I’m 28F and landed the most beautiful master with a beautiful home (manager probably like 50F) (she’s renting to own). But AFTER I signed the lease, I met the third roommate, 51M. for the smaller room people didn’t want, as the competition I beat out did not want it and it’s a huge downgrade from my room.
I spend a lot of time in my room anyways because I have all my art stuff and it is a gorgeous room. Definitely the most beautiful one I’ve rented yet. but I just left my ex husbands home so this was like a huge like destabilizing shock for me as I sort of thought or HOPED the roommate she spoke beforehand, was going to be anything other than what he is.
I am particularly odd as I am an ambivert. Outside I have to be an artist, extroverted. Inside my home I recharge for the next one. I make a lot of money in few hours, so I have time to focus on my craft which I have also done well in. I just started my own small business and I got to build a studio in the house. Like this life is my total dream Barbie esque fantasy except for the dude.
He (51M) was basically couch surfing for a year before 50F gave him a chance. He’s definitely an alcoholic as he is either watching tv or asleep in front of the tv. Then he complains about me making a snack at 2am like I don’t pay more rent than him.
He literally reminds me of that one random dude on the couch that u wake up briefly to pass the joint to in comedies like the movie half baked.
But he’s worse because stoners are least likely to say stupid passive aggressive shit which he always does. He’s made a lot of jokes about my age at my expense, in the sense of “oh I thought you were 50 like us my bad” when I have people assuming I’m younger than I am most of the time. It’s whatever like that’s how projection works, I think I look my age. But ANYWAYS it’s just like stuff you’d think a person would’ve outgrown a long time ago.
I am aware his mental health MUST have to be in play as I also have my own shit. But he’s definitely neurotypical. I am adhd+cptsd
This matters because it’s a huge part of why the safety I have within the home truly matters to me. He makes it feel like a less safe space unfortunately. Although when I brought up my concern about living with a stranger/ man , she insisted she trusts and believes in him as a good person. She was upset with me as she felt I was bejng a young person judging, which isnt entirely false. I am a young person judging but bro is twice my age man. You barely work enough to pay your bills. He doesn’t even have HOBBIES man like come on. Alcoholism is real but man living next to a mid life crisis of someone who is always killing the vibe by giving like sarcastic “funny” answers
Which sure yeah I’m not saying he’s a whole villain but he’s definitely a whole moocher. He be eating whoevers food he feels like. And he NEVER. Stays in his room. LIKE NEVER
after two months of living here, 50F realized what I was trying to say. He uses all her subscriptions. He uses her tv. He keeps complaining about not having a bed. He wants us to help him get it. 50F (house manager) even wanted to give her huge tv we share in the studio just to get him the fuck out the public space. This is ultimately her house and she works from home too.
I could just immediately tell this man is not grateful for what he has. And I hate living next to a person like that when I’m always being scrutinized by him for shit like stepping down the stairs too loud. He can’t even just come to me as an adult to say that. When I try to ask direct questions to clarify his very indirect answers I walk away having no idea what the fuck we were talking about. Even though the conversation should’ve ended on a note we were in the same page. So he has to go to 50F to ask me a small 28F because me coming down the stairs inconveniences his 16 hours a day of watching movies besides the part time job he has which is only three days a week. The rest of his waking hours are here. Making me get in trouble with the house owner for fucking stepping?? When she was treating me like I need to let him have a second chance in life. So I decided to suck it up since for someone getting divorced I’m in a perfect situation to the T. Me and 50F are close but that’s HER friend, you know? So I just have to let it be that.
I’m really just here bitching because I know I can’t do anything about it til my lease is up in a year.
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