Sharing space with people with different eating styles- advice
(TW; discussion of eating styles in reference to recovery, mention of restriction and binge eating)
24f) have been in recovery from OSFED for a little over a year after being discharged from an outpatient program. I live with my family for the time being.
My boyfriend, who I essentially spend most of my time with, has a friend who we stayed with across the state and picked up to come stay with us for a few days. I like this friend, but his eating patterns seem to trigger me. I struggle with restriction and all he could talk about was when/where we could eat next for about 3 days.
This bothered me, mainly because it just makes me think about my appetite and ED. I wasn’t super concerned about it because the friend was leaving soon.
This is a precursor to the main issue that came up last night. My brother is having a friend move in indefinitely while he gets a job here and saves money to move out of state. I’ve met this friend before, and he has a restrictive ED but has never been in treatment for it and the last time he was here, it was noticeable. My brother confirmed it when I asked about it. I spent most of my days out of the house.
I don’t think it is a great idea to live with someone not in recovery while I am still recovering, simply because I worry it will make it easier for me to slip. but I feel bad for thinking that- I know he’s struggling too. I just worry that environments impact my eating more than I thought.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do you deal with living/sharing space with people who have eating patterns that trigger your ED?