Reconnecting after 2 years of NC?
I haven’t seen my parents in over 2 years. They were escorted out of my wedding after showing up intoxicated to my alcohol-free wedding and screaming at me and my new spouse in front of all our guests. After a life time of physical, verbal, and emotion abuse, I had enough. That night I blocked them on everything. After a year and a few months of absolutely no contact, somehow an email from my mom got delivered and I responded. I email and text with her on and off, and sometimes text my dad.
I have done extensive therapy and I understand that if I reconnect with them, I would not have a relationship with my parents (because they are too mentally ill to be parents). If I reconnect I must accept the relationship for what it is (with boundaries of course), understanding I cannot chase a parental relationship from these people that will never be able to give me that.
From their pov they are my parents that I punish by not talking to them and have never done anything wrong (yes including my wedding).
I am wondering if anyone has any experience reconnecting after NC, in person or over the phone? Like I can text, but over the phone or in person seems so different and awkward. Do you go out for lunch? And just like stare at each other? Idk. Any advice is appreciated!
TLDR: NC after years of abuse. After lots of therapy, I know they will never act as parents. How to reconnect in person, after a few months of texting?