Father of child disappeared, found out he's just ignoring us
Long story short, father of my 3 year old has struggled with addiction, I waited for three years for him to sort of get his life together and come join ours (as we agreed). We live in different states, but he's visited our son about three times since he was born. It was "wishy-washy" for most of the time, and his actions never matched his words, it hit the fan with me when he spent his savings on drugs knowing he was to visit soon, then couldnt because he was broke again. I argued with him a lot about things.
He told me his sobriety depended on me staying with him, but now i feel like it was used as an excuse for his behavior more often than not. I took a while to cool down after our last argument where i came back to him being gone, socials deleted, number changed and emails blocked I'm guessing. I have no way to contact except by mail, which has been ignored.
Now my kids birthday is coming up, and i feel especially betrayed, depressed, and like I'm grieving for two. Addiction is so gripping I know, but I honestly thought he wouldn't abandon his own kid. I contacted his family and they've reassured me he's alive and fine, but radio silence otherwise, and I highly doubt they even know about our child.
Just starting to accept things and going through the grieving process, trying to stay positive and focus on the present. Thanks for reading my vent