Navigating an affair and potential divorce.
Keeping this short but with pertinent details.
Wife confessed to an affair, coworker, months, ended because he blabber and it affected her work not because she chose her family.
She was the one who initiated and pursued it. She cant tell me why.
Married 12 years, 2 kids 9 and 7.
I myself am a product of a very long, very messy divorce. I know it affected the person I became and I will never under any circumstances put my children through that.
I want to say that I want to make things work but I cant wrap my head around forgiving her.
I dont even know what advice I want but im so lost, with no one to talk to. I dont want to go around announcing her infidelity in the event I can somehow make this work for my kids. You cant untell someone your wife was unfaithful and it will forever change how we both are perceived by friends and family.
Im in a level of pain I did not know I was capable of feeling. The betrayal to myself and my boys is difficult to grasp. I kicked her out today. I cant look at her. My oldest was able to see the pain on my face despite trying to hide it anyways. There's no pretending everything is fine with them now.
All I care about is protecting them as much as I possibly can.