Now I don’t know. I’m scared that if I end this, I’ll never meet someone else.
Help!

Hello, I’m posting here because I really don’t know what to do. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now and I’m having some doubts about the relationship. I had a difficult upbringing and as a result am looking for a relationship that has the once in a lifetime kind of feel. My boyfriend was married before, this was a very short and coerced marriage and as a result I felt it was insignificant enough to not be an issue. Fast forward to now, it was recently the anniversary of his wedding and he’s admitted to feeling sadness and grief around it not working out and never coming back.
I’m not sure I want to be with and potentially marry someone who holds sadness about a relationship with another woman. I want to be with only significant relationship to him and him to me. Is this unrealistic, or is it okay to want to break up and have the opportunity to have this with someone else?
Point to add - he is also a bit emotionally closed off and not lovely, this doesn’t help me with my insecurity as I struggle to feel loved.
More info - I had a previous 5 year relationship and we broke up 1 month before our wedding because I was worried he wasn’t the one.