I’m genuinely just wondering? Does it usually happen to underweight people or can people considered “obese” get low blood pressure from not eating enough?
My 16yo daughter is showing concerning eating habits and I am not sure what to do. During a stressful time at school 1-2 years ago, she lost quite an amount of weight even though she was already fairly thin. We talked about it often and tried to talk about her mental wellbeing as well. I made sure she was eating her meals for a while as well. Now she has gained her weight back and is back at a healthy weight.
I thought that she would be doing better now, but I am not sure if this is normal. She has been eating a way bigger amount than usual lately and on some days she eats for 3 people, she hides what she is eating and I find wrappers in her room. But sometimes she eats very little and very sensitive about food even though she is active. I obviously don’t make a comment about how much she eats and I don’t comment on her appearance, as I want her to eat without feeling bad.
But instead of getting better, she has been getting increasingly sensitive, depressed and has been withdrawing herself from us. Not only is she shutting us out, she is also isolating herself from her friends. I am not sure if this is due to her past ed. I notice that her body image issues are getting worse.
- When she tries on certain clothing, she is suddenly very quiet and covers herself up and doesn’t talk with us.
- She keeps touching her arms or legs when she is in a bad mood or insecure
- On the trip to the beach she suddenly refuses to wear something revealing ex: a bikini, even though that was something she always wore and she kept covering herself with a big towel
and lots of negative self talk.
She does have a therapist but I don’t think she talks a lot about her eating habits or her body image. I am not sure if it’s helpful to ask her about it, as she looks very uncomfortable in any conversation related to this topic. I dont know what to do. She has been gaining some weight and eating more, which I thought is a sign that she’s doing better but I feel like she is mentally doing way worse. I do want to speak to her about this but she deflects every conversation about this.
I think I’m being paranoid, my friends have told me I al but I’d rather be paranoid than miss things.
Background; my family have always been overweight with horrific attitudes regarding weight and weight loss. My mother had me in slimming world with her at like 11and it really fucked me up amongst other things (constantly commenting on her and my weight, judging others, commenting on everything I ate etc). She wasn’t the only one this is a widespread issue within the family. I know she’s raising my sister with the same comments. I’m 27 now and finally unlearning the disordered eating and borderline binge eating disorder that I let run my life for years.
The issue is I’m now very strict about what I eat to make sure I’m staying out of that binge/restrict cycle. I didn’t realise the other day but my sister was there while I was discussing how much weight I had lost (it’s healthy, slowly and surely and making sure I’m getting the right amount of nutrients a day) and other related things I don’t think I’m allowed to mention here.
I’m NOW worried I may have contributed to whatever is going on inside my sisters head. She has made comments about how fat she is (she isn’t) and how she hates it. I haven’t noticed her being weird with her food, but I don’t see her as often as I want since I’ve moved out.
Is there any advice on what I can do? Am I just being paranoid?
when i had anorexia, my mom got me on antidepressants, and after a few months i started eating more, which led to my later recovery. im just wondering if the meds are the reason i recovered or if that’s just a coincidence.
Why do people with ed post bodychecks knowing how it affects people? Do they just not care? Esp since they’ve been through it
My post was removed in another thread and I’m not sure why. I just don’t know how to get better. I don’t know where to start. I want to start recovery so bad but I have no idea what to do. I’m in therapy but my therapist sucks and I’m trying to do it on my own but I can’t and I have no idea what recovery even looks like.
I have a ton of loose skin which causes a significant amount of mental distress alongside my OCD. I don't have any visual basis to go off of other than a scale and scale is misleading because my true weight is unknown due to the loose skin.
As a result I feel like I'm constantly dieting, I have my "safe food" which is high cal being chips and dip (i'm autistic) and then the other safe foods of carrots, veg, salad, etc where I'll eat for volume so I don't go above my "danger" calorie limit.
I've brought it up to my therapists and psychiatrist before and I guess eating disorders are treated super dangerously which is confusing when I'm a healthy weight, could maybe introduce more foods for nutrition but otherwise I'm really good so that just puts me off trying to get help but I mean what would help even look like for someone in my situation?
I feel like the only thing that would genuinely help is the removal of the loose skin so I can visually see reality.
(The eating disorder is mildly rhetorical as again therapist and psychiatrist have brought it up, but I remain questioning at the same time)
feel like some people with this ed want others to know/ almost try to showcase their struggle, but also some people try to hide it and make it seem like they’re normal
I am a normal, healthy weight and so i don’t look like someone who struggles with a restrictive ed so sometimes I’ll find myself trying to “showcase” my ed in certain ways because i “want” to have anorexia but don’t fit the physical criteria. I just had new roommates move in so it’s been relevant there. I’m almost trying to “show off” in a sense but I probably just look like an idiot😭
I have had disordered eating since 13. I haven’t lived a day that I can remember where I felt like I didn’t need to lose weight. I’m really into health and fitness but borderline disordered eating. I’m way better than I was but my question to those who have struggled, has anyone gotten to a place of true peace and acceptance of your body?
En tik tok me apareció un video donde aparecían varios nombres que hacen clara referencia a TC4.
Entre ellos estaban Ana, Mia, BED, Brian,Paul, Fatty, Bill, Rex, ED
En serio nesesito saber que significa cada uno, solo se de Ana, Mía y ED, en que momento crearon tantos términos
Hi. I’ve been in treatment for an eating disorder (AN) for 20 years (I’m 40). Recently, I’ve come to realize that I may never be able to say that I’m 100% recovered. The concept of “being in the process” speaks to me as perhaps the best possible treatment outcome in my case.
I’m trying to make sense of anorexia in my head - how it’s possible that such an illness exists, how it’s possible that I’m losing my one and only life to it, and whether I will ever fully recover from it and what that would actually mean.
I would really appreciate hearing what you think led to your illness. It would help me enormously if you could share your thoughts. There are so many different factors that are said to contribute to eating disorders, and it seems difficult to find any common denominator. In my case, it was definitely a dysfunctional family and the trauma associated with it.
What do you feel was behind your illness?
And the second question: what is it that keeps you from fully recovering? Or, if you’re at a better stage, in that “middle ground” where I am, what is it that keeps you from recovering completely?
I’d be very grateful for any responses.
P.S. I want to post this question in several ED-related groups, so please bear with me if you see the same question there as well.
For a few months now I (15M) was very slowly developing an ED, and about a month ago it got bad. It's hard to explain the way I eat since I could either eat absolutely nothing one day, eat two meals or just one meal. I don't eat snacks willingly anymore because it just makes me hungrier than I usually am. I'm so tired and weak now and my stomach hurts after I eat. I've lost alot and my boyfriend and friends are worried. Although today was a good ish day (I had two meals) I know I'm getting worse. I'm only fifteen im so tired.
hii, this might sound kind of stupid or delusional, but I genuinely don’t really have anyone I feel comfortable talking to about this.
I really like Alix Earle and have followed her for a while. I mostly watch her TikToks/Instagram and, as a uni student, I find some of her content weirdly relatable being a bit messy, going out, partying, getting ready with friends, etc. I also use her as outfit/beauty inspo a lot.
But lately I’ve noticed that some of it has started affecting me in a way I don’t really like. She’s talked about struggling with an ED and severely restricting food in the past, and now she’s extremely skinny. She claims she's not on a diet but we all know how influencers are. Then her comments are ALWAYS full of people saying things like “it’s snowing,” “she’s skiing,”, basically implying coke/amphetamine use. Obviously, I have no idea whether she actually does drugs and I don’t want to claim that she does. She might as well be on a very strict diet or use stuff like ozempic. But the real problem is that instead of those comments putting me off, they’ve somehow made me curious about trying drugs.
I live somewhere where getting substances is pretty easy and drug use isn’t heavily stigmatized. I’ve also gained some weight recently and I’ve been feeling really awful and insecure about my body. For quite a while now I’ve had this thought in the back of my head of using some kind of stimulant/drug partly because I want to lose weight.
I KNOW logically how stupid that sounds.
Has anyone else experienced this?
In university, I had something, that I'm now pretty sure, was an eating disorder, but never went to any specialist.
It got better, when I got anxiety meds for unrelated reason. My relationship with food got way better, I stopped lying about eating, it went a bit in the other direction with binging, but I mostly manage, now, when I understand what's going on.
What never changed, is the irrational hatred and disgust to my body.
I had it, since I was a child, only time, I didn't hate my body so much, was, when I was unhealtely thin. Now, when I'm way healthier, it's back. I know it isn't rational, and that I shouldn't feel that way. And that makes me feel guilty for feeling like that.
But I feel this red hot rage, every time I see myself in mirror or on pictures. I even thought if it's gender dysphoria, but I'm pretty sure it's the ED.
Did it ever went away with time for any of you? Whatever I do, it never changes. I can't remove it with better habits or with logic.
Hello! I am a blue collar worker who can no longer attend work consistently due to the disorder. I am about to start school for the union I have been accepted into, this week is my last week at work before school. I am writing this after calling out from being exhausted again. When I’m not sick I’m the best worker and so eager to learn. I just want to be them again. I have one week of school a month for this semester. I plan on taking the month after my first week off to recover. I call it a forced recovery because if I keep doing this my mother threatened to take me in to a hospital and because I need to keep making money to survive. I am supporting my amazing girlfriend and I and she has been SO supportive of me. She’s losing hope and I can tell :( I don’t want to disappoint her. In these last two weeks I’ve been in “peace” if you could cal it that. Purgatory before trying to recover. I’m realizing every day it’s not peace, it’s quiet deterioration of my mind and body. I can not think and I can’t even fathom being romantic, which my lovely girlfriend deserves. I need to recover. I am dedicated to doing it. But I am so scared. I’ve never eaten normally in my life. I’m so glad there are these subreddits. If you made it to the end thank you haha I hope you have a nice day and good recovery :3 Has anyone else experienced something similar to either the partner thing or the work thing? I’d love to hear what yall have to say 🙏🙏
hey y‘all - I struggled with disordered eating as a teen and am seeing similar patterns in my stepdaughter. She currently does not eat breakfast or lunch, and only picks at her dinner. She‘s a pescatarian that doesn’t like to eat fish frequently (she claims she eats fish too often and is at risk for mercury poisoning) and does not like meat substitutes or imitation meat. This leaves mostly fruit, veggies, and carbs. she will come home from school, not having eaten since the night before at least, eat a bag of chips, takis, or other snack foods, and then just eat bites of the sides at dinner. I’ve asked her multiple times what I can make that she’ll eat and when I do make those things (which all happen to be things her siblings will not eat - a very short list) she only takes a few bites and says she ate earlier (which I know is not true because she doesn’t use her lunch card at school).
at least at our house I know she’s eating something but her mom doesn’t cook or have a sit down meal time/has a fend-for-yourself vibe at her house so I’m not sure she eats anything at all over there.
her dad and I are getting very concerned. I have tried packing her lunches, having grab and go snacks in the fridge for her to take, etc but no luck. I’ve had casual convos with her about food being fuel for the body and how we need to take care of ourselves to make our bodies healthy and work the best they can but don’t wanna make her feel uncomfortable or start hiding things from us.
any suggestion??
My mom is trying to get me into equip and i want to know if anyone has any experience with it? I've seen good reviews online but it looks... i dont know, something seems off about it but I'm not sure if thats just my anxiety talking? if anyone has experience, can you tell me what its like? I just want to know what im getting into
For the past few years mostly(although it’s been going on much longer but not as bad) my husband has been very emotionally abusive because of my ED. We are both almost 40
W 2 kids. I’ve been dealing with an ED for 20
Years. Mostly in form of “quasi” recovered state, not severely underweight, but very compulsive exercise and rigid eating routines. Very ocd for both which I’m not on medication for. I’ve been seeing a therapist weekly for a couple years, and went to residential last year but left after 2 weeks , for unforeseen circumstance. It actually was a relief being there, (even though the no movement piece was very hard. )
Anyways, over the past 3 yrs my husband has become more annoyed at my ways. And feels my inflexibility around my routines to be hard to live with. I am completely understanding of all of this and am never denying that it isn’t an issue. I’ve just obviously been living with the need to have this routine to keep me “safe”. Especially when I became a mom, I latched on to the need for my exercise and eating routine even more. Covid further engrained it . A year ago I worked w a recovery coach who told me I would need to go cold turkey on exercise. This was the most difficult thing to do and still haven’t completely stoppped for prolonged period. I cut it down, changed things out, just walked… but would spiral back. My husband (also an athlete and loves to workout) knew my coach told me I’d need to completely stop … so in trying to go from hours of exercise to nothing , it was not easy. I’d find myself doing squats around the house to get little bursts in , or burpees upstairs while putting clothes away, and if he suspected something he would be super angry. I became very afraid of him and his reactions. So I struggled, trying to completely stop , but still trying to just get even 10 min of something in , in secret. And this snowballed. I’d have to go for walks while running errands on days he worked from home. Or try to sneak in little bits here and there. It was so stressful. Still is. Later I reached back out to my therapist to work with her again and she said she never would have had me try to go cold turkey. She’d ween me down. My psychiatrist said the same thing. And being how bad my ocd became , that it would be nearly impossible to just stop it all without medication. But my husband just saw any bit of me working out as failure and resistance and refusal to change. Yet it’s funny that he has always been so controlling and upset about me doing any form of exercise yet never upset if I don’t eat something or seeing me continue eating the way I eat. Which ultimately me going for a walk could be the lesser of the evils compared to not eating?
So… because of all this. We live in constant state of tension. He doesn’t see the change he thinks I should have made already and wants me
To go back to a treatment facility and is basically emotionally abusive , and seeming to punish me into going. Which many of u may know that will not work. He lashes out at me a lot, makes harsh remarks , always has a mean tone , doesn’t talk to me at all unless I ask a question. Many times says he doesn’t care about me, thinks i dont care about anyone and refuse to change, which is mot the case. I am not happy with the mental torture loop of living with this . I am not content and saying oh I don’t care this is how i want to be. I told him if I got to point where I feel I can’t do it in my own , I will reach out to centersbut I am not at that point. It’s difficult as a mom as well, and my kids have already dealt with me being away a few times (once to a facility and twice to my aunts to try and create a facility like environment to change behaviors, which did work) but my kids were falling apart each time. It’s hard knowing how mean and cold my husband has become and how little he has truly cared about me . I don’t know I could get over knowing how he has treated me. I am not a bad person, just saline with a mental illness. Yet he goes telling his family and friends I lie and am deceitful simply because I was struggling trying to not exercise, and not being able to fully stop. I’m sure others know how this disease can make u shameful and secretive to simply survive. I wasn’t refusing to change by caving and going for a walk when I was told to cold turkey do nothing, I was just struggling. Going from hours of intense exercise to trying to do nothing at all. Anyways, long vent. But looking for any advice
And similar stories.
I'm currently bulimic. Idk if it's normal but I notice that I'm craving more water and sodas than food. I keep drinking more fluids to the point where i always go to the bathroom.. does anyone else have this kind of experience as well?
I have been in recovery for a few years. I would say physically I am fully recovered but mentally I struggle a LOT every day. I have come very far but I’ve recently been struggling a lot with ED thoughts. They don’t seem to ever go away and I am now becoming depressed because of it. Has anyone else experienced this after being in recovery for a while? Does it go away? I just feel like I’m going to be burdened with this forever and it isn’t going away.
I feel like I could have everything I want in life and not be able to enjoy any of it because of the burden of the ED.