not allowed to see my gfs kid anymore.
i have have been with my girlfriend for 10 years. she had a kid from another relationship who was nearly one years old. i was never accepted by her parents bc she broke up with the father of the kid and i ‘got in the way’. she loved me, i loved her, and her kid.
she passed away and her kid went to the grandparents. im not allowed to see him. the thing is, i saw him as my own. we went to holidays together. taught him how to ride his bike, swim. anything he needed id pay for (me and my gf would split anything he needed). i paid $350 for a school trip. taught him my native langauge (italian).
but im not allowed to see him?? he wants to aswell, but the grandparents have custody over him now. i just cant think straight anymore, i lost her and now him.
i dont understand how the father could not want to be in his life. all i wanted was to be his bio dad, instead his bio dad ended up in jail for drugs. drugs over ur own kid. now he stuck with my gfs grandparents - who btw are horrible. so strict and hostile. what hurts is, im scared to call him my son, its what i always felt like, but i know i was never his dad.
edit 1: forgot to add, they are thinking about moving to canada. hes going to additonally loose his friends and any chance i had to see him again.
edit 2: im not a bot. i dont have a reddit account, never used reddit. to be quite frank, i havent got anyone to seek advice from at the minute so im sorry for creating a under 1 hr account. not everyone is a bot!