u/BigE_1995

Hello, I previously posted about my situation here:

https://www.reddit.com/r/whatdoIdo/s/9Iok8rYIS7

And I want to give you guys an update. I did complete the Non invasive prenatal test to see if the child was mine, she did agree and I was in fact the biological father. However, I still couldn’t live or be in a relationship with her because I could no longer trust her. I waited for a good moment where she went to her aunty house, I sent her a text that she cannot come back and I will change the lock. This broke my heart til this day because I really care about her, but it had to be done. The next day, she sent me a heavy goodbye message of what she went through, the trauma, and the emotional damage I’ve caused to her by kicking her out. She also got an abortion and said her goodbye. She blocked me on all social media and phone number. I feel like crap like now and somehow wished I didn’t kick her out, but how would I be able to live with her? I would be second guessing myself every time she says something to me. But anyway, that’s the update of the relationship. I will go idle now, it’ll take me a long time to start dating again.

So, my pregnant girlfriend went to the park with this guy she had a failed stage relationship with, they weren’t official but they had sex during the stage. Fast forward, me and her started our relationship where she blocked the guy once our relationship started. However, the guy kept messaging her from her email but she never responded. She finally responds when me and her weren’t on a good term, we had an argument that wasn’t resolved so she felt the need to respond back to the guy and got inside his car. She was staying at my house when she went to the park, I found out because I was at work and I needed her to take a pic of a document but she said she wasn’t home. Then I asked her where she was and she told me she was at the park. Anyway, I didn’t take it too serious I just told her to send me the pic once she gets home. She usually use my uber account since she doesn’t drive, I was checking my uber account but I didn’t see any previous transactions that took her to the park. When I confronted her, she told me it was “none of my business who drove her to the park”. So I told her to leave my house if it’s none of my business, eventually she told me the truth. Now, I just don’t know how to move forward. I felt disrespected because when I called her to ask her to send me the pic of the document, she had me on speaker and that guy was listening next to her.This would’ve been a lot easier if she wasn’t pregnant. But I also can’t trust her from now on. This shows me she will go behind my back if we’re not in good terms. How do I move forward with this?

My girlfriend and I are expecting a baby together. We’ve had trust issues in the past, and she knows this is a sensitive area for me.
Recently, she responded to a guy who she had a “failed talking stage” with where they had sex in the past and ended up meeting him at a park. The part that hurts me the most is that she knew we already had problems around trust, but she still chose to meet him. I even called her while she was there, and the guy was able to hear our conversation.
I don’t know exactly what happened between them (whether they hugged, kissed, etc.), and those thoughts keep running through my head. But honestly, the biggest issue isn’t even just what happened physically it’s that she made the decision to meet him knowing how it would affect our relationship.
I asked her to explain everything: why she responded, why she agreed to meet him, what her intentions were, and why I should believe she wouldn’t do something like this again. So far, I feel like I’m not getting a complete or truthful explanation, mostly just “I’m sorry.”
I’m not saying the relationship is automatically over. If she gave me a complete, honest explanation, took full responsibility, and showed me through her actions that she understands why this hurt me, I would be willing to work on rebuilding trust.
But right now, I feel emotionally checked out. I don’t even enjoy being intimate with her anymore because the trust isn’t there. I wanted her to leave after this happened, but she said she has nowhere else to go, and she’s pregnant.
How would you handle this situation?
TL;DR:
My pregnant girlfriend met another guy despite our past trust issues. I’m not just hurt about the meeting. I’m hurt that she knowingly made that choice. I need honesty and accountability before I can trust her again or consider marriage. Right now, I feel emotionally disconnected.