overcoming insecurity
i am a 42 year old dude. some say i am pretty hot, not comfortable with compliments but for context. played in a lotta cool garage rock and punk bands and toured, encounters with many cool people bla bla bla whatever. definitely have a lifelong struggle with body dysmorphia. idk for one i have never attempted to measure myself, possibly for fear but also... grower not shower, girthy over lengthy..
have had accolades from alotta girls and a few dudes. whatever its about confidence and style
never had any shade thrown at me regarding size even after the worst breakups from the most gossipy people who TELL ALL lol
i know i am not as big as some. someone's always gonna be bigger or whatever who fucking cares. BDE is not a yardstick but a confidence built on emotional intelligence, self interrogation, humor including ability to take jokes as well as make em.
as far as sex if there's a connection and that person is on the level . ASK, BE CONCERNED, ATTENTIVE, EXPLORE WITH CONSENT! make sure you like the person at some level and its reciprocated
or pay a sex worker but shut the fuck up mind the rules and TIP
your dick is only as cool as you are