My husband of 6 years just told me while he’s away at training for work (military) that he doesn’t feel connect, hasn’t in 6 months, and says he never got a chance to truly be single and free. We’re supposed to move in a month and he’s borderline leaving me stranded in a place with no support that he knows I hate. I don’t know what to do it’s so cruel to have not said anything to me or brought anything up at all. I have also felt similar before about feeling like I had a lack of independence and space for myself and I told him about it, we talked through it, and it got better. Why wouldn’t he do the same for me? I just have no idea what to do. He says he wants to be single because he’s started going out a lot more and likes the attention he gets from other women. Why wouldn’t he do something like this. I feel so incredibly hurt.

Yesterday, I went and got my hair done at a local salon. When I called for an appointment the day before, the cost estimate was $150 to get my hair colored the way I wanted. I went in yesterday with a reference photo.

The stylist strongly urged me to do a similar but different hairstyle. Now, I’m not super experienced with hair styles so maybe the price difference would be obvious based off of the reference photo they showed me, but the hair style recommended was not really all that different from the one I brought in for me to think that there would be a massive price difference. They just told me they were going to add more dimension to my hair. Turns out that different hair style was $450, not $150. I thought that if the price difference of the service is $300 more, they would have notified me so I could decide on whether to proceed or not.

They then ask me if I want a hair cut - I said, maybe a little trim at the bottom. That ends up being $150. They cut off maybe an inch.

Then during the hair wash, the stylist asks me if I want deep conditioning. I couldn’t even hear him properly and genuinely thought that was just part of a regular wash - that ends up being an extra $50. They never told me it would be an additional charge - who asks a client if they want a particular conditioner without telling them that it costs extra?

THEN the stylist puts a gloss on my hair without asking me, just announces that they did it, and that ends up being $120.

So I came in thinking I was going to pay $150, and ended up paying a whopping $860 for my hair.

It’s not like I could walk out without paying so I paid, but called them after telling them I feel a bit misled. They refunded me $100 but I still feel ripped off. Do you think I should file a dispute with the bank? I’m not disputing that I got the services done and not trying to get the service for free, but I feel very deceived and misled.

So this is an extremely long story but for context here is my first post: https://www.reddit.com/user/throwawayuni33/comments/1rruxpc/i_ran_away_from_my_boyfriends_proposal/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

For shorter context, my boyfriend(22M) proposed to me(20F) in a park, I was uncomfortable and ran away, and it became this whole big thing between me and him. He was very upset and I handled it poorly, and it ended it with us splitting. We both behaved immaturely in my opinion and had to end things due to cultural differences and expectations.

I found out I was pregnant a few weeks ago, and I think the baby was conceived a little over two months ago even though I took Plan B. I already am having a friend come with me to the GP to get an abortion, but I don't if I would be the asshole never telling him. Does he have the right to know?

I also know we should just go our separate ways for both of our sakes and I am worried if I reach out again, we might get together again. I am trying to be as mature as possible so please let me know what the right answer is. Thank you.

I feel that I’ve long since lost the plot. I used to take care of myself even through the roughest times but I find myself struggling to remember what the fuck is keeping me here these days. I’ve neglected basic hygiene for far too long. I know what I want and need and I know what I need to do to try and get there but fuck man I seem to be getting worse by the day. I have visual and auditory hallucinations along with horrid intrusive thoughts, anxiety and paranoia plague us day and night and I can’t seem to accomplish anything I need to. The phone of course doesn’t help nor does this godforsaken inter-web. Anyway give me your best tips for remembering and coming back to life or just let me know what keeps you going. I just want for us to have love and peace in this life love yall dearly let me know if u wanna kick it

I 27F cheated on my wife 26f. Kind of anyway. basically the back story is me and my wife were open for awhile and during that time i almost slept with a good friend whom i had, had feelings for previously. she was uncomfortable with this and made the decision to close the relationship. for months me and him just stayed friends and chatted occasionally but the other night, he messaged me saying how disappointed he was that we never got to sleep together. instead of immediately telling my wife he said this and blocking him i entertained it. told him how badly i wish i could sleep with him. we almost sent pictures to each other but we stopped short of doing so. i dont know what to do now. i feel ashamed of myself and don't know how to move forward. i plan to block him but am unsure if i should tell my wife as i think it will traumatize her and nothing physical happened. for more context she cheated in the past. what should i do and how do i move forward?

My close family friend (45M) is in a financial crunch because he lost his job and has made spectacularly bad financial decisions recently. He refinanced his primary residence to take out a loan of about 200k to invest in a property in Dubai (where he neither lives or intends to). As the investment payments are to be made out in monthly instalments, he invested the 200k (borrowed against his house) in the mean time in extremely risky options trades in the stock market and lost about half of that.
In the mean time, the Dubai real estate market has crashed due to recent events. While the construction has not progressed at all, he has to continue to make payments or completely forfeit his payments made thus far. This payment plan is quite aggressive, about 100k per year. His attempts to sell the Dubai property are unsuccessful because one, there has been no progress in the construction, and two, the market has crashed.
So currently, he is left with the roughly 80k from refinancing his home (after the stock market losses), no job (unemployment insurance still pays him roughly 85% of his salary), and a dead investment in Dubai with an aggressive payment plan (that he seems intent on keeping for as long as he can).
In my day job I work as a Marketing/ Business Consultant - and so, I helped him with setting up a low investment Food Truck Business. I did the concept, menu curation, branding and identity, all the commercial requirements completely free of charge to set them up. I even spent an entire day working alongside them on their launch day.
The food truck industry is quite competitive where we live, and as they just started, their calendar isn't filled yet. They are just starting to sign up for events here and there.
Now, he supposedly jus received a Tax Bill for about 12k and is super stressed over it. His wife called me to ask if I would be able to lend them some money.
Most of my money is invested as well, and in the current macro-economic conditions, my investments are not doing too well. So essentially, I would need to pull out money at a disadvantage to safeguard his money (he still has the 80k from the refinancing). I feel like I would be paying for his opportunity cost with mine. If I did lend the money, I don’t think I will see it for at least two more years.
Given the thousands of dollars in free labor that I have already contributed, this does not seem like a very fair ask. At the same time, he is like family, and I don't exactly know how to say no. What do I do?
If you think I should say no, please also suggest how to phrase it in a way that isn't cruel.

my landlord accidentally added me to a group chat that was clearly meant for the other tenants in my building. had everyone EXCEPT me and then suddenly im in it

i didnt say anything at first because i thought it was just some building update thing but then i scrolled up and its months of messages. they've been complaining about me, saying im "passive aggressive" because i leave notes when someone blocks my parking spot, calling me weird for keeping odd hours (i work nights), and my landlord literally said he "hopes i dont renew"

none of these people have ever said a word to my face. my landlord is always super friendly in person, helped me figure out a cheaper electricity plan last year, we even talked about me potentially taking the bigger unit upstairs since ive had some money put aside for a while now

i just silently left the chat and they havent brought it up. sometimes i feel like i want to confront my landlord directly, some other time i just want to start looking for a new place and say nothing. im not even that bothered about the tenants tbh, more just thrown off that my landlord is in there actively talking about me like that behind my back

So she first found out at the end of april when she found my pipe and she was terrified( i didn’t smoke for like 4 months by then).I’m 21 and live in Europe where it’s not legal so she was saying that she’s gonna take me to the police and test me. Right now she told me that I have to talk with my father about it or she will. I live with them and i know i fucked up and totally lost her trust this time.I know it was stupid of me but i don’t know what to do.

Firstly I just wanted to say that I had to delete the first post because of the racism directed towards me, and the racism in general. So I apologize. Definitely not what I expected. I won’t say anything about them because people that unfortunate clearly have something they’re going through so and choose to take it out on others. To the ones who gave me real, genuine advice, and told me to look through his phone, thank you so much. Because we are no longer together.

A tldr is that I saw my boyfriend’s texts with one of his white friends saying the n word, and he didn’t call it out or address it despite knowing my views on it. (I’m black and he’s white)

He came over today like always. I tried to act normal but he could tell I was off. I just ripped off the bandaid and asked to see his phone. He was hesitant but let me have it. There were texts from him saying the n word, and other racist things I’d rather not repeat. He’s even mentioned me more than once, and not in a nice way.

I felt like throwing up. I broke up with him on the spot. He said that it was just jokes and he’s not racist because he doesn’t actually believe what he says, and that it’s just to entertain his friends. Excuse after excuse. He even started crying when he realized how serious I was. Begged me to reconsider. I didn’t. I just told him to leave.

I’m not too sure how to feel yet because everything is still so fresh. Writing it out is helping me process it, I guess. I’m not as sad as i thought, but I know it’ll kick in later. I just feel really dumb honestly. Those texts were like a different person. No I didn’t see any signs, he never made any racist jokes towards or in front of me. I’m genuinely blindsided. But it’s okay. At least I know now rather than later.

Also, I’m not dramatic for having a boundary. For everyone saying it’s just a word, good for you. That’s your opinion. We think differently and that’s fine. Doesn’t mean you have to spread hate and racism because of it. Thanks again everyone.

He’s very kind and has been extremely protective in certain situations in the past which has made me trust him a lot more but there’s one thing that constantly confuses me. I’ve never met his family because his relationship with his parents is rocky and his other immediate relatives have passed away from old age. He lives and is the sole caretaker of his disabled sister who I know definitely exists from the pictures he shows me of her but according to him she can be very rude/judgmental which is his reasoning for not introducing me to her. There’s a lot of things that have happened with her or at least stories he’s told me. He leaves at the exact same time every morning and night like clock work which is another confusing thing for me. He usually comes over around 8 and leaves around 6 or 7 EVERY SINGLE TIME. If we hang out at night then it’s the reverse time.. he comes over around 6 or 7 and then leaves around 8. He doesn’t have friends so I’ve never met them even if he did have them or anyone for that matter and he’s only ever came over to my house. We got to know each other for about 6 months and have been officially dating for over 6 months so we’ve been together for a little over a year in total. When we first started taking he lied about his middle name when he left his wallet at my house and said that his ID in his wallet wasn’t even valid but he still had it? It’s just hard for me to understand if he’s being truthful about just having a weird schedule and life I suppose. I don’t want to think he’s cheating but I guess that’s on the table if y’all think any of this is weird. He has a high paying job, a degree and has always been very kind to me so the only concerning parts are how he leaves at the same time every single time we hang out and I’ve literally met no one he’s close to. What do you guys think? Are my worries valid or am I just overthinking? Please give me your honest opinions and thoughts because I’m very confused on how to feel about all of this.

So we are in an relationship(long distance me [21M] and her [21F]) for more than 2 months now and we are still figuring things out. I'm from a conservative background and trying to get adjusted to her. A week ago she asked me that she wanted to go drink with a guy (I didn't know he existed till then), i asked who is it and she said it was her one of her previous situationship, but now they are good friends, they went to drink before . I said I'm not comfortable but if you want to go you can, she asked why are you even uncomfortable in the first place my intentions are pure and she got angry that I felt uncomfortable and just said she needed a break from the convo and ended the call. Am I insecure cause I really don't know how to feel. After that I went to clear my mind. But she called me I didn't answer it because I didn't want to say things I regret. But she reached to out mutual friend and told him about the story and he doesn't see what's the issue is about. And then later me and my gf hopped on a call and I just lost my temper and said things I shouldn't have and now I am walking in a very thin line. And she still doesn't see what my problem is. She started saying that she can't cut all her guy friends bcs she is in a relationship with me. I understand but that was never my problem, my problem was that she was going to drink with a guy she had a past with. What should I do ?

I feel so lonely, have no friends and no life. Nobody can help me.. I'm done for.

I don’t do things like this ever so forgive my writing.

I’m extremely torn right now, my best friend of 5 years has a problem where she changes herself for guys. Whether it be taking up new hobbies, opinions, or disliking things for that person. However, things took a drastic turn when she started liking a guy who is apart of a very strict religion/cult. I believe that those feelings are hard to control, but she’s 18, almost 19 and she is converting into this religion for him; keep in mind they’ve only known each other for a couple months and hung out twice in person. She often dives in head first to these things and hasn’t researched anything to do with the religion/cult. I am asking Reddit because this religion is so incredibly homophobic, sexiest, and built by racists, but she has no idea because she hasn’t researched anything. I am wholeheartedly against any and all discrimination, and this religion stands for all of that. I myself have people close to me that are part of the lgbt community, and I could never imagine myself joining an organization that actively supports the hate of them, simply for being themselves. Love is hard enough, why should gender matter? Even the thought that women aren’t allowed to dress a certain way, and they are not allowed to be pastors simply because they are women deeply upsets me.

Even though we have been friends for a long time, she has always prioritized men and victimized herself, but I have always put it aside. I feel horrible but I cannot keep being close with someone who goes against all of my morals and everything that truly matters to me. She’s doing this for a guy but she has gay friends and I don’t know how to bring up the fact that I don’t want to continue a friendship if she joins something so hateful, knowing that it is. I believe people can make choices for themselves, but I can not and will not excuse homophobia, sexism, and racism. I don’t know what to do or how to bring it up. Please help.