Am I Wrong for Being Mad at My Parents?
I (18, F), and my parents (40 F and 56 M) are currently on and off in speaking terms. This is due to the fact that both of my parents have a pattern of lying, so let me explain how it started.
For years they wanted to move back to their hometown after my grandmother passed away in 2023; however, I really didn't want too as I grew up in the city, and their hometowns were on the provincial side. Last December 2025, my parents and I went home to their hometowns for Christmas, and they decided to stay for good. Now here comes the problem, my mother was still working during that time, but before coming home, she had submitted her resignation letter and was still in the due process. My father however was very insisting that she shouldn't be working anymore as of course it was taking too long and he was very impatient that he wants her to work on his town. So, my mother had decided to completely ghost everyone at her work, which led to her being bombarded of texts regarding her whereabouts and the work that she had missed.
It all led up to January, wherein she no longer had the energy to open up her social media accounts due to the constant messages of people. On my part, I already missed two weeks of school that my teachers are concerningly searching for me according to my friends as I'm also graduating. So, my mother begrudgingly concluded that I'll be going home by myself because she doesn't want to come home anymore. The moment I went home, her co-workers were waiting for me and asked me about what happened to my mother. Which I honestly had to lie about the situation as she told me to cover for her (which I really hate lying).
After a few months in March 2026, my parents and grandfather had gotten into an argument about a political stance that it led up to them arguing into their financial situation. That situation had led up to my grandfather cutting off his financial aid with me, which was a huge problem because my parents were still unemployed and my grandad was the only one able to give me the money that I needed to continue living here in the city. The thing is, I wasn't paid for my graduation fees yet. So, them cutting me off was the starting point of the stresses that I've been carrying as my parents weren't trying hard enough to find a stable job, knowing that my fees are heavy especially that it is my last year in high school.
To be able to pay off my fees, they (my parents) decided to sell of one of their most prized possessions, their refrigerator that my mother worked years for. I felt quite guilty over it, but they insisted. It did manage to pay off my student fees, and I was able to graduate this April. Now, they want me to come home, and they've been guilt tripping me over the past couple of weeks that I decided to cut them off, however, they got a hold of my neighbors to talk to me, and they've been using the victim card to continue guilt tripping me.
I decided to just give up and listen, so yes, I'll be going home to them. However, the thing that I haven't mentioned yet is that one of our neighbors that my mom has debt with has been harassing me over the past couple of months as she hasn't been replying to them both. I've been constantly stressed out regarding about it as I'm the one caught in between, and here comes the part my parents are serial liars. They've been telling them that they'll pay up, but they never did. They told people that they'll be coming home, that they never said that they never gave a certain item to a person that my neighbors particularly hated but saw THAT person get an item from our home, and just a lot of lies that my parents has been telling the people around me.
Now, none of them believe my parents and I'm once again caught in between. Since we were just renting out our home for the last couple of years, my parents of course decided to stop paying due to them being unemployed and now I'm getting convicted, but the good thing is that one of the neighbors decided to move into my childhood home. However, my parents are mad at me for allowing them to clean up the stuff that they promised that they'll be coming home to pack up.
I honestly don't know what I'll do in this situation anymore, my parents are insisting they're in the right. Those neighbors just wanted to help clean up so that it'll lessen the things needed to be packed, and my parents painted them to be bad and were literally mad at even the slightest of help from them. Which made those people that helped me quite resentful of them too. I'm quite angry at my parents too, and I know completely that they're in the wrong. They've telling me that I shouldn't believe the neighbors, that they are my parents and they should be the one I should be believing in, and that I no longer have the "respect" for them for believing what's right for me.
Now, my mother called me was screaming that I'm ungrateful, and selfish that I just throwed away 18 years of my life with them the moment that things went south in our family? That I chose to believe another besides them? I'm quite conflicted with guilt of what they feel and resentment I have towards them.
So, am I wrong for being upset and mad at my parents?