u/AcanthocephalaNo1082

As a surgical F2, in my trust (and I’d imagine this happens in many others too), the surgical F2 on call also covers urology out of hours.
The issue is that one of the urology registrars is very unsupportive. Sometimes it feels like they’ll come up with a management plan mainly to avoid coming into hospital, even when I’m not convinced it’s the best option for the patient.
I really don’t like bothering seniors with “stupid” questions or unnecessary requests, but at the same time, if I’m genuinely unsure, I’d rather have a registrar think I’m inexperienced than risk a patient not getting appropriate care.
The problem is that when this particular reg is on call, I become extremely anxious. I’m often the only F2 covering both surgery and urology overnight, getting bleeped constantly, and the workload is intense. On the surgical side I’ve generally felt much more supported because the registrars I’ve worked with have been approachable and willing to help without making passive-aggressive or humiliating comments.
I’m also hesitant about escalating this formally because I don’t want to create conflict or gain a reputation for being “difficult” within the department.
Part of me worries that if concerns are raised, it may not remain anonymous and could affect the dynamic with the registrar / team. At the same time, I genuinely don’t think it’s healthy to feel this anxious every time certain on-calls come up.
I’m trying to understand whether this is just something everyone experiences or whether the level of support I’m feeling is actually below what would normally be expected.
EDIT - I know I haven’t provided many details, but this is because I’d prefer to remain anonymous :)

the f1 i’m paired with hands over most jobs to me, then at handover points out the list isn’t updated or things haven’t been done, even if I have been extremely busy and they have not… they can’t do cannulas/ngts (because they’re not good at these skills), and mostly stick to “their patients,” so the workload is pretty uneven

is it reasonable to directly ask them to pick up specific jobs?

for context, when i was an f1, the f2s would ask me to prescribe regular meds and do basic discharge paperwork if they were busy (and sometimes even if they were not). it never crossed my mind to bleep my f2 to do a discharge letter just because they’d written in the notes during the ward round

EDIT (to clarify): I’m not talking about asking them to do jobs when they’re busy. It’s that I’ve been significantly busier than them, and they don’t tend to check in or offer help