Having sex/intimacy again
I (F29) have been in a relationship with a woman (31) for 7 years. We haven't had sex for 4 years since my memories of sexual abuse resurfaced. It simply wasn't possible for me without getting triggered. It was only possible to hug and give some kisses. I've had a lot of therapy since and a lot of the ptsd symptoms are gone. They're mostly there during intimacy / sex.
It's very difficult to start being intimate again. I do really love my wife and before all the memories resurfaced we had great sex. We had very long make-out sessions and spent hours being intimate. I want that back. I find my wife extremely sexy, but I still dissociate or the intimacy starts to feel funny after 3 minutes of making out. My wife is also scared to initiate because she doesn't want to trigger the trauma.
Have other people fixed their sex lives? Do you have any tips?