Any advice is appreciated; (Be nice) (Mentions of ADHD, so please experts, I'm counting on you ;) )
Ok, so this is my first time here, so PLEASE... be nice? I've had people yell at me when I ask for advice, and it just makes me feel worse. Anyways here I go.
I have a friend, whom I'll call Z. Z and I got really close recently, and we have been friends for about nine months.
D These past few days have been rough since Z has been complaining about me telling her to do work in shared projects; she has adhd, but our grade depends on each other, and she does NOTHING. So I remind her to do work, and sometimes yell as a joke since we're close, but she gets really mad at me for telling her to do work.
I don't know how adhd works and stuff, but the only thing I can do is remind her constantly about our work, and if I don't, she does nothing, then gets mad at ME and starts talking about her adhd.
She stopped taking meds a while ago, so I understand a bit. But at the same time its tiring to be forced into projects with her and be expected to do all the work. I'm sick of empty promises and waiting for work to be done, Because ill just eventually do it all on my own a day before the due date, because of the lack of work being done. I try to divide work up to make sure we both do at least something, but it eventually leads to me doing everything.
One thing I wanna mention is that she does SOME work, but it's always something small or not necessary. And when I get mad at the lack of work, she just brings that small piece up to excuse herself.
Shes and really immature person sometimes, and you can tell when she wants a reaction. When I don't give her what she expects, she just starts crying and talking badly about herself, she starts mentioning how she has no friends or that I prefer other people to her. It's really sickening and embarrassing, BUT I try my best to understand, but it's hard when my own private life gets brought up and compared to hers, it almost makes me feel bad for having other friends, yk?
That's pretty much all I wanna say, I appreciate any advice aslong as its nice and respectful, I've been yelled at when asking for advice before, really bad face for Reddit, especially since a lot of people do wanna help even if it's something small. I'm pretty new to this stuff and the community. Please tell me if I'm in the wrong or if I need to improve. (┬┬﹏┬┬)