u/AccidentHuge5247

Hi all :)

I had my first lap around 9 months ago, they found superficial endo on my uterosacral ligaments. My initial recovery went well, but for the past 6ish months my lower back pain has increasingly gotten worse.

Before surgery I always had lower back pain during my periods, but now the pain is daily. Even standing for like 20-30 minutes doing the dishes hurts and feels like pressure all in my lower back. On my period now is way worse, day 1-3 I’m pretty much immobile.

I visited my GP for other symptoms like extreme fatigue, moodiness, 15kg weight gain, and the increased pain. I’m doing labs to check other things but what can I do about this pain? I’m getting referred back to my surgeon but I wanted to see if any others have gone through this?

Are there any exercises/stretches I can maybe start doing from home?

Thank you 🫶🏽🫶🏽

Hi all, this is my first post here :) seeking advice or to just rant

I’m mid twenties now, and last night during a catch up call with my parents it quickly turned sour. We were discussing why I post self care content, and in my own wholesome way I explained it’s because when I was 11 I had to learn to shave my own legs and butchered them because my mum was too busy. I create content to show other girls/women how to do things safely because I have a beauty and skin qualification/background, it gives me fulfilment.

From this comment, my mum latched onto it. She turned it into me saying she neglected me, and was pretty angry. I tried softening it (conditioning ig) but at the end she gave me an ultimatum, did she neglect me yes or no. I eventually just said yes, because she didn’t show me a lot of things during puberty.

From the top of my head I can recall this
- I taught myself how to shave after asking multiple times
- I didn’t get a bra until I was a C cup, after wearing 3 camisoles under my uniform for a year or longer to try and hide them/give support
- I was never shown how to use pads & tampons, or how often to change them etc
- she grabbed and squeezed my legs saying they were fat with cellulite and it was ugly (I now know I have diagnosed Lipedema)
- I got stretch marks during my growth spurts, she said it was ugly and only pregnant women get them
- when I had a UTI for the first time, she accused me of having sex and I had to get medication through my school

I ended up sending a message to her about this after she sent me a message basically saying she’s hurt, gave me everything, and it’s my fault for not coming to her as a child.

I’m tired, I don’t always want to have to watch what I say and manage her reaction. How can you blame the child for these things?

UPDATE: I talked with my older brother who stays with them, and she came running to him after to talk about what happened. There were so many lies, like COMPLETELY made up to make me look like the bad guy. Apparently I made a comment that I can’t wait for her to die so I can redecorate the house they are currently buying (obviously not true, I made a joke that I would buy my own house in Italy). I was also apparently a “late bloomer” and got my period when I was 15, not 10/11. Completely rewriting everything. I’m so glad my brother immediately said that didn’t sound like my character. Thank you for all the comments, I was never really sure if my mum was a narc, or if I’m just too sensitive. I really appreciate your help, guidance and advice <3