r/RantAndVentPH

Guys! I am so tired of old men being with a much younger women normalisation

Oh ok so here on reddit I see some couples in large age gaps like 20 and 53 and 21 and 42 which is absolutely disgusting cause wth! Middle aged men and young girls is so disgusting ngl! I'm young myself and I would never date anyone who's in the 40's or 50's. Like these men are old enough to be their dads and how come nobody finds it disgusting?! Cause it is! It pisses me off so much that how these disgusting age gaps are normalised and not hated upon. It looks so weird and predatory that these middle men are only looking for young girls which is absolutely disgusting!

Before I start, just wanna be clear I don’t judge body types or wanna spread hate, pero I just lost my patience on this one.

For context, Me(27M) and my friend sa work are just having a conversation about what workout are we hitting after our shift, talking about our meal preps and such.

Suddenly this girl na ka work din namin, cuts us both while talking bigla nalang saying “ako ayoko yung mga macho kagaya katawan nyo, di talaga appealing” “ano point pinipigilan nyo kumain masasarap, di kayo nag eenjoy sa buhay” “mas gusto ko mag stay nalang saamin and manuod buong araw kesa mag gym”

First, we are doing this for sarili namin, not you
Second, we find the food we make enjoyable, not the usual chicken breast rice lang combo.
Third, piss off.

So yeah going back, I told her di naman kami nag woworkout for her sake and this is what we enjoy doing, AND SHE SAYS “ew”

Now with that “ew” lalo nako na tilt, I’m all for body positivity, idc ano preference mo or hobbies mo, pero you joined our conversation without us asking your input then sasabihan mo kaming “ew” screw you.

I lost it and said “If ew kami, what do you call yung katawan mong both bilog and square?” “Okay lang di kami appealing sayo, we work on ourselves di para sa mga ka katawan mo”, bicc left.

Though this isn’t the first time someone told me na di nila prefer yung athletic build, I’m in a happy relationship idc tbh.

Pero one thing I noticed is that these types of comments, all came from people na horizontally challenged. So it got me thinking, do they not like fit people dahil di sila fit? Or something similar. Why is it na most of the time, at least in my experience, sakanila galing.

Kase sa mga running events, gyms and sports events na pinupuntahan ko, I don’t usually get negative comments like that from anyone.

It’s kind of odd na it always comes from them. Any thoughts about this?

Ang tagal ko nang kinikimkim tong galit ko sa kanya, especially sa mga lumalabas sa bibig niya. Nakakainis. Nakakabwisit. Sa tuwing pupunta siya sa bahay para magturok ng peptides sa sarili niya. Lagi siyang may comment sa isa sa mga aspin naming paralyzed (he's currently fighting distemper). Ako madalas mag-alaga sa aso naming yon at yes, baby na kung baby. Today, tinutukan ko sya ng fan dahil nga sa init ng panahon saka hindi siya pwedeng mag-overheat.

Tapos etong ate ko, nagremark uli sya na, "wow, ang social naman ni (name ng dog namin.)" sa isip ko, ano naman? eh sila nga ng aso nyang mga shih tzu naka-aircon. Pag ba walang lahi, di pwedeng ma-baby ganon??? nakakabwiset. Ang daming nyang comment sa aso namin na paralyzed, na kesyo ang arte raw kailangan pa subuan... mas maarte pa raw sa mga shih tzu nya. Saka tangina inaano ba siya ng aso namin? pati ba naman aso hindi takas sa mga comments niya? ni hindi nga yan siya kinahulaan o ano nung nakakalakad pa, yun pa nga pinakamalambing sa lahat ng dogs namin. Saka nung pinagbantay nya ako ng mga dogs nya, need pa subuan gamit kutsara kahit walang sakit or nararamdaman (no hate to shih tzu, i love all dogs) so anong ibig sabihin nyang mas maarte sa dogs nya? Like ano bang point nya tangina bakit may laging comment sa paralyzed na aso namin???

Natural na iforce feed ko itong aso namin dahil nga paralyzed siya, hindi siya makainom o makakain on his own so need talaga ng assistance from time to time, kahit nga pagtae nya inaalalayan pa namin. Saka hindi nya alam hirap sa pag-aalaga na di niya naman nagawa nung pinagbantay namin siya. Puro lang sya reklamo about sa paralyzed dog namin na ang arte raw blah blah. Tangina niya. Hipokrito. Dog lover kuno. Sana tumikom bibig nya habang buhay kasi kahit sakin, kino-compare niya mukha nya sa mukha ko pag nakikita niya kong mukhang pagod o stress. Nakakainis. Pakyu.

add ko lang, she's already on her mid 30's na pero di pa rin nagbabago ugali niya. Maliit palang ako tinataray tarayan na ko kahit napatingin lang ako sa kanya. Pinsan namin siya, grandma and parents namin nag-guide sa kanya hanggang lumaki siya so parang older sister na rin namin.

Last January pa lang, i already let him go na. I wanted to leave him bc i'm Emotionally drained. Shamed for asking sex. Incompatible kami sa bed like gusto niya siya lang lahat kainin ako never niya nakain. Sobrang starfish niya. punyeta! Ako yung nag lead ng relationship. Hatid sundo him and i feel like he doesn't have any plan for us. So girlies, u know how exhausting this is!

Anyway, 2 weeks before we broke up, first time niya ako kinain. putangina ang sarap pala. gago sa 3 years namin dun lng ako nakain. i was excited and was looking forward for the next sex. sabi ko, "babe, kailan tayo mag sex ulit? hehe sarap mo palang kumain. bastusin mo pa nga ako 🥺🤪". you know what he said? "ang bastos mo. napaka formal mong babae bakit ganyan ka??" and there my friend, i decided na ayokona. I didn't talk to him and sobrang drained na ako and not just sexually but affected yung emotions ko as his gf. I felt rejected and neglected na. 2 days before the official break up, we still had sex. one last bembang but i was on my period and sabi niya, "hindi kita makain. next time bawi ako ha?" gago, nka schedule na yung break up mo.

so, on the day ng break up, iyak iyakan na ako and all. But i still want to make friends with him bc we were fine naman kasi. better off as friends than lovers kasi hindi kmi talaga nag match ng libog and sobrang non chalant ya sa akin. walang ka effort effort. but friends? pwede talaga eh. kahit barkada pa.

Now he keeps on texting me and said na miss niya daw ako and wants me back or maybe just wanted to have sex with me. and i was like, "you had me for 3 fcking years!!" hindi man lang ka nag pa bibo sakin. we couldve done a lot of things pero sobrang non chalant mo you don't know how lucky you were na mataas yung libido ng gf mo. now you want me backkk?? he was ungrateful and hindi ko na feel na may ambag sya sa life ko. now that we broke up, parang he never existed sa life ko. he was my first bf and first in EVERYTHING. he couldve been extra pabibo bc i was a lucky catch for him. the least he could do was to show how much he appreciated me but he didn't.

i have needs naman and i did love this man. I wanted to do it but at the same time, what for? it's not gonna change naman eh and if he does, it's no longer genuine but only did it to have me back.

An hour ago, I saw someone vaping inside RobMan.

Called him out right away. Told him it's prohibited to vape inside the mall. He acknowledged me naman. Pero ang hinayupak, akala nya ata umalis na ako. Panay pa rin ang vape. When he saw me. Tumigil naman ulit.

Kakayamot talaga mga inconsiderate na tao. Kakadiri po mga binubuga nyong usok na galing sa bibig nyo.

Hey guys, I just want to let this thing out of my chest and also get your opinions and advice as well.

Im a PWD, I have microtia to be exact (an in-born condition na deformed or underdeveloped yung ear mo) so basically may hearing loss yung other ear ko. So now, Im on a job-hunt mission. A little background abt saken, isa po akong mechanical engineering graduate and also board passer rin nung this feb lang. Im in dire need of a job right now kasi my family is on a lil financial crisis. Ayoko nang maging palamunin at magpabigat pa, dagdag lang gastusin. So naghanap ako trabaho, matic related na sa mechanical engineering. First 3 interviews ko sablay, di ko alam if mahina lang ba ako sa interview (feeling ko naman hinde), kulang sa exp o di lang talaga qualified. Ewan, di ko rin alam if big factor rin tong condition ko sa tuwing may interviews ako (feeling ko oo). But fortunately, natanggap ako sa pang apat. Edi ansaya ko kasi syempre nakachamba pa. So ayun pinaasikaso na kami sa requirements. Then nung nagpamedical ako, nirequired akong kumuha ng ENT clearance sa ENT clinics, para patunay na capable akong magwork, napagastos rin ako don bwiset. Then ayun kanina pasahan na ng requirements tas signing of contracts na. Bigla akong pinatigil magsulat ng hr, kinuha nya yung mga papel then sabi nya kausapin nya raw ako. Then ayun nga regarding sa condition ko, sabi nya required raw ako na maghearing aid kasi baka raw di ako makasabay sa trabaho. Pending lang raw muna ako hanggat bakante pa yung slot pero once raw na may hearing aid na pwede na raw ideploy. Medyo gumuho mundo ko non, hindi biro ang presyo ng hearing aids, specially sa condition ko. Nung pagkaalis ko napaisip nalang ako, hindi pa ba sapat yung pag vouch ng mga doctor saken sa medical and also sa ENT clearance ko? Sabay ayun nanlumo na talaga ako, feeling ko kanina tinalikuran ako ng mundo eh (baka OA lang). Pero para saken parang yun yung pinakamalaking sampal saken ng reyalidad. Pinaalam ko kaagad sa parents ko yung nangyari. Syempre labis rin silang nalungkot, lalo na si mama, nagsorry sya saken kasi iniisip nya na sila yung may kasalanan sa nangyari. Pumunta akong simbahan after para magdasal, grabe parang gusto ko sumabog kanina, like pinipigilan ko nalang yung iyak ko sa simbahan. Ngayon di ko na alam gagawin, ang mahal talaga ng hearing aids like as in. Di namin siya mabibili in a span of one week. Iniisip ko if ipupursue ko pa ba to or give up na. Ewan ko, nakakadepress, nakakasama ng loob. Sadyang di lang talaga patas ang mundo. Di ko alam if magrereach out ba ako sa HR at magreason kung anong klaseng pag vouch ba kailangan nila. Or maghanap ng bagong work. Nawala confidence ko sa isang iglap eh. For the first time I feel like I lost track of my goal. Ano pong opinions niyo or advice sa anong pwede kong gawin?

Never ko maimagine na magpopost ako ng rants and struggles ko dito. For context I have a solo parent mom, may ate ako at may bunsong kapatid. Yung ate ko dito nakatira samin kasama yung anak nya. Graduating student nako ng Computer Engineering. Iniintay ko nalang graduatio ko. Masaya naman buhay ko dati, syemprw bata pa. Mas magaan kasi nandito pa yung tatay ko nun, siya kasi talaga ang provider sa pamily. I must say na nabibigay nya lahat ng needs at pati wants namin, pero bigla kasi siyang nawala. 2015 nawala siya, so mag 11years na namin siyang di kasama. Mahirap para sakin, lalo na sa nanay ko. Siya kumakayod lahat, lahat ng napundar ng tatay ko na mga sasakyan, yung isa pa naming at lupa lahat yun wala na samin, nabenta na. Ngayon, we barely surviving. Wala pa ulit trabaho ang ate ko dahil kakapanganak pala nya, so lahat ng bills sinoshoulder ng nanay ko. Sobrang naguguilty ako na wala akong matulong, wala akong maambag kahit papaano. Ngayon, job hunting nako kase gagraduate naman na ako sa july pero sobrang bigat para sakin. Yung may ginagawa ka namang action para mas gumaan ang buhay mo at ng pamilya mo pero feeling mo nakastuck ka. Pakiramdam mo wala kang progres. Ngayon sobrang down na down ako kasi kahit anong pag aapply ko hindi pa rin ako nakakahanap ng trabaho. Sobrang nauubusan nako ng hope at motivatio, minsan hinihiling ko nalang kay lord na kuhanin na nya lang ako kasi napapagod na talaga ako. Andami ko gustong makamit, alam kong may potential ako pero minsan nakakapagod din talaga lumaban. Pakiram ko hindi ko deserve ang ganitong klase ng buhay. Hindi ganitong buhay ang gusto ko para sa sarili ko at para sa pamilya ko. I deserve more, pero minsan talagang nauubos ang will ko at ang motivation ko.

Ayun lang naman ang rant ko, hindi ko sanay mag open sa kahit na kaninong kaibigan ko kaya dito ko nalang irarant lahat ’to, para naman mas gumaan ang pakiramdam ko.

I park my car inside our garage daily. Yung neighbors namin, may garage rin naman pero ginawang storage/ibang purpose kaya sa labas nagpapark. Okay lang sana kaso sobrang kupal magpark… minsan nakaharang pa sa driveway namin at nakausli yung likod ng kotse sa island ko kaya alanganin lumabas. Tapos sila pa galit pag dinodoorbell para magpausog. Basic driveway etiquette na lang di pa magawa. Ang yayabang pa akala mo sila naaabala. Peak third-world mindset talaga! Mga govt employees pa yarn. 🙄

SA LAHAT NG NANINIGARILYO SA PUBLIC PLACE, PAKIUSAP PAKILUNOK NG USOK.

Worth it bang bumukod?!!
We have 2kids and partner ko lang may work samin. Please need advise po.

per contract ang sahod niya lets say every 2 months kinikita more or less 1m.

may binabayaran kaming car nasa 32k a month.

Kami lahat sa bahay pagkain internet water and electricity.

Yung dumating kapatid niya dito with her husband and kids nasa 12k na ang meralco bill excluded the other bills.

Napag planuhan na namin bumukod ni partner, pero kinausap ako ng tatay na kung pwede tulungan si sister kasi walang trabaho yung mag asawa diagnosed pa ng anxiety and panic attack. Naawa daw siya sa mag-asawa hindi ko ma direct to the point kasi wala naman ako sa sitwasyon para mag salita about sa $H1t nila mag-anak e. Kami daw nakaka angat angat sa buhay, tulungan daw, kasi pag kami naman nawalan for sure tutulungan naman kami. (Vloool)

Pero pucha naka unli aircon walang consideration sa amin. Ni hindi hugasan ang pinagkainan ako pa nag huhugas, pati kung paano ko asikasuhin yung anak
ko pinapakielaman nung kupal na anak niya.

So porket maganda buhay nung isang anak, ipapasa lahat sa kanya yung responsibility na hindi naman dapat?

Kawawa naman yung nag sisipag sa buhay, bakit hindi niyo obligahin ang asawa niyan tutal puro dota ang alam.

I was standing in front of him, may earphone nako pero ang lakas parin ng sounds nya, he's watching fb shorts. Sinabihan ko na "Kuya, ang lakas po masyado". Ayun hininaan nya and eventually tinigil at tinago ang cp. 30mins later nilabas nya uli at nanuod pero mahina na.

Siguro unaware lang talaga mga tao sa surroundings nila kaya kailangan pagsabihan pa.

Ang hirap naman ng life 😞 bitin na bitin sweldo sa dami ng bills 😞

For context, Im F,31. Im working naman with 30k gross, kada sweldo nauubos money ko sa pambayad ng dorm and allowance ng kapatid ko since Im the one in charge don kasi wala na kaming parents, yung tita ko naman tinutulungan ako sa tuition fee nya. Then syempre may transpo allowance rin ako and other bills. Kulang na yung 30k. Im trying to look for a part time job, wala pa ako nahahanap 😞

Kumbaga nakakaraos naman kami kaso breakeven lang talaga, ni wala nga akong savings huhuhu

Sana makahanap ako ng part time para extra income 😞 kasi kulang talaga yung one source of income. Bat ba ganto sa Pinas huhu 😞

Although Im very grateful pa rin kay Lord na nakakraos kami everyday, hindi ko nga alam pano kami nakakaraos hahaha. Minsan yung mindset ko nalang, God will provide hehe. At least meron pa rin akong work rin diba at nakaka kain rin kami.

Pero syempre kahit papano gusto ko rin sana maranasan yung may savings gaya nung iba na nakikita ko dito sa reddit nagppost sila ng malalaki savings nila at hindi sila gipit sa money 😞

So I have this friend from high school, but lately I’m not even sure if she still sees me as her friend anymore. Not because she didn’t invite me to her wedding lol — I think it’s deeper than that.

We’ve gone through so much together in life, from high school until now that we’re both adults working and living completely different lives. We still message each other sometimes, but it’s rare because we’re both busy doing life — especially me. And honestly, I feel guilty because I don’t know everything about her anymore.

But despite that, I still genuinely see her as one of my gems.

Everywhere I go, whenever conversations get deep, I always talk about her and how she became a huge part of my growth and who I am today. She gave me confidence when I didn’t even know what confidence felt like. Back then, I was an unknowingly broken and depressed teenager coming from a toxic and broken home, and I truly believe she was one of the people who saved me during that season of my life. That has always been my story about her.

And the guy she married? I was actually one of the reasons they got connected at the beginning of their relationship. That’s why seeing them still together until now, finally getting married, genuinely made me so happy.

But when she got married recently and I wasn’t invited, I won’t lie — it hurt.

Not because I’m angry, but maybe because in my heart, I always imagined that when that moment finally came for them, I’d still somehow be there. Even if we barely talked or saw each other anymore, I thought I’d still have a place in their lives the same way they still had one in mine.

Maybe for her, our story became something different over time. Maybe there are things I don’t know anymore.

But for me, she’s still my best friend from high school.

I hope she’s proud of me somehow, because I will always give her credit for becoming part of the reason why I survived, grew, and became the person I am today. And even if I’m no longer that person for her, she will always be that person for me.

And if I ever get married someday, I know for sure I’d want her there.

Is this valid?

I get instant sleepiness when trying to do an unwanted task. Iniisip ko kung tamad ba ako. Because I want to get the task done since it’s necessary, even though I genuinely don’t want to do it. Gets niyo ba? Its been consistent. Whenever I have to force myself to do the task I feel so groggy, like instant sleepiness. Hindi siya simpleng antok, masakit siya sa ulo kasi groggy talaga ako at gusto ko matulog. Its been a disaster to the point na naiyak na ako kahapon kasi wala na akong magawang matino sa buhay ko.

I was aware na sleepy akong tao since bata pa ako. I could fall asleep anywhere, sa jeep, sa klase, pati sa pag pila pero hindi naman ganito kalala. These days, I feel it most whenever I’m working on career-related things. So self-learning has been really difficult for me right now, especially now that there’s even more pressure to learn new skills and keep upskilling.

I’m trying to apply for a new job and leave my current one, but lately I’ve been struggling just to focus. I would find myself opening my laptop tas aantukin na ako wala pa nga yung gagawin ko. I know in this job market you have to apply to hundreds. Not to mention there's no dopamine in the process. I fcking hate this feeling tbh. This feels less like kulang sa tulog and more like kind of groggy, disorienting exhaustion, where your brain feels like it’s forcibly shutting down. Its been a disaster and I feel useless.

I’m basically forcing my half-asleep brain through these damn tasks while it’s trying to shut down, which makes the whole process exhausting and unnecessarily difficult. I basically run on Red Bull and high-caffeine coffee just to focus. Normal pa ba to