r/badroommates

TL;DR: My roommate of 2 years suddenly told me she wants to live alone and started pressuring me to move out. I refused since I like the apartment and didn’t plan to leave, and the situation escalated into a heated argument. I’m now unsure how to handle the situation moving forward.

Hello everyone,

I’m writing because I need to put this situation somewhere. I’ve talked about it with people around me, but I also think outside perspectives could help.

I’ve been living in a shared apartment with another woman for almost two years now. We’re both in our 30s (and yes, we’re French, living in France). We’ve generally gotten along, but most of our friction has come from very different lifestyles.

For example, when I moved in, I took over her previous roommate’s room. My current roommate used to play violin until midnight or later. It took a lot of repeated conversations and reminders from my side to make her understand that this wasn’t okay for me, and that I didn’t want to have to act as the “noise police” in my own home. We eventually agreed on a cutoff time: 9:30pm for any noisy activities. But she has often gone past that, either playing violin late or assembling furniture, hammering at 10:30pm, etc.

Each time, she would tell me things like “I thought if I played softly you wouldn’t hear it” or “I figured it wouldn’t bother you since you’re not working tomorrow,” etc. She has also told me on several occasions that since she has lived here for six years (and even lived alone for a year before having roommates), if her lifestyle doesn’t suit me, I should be the one to leave.

Three weeks ago, she asked to talk and told me she wanted to live alone. She said this desire had been growing for a long time, even before I moved in, but she hadn’t felt able to tell me. At that point, she only brought up the idea that I might move out. I listened and acknowledged her wish to live alone, but I told her I did not plan to move out, at least not this year. She insisted that I think about it.

In the meantime, she also signed a permanent job contract at a bakery, whereas before she was working irregular artistic gigs without stable income.

Yesterday, we had another conversation in a café. She asked if I had thought about it. I told her again that I didn’t want to move because I like the apartment: it’s very well located for my job, I have a good relationship with neighbors, and the rent is extremely low for a central location.

She immediately got angry in the middle of the café, in front of everyone. She yelled at me, called me selfish, and said I was trying to kick her out of her own home because she is “more at home here than I am.” She also told me that if we keep living together, she would become “very difficult and unbearable.” I had the feeling she was pressing every emotional button possible: yelling, switching to victim mode, trying to appease me, then getting angry again… The only thing she didn’t do was literally throw herself on the floor.

I was in shock and ended up crying in front of her. I told her I was disappointed to see her react like that. She replied that she didn’t care.

Later that evening, she sent me an email with a bunch of rental listings, no message, just links. And honestly, the apartments she sent are really low quality. To me, that felt like another form of pressure.

During our conversation, I asked whether she would be willing to cover moving costs, but I think she misunderstood me, because she said she might be able to advance some expenses. From my perspective, this is her wish (to live alone), so she should take responsibility for the financial and practical consequences. It shouldn’t automatically be on me to move out.

For now, we agreed that I would get back to her later once I’ve had time to process everything. I’m currently on holiday.

She also told me she now has the financial means to live alone in the apartment, meaning she no longer actually needs a roommate.

She said: “That’s why I took so long to tell you, I knew you’d react badly.” I told her, “Well yes, obviously? You’re asking me to leave.” She replied: “No, that’s not a normal reaction for everyone… many people wouldn’t react like that and would see the positive side.”

Right now I’m trying to take a step back. I think the best approach for me is to return to a “JADE” stance: don’t justify, argue, defend yourself, or explain.

But I’m still unsure whether I should clearly say again that I don’t want to move out (at the risk of making the situation worse), or whether I should say “okay, but then you cover all moving costs,” even though I don’t think she would accept that. Part of me wonders if that’s even a bluff on her side.

I honestly think she may just be avoiding the practical and administrative burden of making changes herself. This wouldn’t be the first time. For example, six months ago she broke the ceramic cooktop and I had to push her quite hard to contact the landlord. To this day, it still hasn’t been repaired. When I bring it up, she says things like “it’s fine, three out of four burners still work, and I’m just slow with admin tasks in general.”

PS: Our landlord is pretty unresponsive and not very helpful, so I don’t think involving him would really change anything. He generally doesn’t seem to care much about tenants anyway.

So my partner (27M) and I (29F) have a roommate (32M) living with us. He’s not on the lease, and didn’t move in to our apartment when we moved in. He had reached out to me asking if we knew anyone with a spare bedroom he could rent temporarily cuz he was getting kicked out of his place and my partner and I had a spare bedroom we were gonna use for our son, but our son ended up just sleeping in the room with us due to my anxiety.

We had him move in for $700 initially, and charged $500 a month. We didn’t require him to pay electric, water, WiFi, or trash because we were just trying to help a friend get on his feet. That was until our electric doubled in price and we asked him for $70 (it went from $150 to $300 but we still wanted to be helpful and fair).

When he moved in we told him our lease was up June 1st. He said that was perfect cuz he would finish school by then and have a new place set up. At the end of April I reminded him our lease was up in June. He said that was fine. Last weekend I saw him make a post asking for a room to rent cuz he didn’t want to be homeless living out of his car.

My partner and I had found another 2 bedroom duplex down the street and were about to sign the lease for it. My partner is a kind person and had the idea of letting our roommate move with us and have an extra 3 months to find a place but not stay because our son is old enough to sleep in his own room now but we don’t mind having him in our room for an extra few months. He brought this idea up with roomie and roomie agreed. We told him we were gonna need the $500 before we moved so could put it towards the deposit. And that we would charge him $350 a month just for water, electric, WiFi, trash, and storage space

I will say I was initially against this idea because of how much electricity he uses, and his living habits (using an ungodly amount of toilet paper, smoking pot in the bedroom, washing multiple loads of laundry a day, everyday, blasting music at 2 am knowing I had to be up at 4, constantly clogging the toilet and not fixing it, constantly clogging our shower, getting upset when our WiFi was too slow, leaving the windows open while the ac was on, etc)

Yesterday my roommate messaged my partner saying that he’s not giving us the $500 until he sees the lease, we send a copy of it to his dad, and we sign a lease with him stating that he can reside with us until he moves out or our lease ends (we’re signing a 15 month lease). Obviously this concerned us because we told him we were only trying to give him extra time to move and we don’t want to be put into a legal situation where he won’t move out of our home when it’s time too

I had messaged roommate last night and said “hey this isn’t you moving in with us, this was us trying to give you extra time to find a stable housing situation so you didn’t live out your car during the summer. The $500 wasn’t a deposit fee for you to move in with us, that was your last months of rent we were just going to put it towards our own deposit for the place, we were actually expecting you to not even unpack your belongings while there because we would’ve expected you to be actively searching for a place. Because of the drama being caused over this I’m no longer comfortable with you moving with us, as it feels you’re trying to take advantage of my partners kindness”. He has both refused to respond to us telling him that this wasn’t going to be a permanent solution and never was going to be a permanent solution from the beginning. If it was we would’ve had him split all the living costs equally.

He won’t pay his last months, he won’t respond to us, and we honestly don’t know what to do now and we’re worried that when we move out on the 29th he’s not going to be ready to leave and it’ll cause us issues with our previous landlord.

Any advice on how to handle this?

TL;DR

Our current lease is ending and we gave roomie plenty of time to find a place to move too and he didn’t so he was offered an extra 3 months to find a place but not move in fully with us at the new place. He then sent a long message asking for our new lease agreement and having us sign one with him stating he could live there until the lease ended and refuses to pay his last months rent with us unless we sign it.

Edit:

My partner and I go to work very early mornings (I leave at 4:30 am and he leaves at 7 am), with my partner dropping our son off at daycare. We get home usually around 4-5 pm. The instances of BRM smoking inside has been maybe once every other week to 2 weeks for the last 3 months and he’s only been here for 4 months. Even then as soon as we smell it we open the windows and take the baby outside so he’s not around the smell and my partner has always said something about it to BRM. Hopefully this can ease off the parent shaming a bit, and being treated like I just willingly leave my son in a smoke filled house all day

Our son can also sleep thru anything (it’s a gift tbh), I however am a very light sleeper so the music at night doesn’t wake the baby up, or even my partner, just me. Hopefully this can kinda ease the parent shaming a bit

Like literally. She stinks. She has a dog, who also stinks. It doesn’t make sense because my roommate is a very clean person. Always picks up after herself, and keeps her space very tidy, tidier than me at some times. But she also smokes weed. Not in the house, but anyone who knows the weed smell, even keeping it IN the house makes the house stink. My room and bathroom smell amazing, and I even have a litter box in my bathroom that never smells the way her dog does. Im typically the first one up in the morning so when I open my bedroom door my nose is flooded with gross stale dog smell and weed smell. Mind you we are on opposite ends of the house, but for some reason she stinks up the whole house. How do I know it’s not me being stinky? Cause when she was gone for a week on vacation, the house smelt great!!! And when she returned, so did the stink. I would say it’s mostly her dog causing the smell ( I can’t stand her dog). But I also understand that’s her baby, the same way my cats are mine, but they don’t stink. This isn’t as serious as some of the other posts on this subreddit, but I just wanted to complain/ hear what other people have to say lol

My roommate recently got a bf and now she s bringing him everyday all over the day. They occasionally go for late night walks but apart from that,he s almost usually in our room. I tried to reason to her and tell her to minimize the visits of him in our room but she lashes put that she s allowed to stay in her room whenever she pleases. Ive barely got her to sleep in his dorm(one level downstairs in the flat) but she always tries her luck to sleep with him in our room. I need my alone time, i need my intimacy and i can't even change my clothes without hiding in my wardrobe. Im sick of all of it.

Am I the asshole?

My roommate has this weird passive aggressive behavior where he keeps doing small annoying things repeatedly….
If I ask him something simple like washing his plate, he’ll intentionally delay it or do the opposite. He keeps making unnecessary comments, ignores boundaries unless I repeat myself multiple times,
and acts immature in really subtle ways that slowly drain your mental peace…..!

I’ve lived alone for years before this, so maybe I notice personal-space issues more, but living with someone like this genuinely feels mentally exhausting over time.

What to do !

Me and my boyfriend recently moved into a new place with 2 roommates, roommate 1 is fine but roommate 2 has become some cause for concern (criminal history, drug habits, etc)

he's VERY open about his past, but in a way where it kind of seems like he's bragging about it, i wouldn't really care id it was just theft or whatever but some of these crimes include assault and accidental manslaughter with almost zero remorse whatsoever and he's said verbatim before that he ALWAYS escalates if someones wronged him to ridiculous/dangerous levels so they "don't fuck with him again" during one of his many tangents he goes on
we had a problems before with someone aggressive coming to the house because of him that we reported to the landlord, but since then the remarks about "getting back at people" and showing off weapons have made me scared to report further.
however last night he was DEFINITELY smoking drugs (based on friends who've lived around addicts, it smelt like like crack or meth) Indoors in his bedroom at the back of the place and stinking out the whole house. I was aware he had an addiction issue (AFTER moving in, i'm fairly certain he's lying to the landlord that he's off them despite it being very evident in his behaviour)

besides the issues he seems fairly friendly and usually i like to try and lay it down w the person before going to the landlord (especially if eviction is on the table with serious offences lile that) but his aggression / stuff hes done that could possibly read as threats (ie showing off his weapons) is making me think it'd be better to just speak to the landlord directly?

dont want legal advice, just need some tips on how to navigate living with a guy like this, hes usually gone for days at a time / doesnt usually do it in the house at least so not always an issue but kind of drawing a line here a bit

tldr, ex con roommate smoking crack/meth in his bedroom, aggressive arrest records making me hesitant to talk

TLDR; roommate didn’t inform us that her bf would be living with us 24/7 for a month until he was already here, and it’s extremely disruptive. What are reasonable boundaries I can suggest to her when I talk to her about it?

My roommate didn’t even announce in advance that he was staying here until he was actively already in the house, which I thought was so inconsiderate and rude. I’m quite mad because other than the fact that she didn’t inform us, this place was advertised as female-only and no couples, and while I understand and am content with partners staying over 1-2 times a week, it’s very different to someone staying 24/7 for a whole month.

He also is constantly in the common areas even when she’s not home, and this may be an unpopular opinion but I believe that guests should be limiting their use of the common areas and stay in the roommate’s room whenever possible, rather than the opposite.

We are 5 roommates in total but the biggest problem is that 3 of them are close friends, so unfortunately, the other two will agree with her no matter what happens. It’s disruptive because like I said, he’s constantly in the common areas, sometimes alone and sometimes with his gf or her friends, and it stresses me out because when I come home, I just want to be able to wind down in peace without having to bump into stranger men I never signed up to live with. It’s affecting my mental health because I’m constantly on edge and overstimulated, and also am unable to focus on my work because they’re loud right outside my room.

I’ve checked my lease and my landlords never specified anything related to guests, so it’s unfortunately not an immediate violation. I doubt they’d be happy to know there’s someone living rent free not on the lease for a month without even letting them know, but I want to try and talk to my roommate first before going to the landlord and destroying my relationship with all three of them, since they’ve been living here for at least a year and I only moved in in February.

What are some reasonable boundaries and rules to set, especially surrounding common areas?

We live in a house with 5 people total, we all get along pretty well except for the one roommate I'll call "problem".

My parents own the house and agreed to rent it to me, my gf and two friends. Notice how that adds up to 4 not five people. My friend's girlfriend (problem) came over (more than a year ago) for what we thought was a few nights because her family was giving her a hard time or something.

Problem never left, in fact problem started splitting rent with my friend unknown to us until I overheard them talking about it. After that my parents were forced to write problem into the lease.

Problem never was grateful for the cheap living in a relatively nice house, she ignores us for the most part and is a messy, loud and annoying person. We tried being friendly but she would flat out ignore us when we tried to say hi. She's highly narcissistic, but regardless the quality of living significantly decreased in the household once problem moved in.

Now we have been on a month to month contract since problem got on the lease pretty much. We will be signing a yearly lease soon, and returning to a 4 person contract, our landlords will not be renewing problem's lease.

It feels great to know we'll be at peace soon, though we might have to find a new roommate to replace my friend if he decides to leave with problem, especially because she's insanely controlling of him.

Hello friends!
My roommate (23M) and I (23M) have been living together for about 8 months now, and we have been friends since 3rd grade.
We’ve had an argument about how often my girlfriend sleeps over, which he brought up in a very immature way. Pretty much, he demanded she start paying rent because she “practically lives here” and blew up about a ton of stuff he did not previously communicate with me about.

I told him we could be reasonable adults about preferences and ground rules, so I told him she would only be over 3x per week max, our lights off time is 11pm, and no being loud on weeknights. We also agreed that if he had grievances, he could communicate them like an adult and come to me about it.

Everything was fine for a few months since we were holding up our agreement. Everything changed after my graduation last week though.

I was decorating my graduation cap with my girlfriend on a Thursday night (my roommate and I both work remote on fridays, so we tend to stay up later) in the living room. We weren’t being obnoxious, I was just decorating my cap from 9pm to about 11pm. Keep in mind, he was on speakerphone with his buddies through this entire time, we could clearly hear him and his conversation. As soon as he hung up his phone, I respected the lights out and went to sleep.

I woke up to a text from him saying “why is your pornstar girlfriend back to living here again??” She hasn’t been over more than 3x per week since we previously talked about this btw. This was also an extremely out-of-pocket name to call her because he heard a comment I made about her past during a private conversation. ( she had some old nudes of her from when she was 19 floating around the internet). I told him what he heard was private and that he wasn’t to bring it up, as it would make her very uncomfortable.

I immediately told him that was not okay and to never refer to my girlfriend that way again. He just replied with “I will”.

I told him that was a private comment he heard and that it was extremely disrespectful to attack her. He just responded with “maybe you should be careful saying things around me about your dirty little life, I can’t know things, you know this.”

Then, he went on a rant about how I was doing “chores” at night time and how I’m so loud, and that chores aren’t a nighttime activity. I literally explained to him before I decorated my cap that I was going to be doing so in the living room because my graduation was the next day.

He has been doing coke with his frat buddies nearly every weekend and tumbling home at 2-3am. So, I’m not sure if that’s the cause of his irritability. But, I cannot stand to live with him anymore after the way he’s acting, especially because I have gone out of my way to be a good roommate and friend to him. I clean drastically more than he does, have done his chores for him
when he’s busy or can’t, wash his dishes, etc.

I will also note that he had a 2 month period where he was hooking up with the same girl 2-3x a week. I said absolutely nothing about this, did not complain about his noise level, and was just relieved that he seemed happy for a bit. I even let him borrow my car each time he went to go pick her up. But, as soon as she moved back home, he went back to being extremely irritated anytime my girlfriend was over, despite us being in my room 90% of the time.

Has anyone dealt with roommates like this? I tried the calm and gentle approach on our previous argument, but the comment he made about my girlfriend and the way he’s been handling it made me cut him off as a friend. Now, I just ignore his existence. Any time he’s in the apartment, I just ignore him or anything he has to say.

So I (22f) live with two women and one man all 55+ (family friends) for about a month. Only charge me $500/month in AZ. But idk if I can do it any longer.
They’re very nice BUT I have like no space? Like they have two fridges and it’s basically first come first serve when it comes to space and they will not throw out old food out and I can’t even cook because I don’t have any space in the fridge to place my food. So I’m eating out more than I planned. The older man is retired and is always home. He will be in the common spaces from like 8am-2am MOST DAYS. Everytime he sees me he will try to have a convo with me(I work OT I do not have energy.) Like yesterday I came home with groceries and he was in his room for once and the moment he heard me HE LEFT HIS ROOM TO TALK TO ME. Very kind man tho but one of my pet peeves is people talking to me when I’m cooking or cleaning.

Another thing is again I don’t have any spot in the kitchen so all my kitchenware+appliances, seasonings, rice is all in my room which I am not enjoying because it takes up a good amount of space in my room. Lastly, him and wife argue sometimes(she starts cussing and slamming things). She works nights so she’s up till 12am on her days off and she starts playing music+ singing and just has a loud voice and woke me up a couple times(I work very early mornings).

Granted yes I can get a mini fridge and yes I can tell them about my problem but these are family friends and in my culture this can be seen as very disrespectful. The other roommate who’s been here for years say this is normal for them.

Should I wait it out for a few more months- year or dip out when I can?

TLDR- I’m having troubles discussing my problems because of the age gap and family relation. Should I just move out or get used to the environment first?

My roommate secretly got a cat. She brought up wanting to get a cat a few weeks ago, but I protested saying I don't want a cat in the apartment and asked her to get one after I move out. However, today I saw her posting a story with a cat in her room. When I asked about it she said she is keeping this cat for her friend for a month. We have 11 days left on the lease. When I asked her why she got a cat without consulting me, she said she knew I would say no and she didn’t want to get my permission for it, and it was an emergency because her friend needed a cat sitter (her friend lives in a different state btw, why he had to drive to another state to leave his cat is beyond me). I pointed out it was uncool of her to bring a cat without any sort of communication with me, especailly when she knew full well I'm not a fan of keeping a pet in an apartment. She kept saying the cat will stay in her room and won't get out so I must adjust. She kept answering me in disrespectful and aggressive ways and refused to take any of my concerns seriously. I asked her to take the cat elsewhere if he/she gets out and she vaguely agreed. (Considering her character, I don't think she will hold up her end of the agreement).

And then she goes on to post another story about how I woke her up at 10 am in the morning by banging on her door. She later posted memes about how she managed to get under someone's skin and I'm pretty sure that was about me. Am I making a bigger deal out of this? How do I deal with a disrespectful roommate who has no regards for others?

Ps. Our lease doesn’t allow pets, even temporarily. I don't know how that's going to backfire if the landlord finds out.

I live with a roommate who isn’t doing anything extreme, but the little noises are starting to get to me. Loud videos, phone calls, cabinets closing, random late-night noise — nothing dramatic when explained, but when it happens every day, it just wears me down.The hard part is that I hate confrontation. I don’t want to make the apartment awkward, and I also don’t want to seem overly sensitive. Part of me thinks I should just get a pair of decent sleep earbuds and stop making it a bigger issue than it needs to be. But another part feels like I shouldn’t have to wear earbuds in my own room just to feel calm.Has anyone dealt with this kind of roommate noise? Did you bring it up directly, or just use earbuds, white noise, or other workarounds? I’m trying to figure out what’s reasonable before I say anything.

So my flatmate(A), she is a bit sexually open.She often picks unavailable men. Like guys who are about to get married to someone etc. and I never truly sit and judge her. (She however on occasion has judged me when i was talking to a man via linkedin for professional help and he started hitting on me - saying i was giving those hints/using men. )

Recently we were just sitting and watching TV (my third flatmate and me and she(A) also got in).

At some point she started to talk about how she m&&turb&&&& to her young intern at work. But while she was starting to narrate it she just made a comment saying, “oh T(me) shouldn’t hear it she’s a lamb”. And I took some real offense at it.

(Background context - I’m a virgin by choice and because i’ve had boundaries around sex only after commitment. But i do have experience with guys (physically).)

So I called her out on it saying it’s because of my boundaries and not because i’m some naive thing. (Which she then said she was just saying it cuz she was being poetic)

Do you think the lamb thing was a bit reductive or am I making a big deal???

TLDR: One of my roommates is an asshole who keeps breaking his lease and making life suck but our apartment won't do anything about it. I can't decide if I should stay living here and keep dealing with him or move out and be homeless for 3 week for the chance of something better.

I live in a 4x4 in a college town. For the first while, it was alright. I lived with my best friend (female), a grad student (male), and a drug addict (male). Before we moved in the drug addict told us he smoked (something the rest of us had explicitly listed as an ABSOLUTE DEAL BREAKER on our roommate matching forums. In my case, it is because my best friend, who was marked as my preferred roommate, is very very sensitive to smoke.). He told us he would only smoke outside, on the patio. We said okay, so long as you clean up after yourself. Barely a month later, he started smoking indoors. We told him to stop. He didn't.
We reported him to the apartment complex, they said they couldn't do anything without photo proof but he was smoking in his room with the door closed so we couldn't get proof. It should be noted that he is does not have a medical marijuana card and recreational use is illegal here. However, when we first moved in he made a very very big show of explaining to all of us his past of crime or some shit where he explained an extremely long and damn near comical list of crimes and admitted to having a gun in his room. He also made a show of telling us how many friends he has living in our apartment complex. The apartment complex called him and he admitted to smoking week and he stopped smoking in doors for a few weeks but then he started again.

We were all willing to just deal with it until he got a girlfriend and the whole thing became a nightmare. We were willing to deal with the weed smell, we were willing to deal with never being able to use the front patio, we were willing to deal with the embarrassment every time we had guests when they saw our disgusting ash and spit covered patio, we were willing to deal with him drinking loudly with his friends, we were even willing to look the other way when he would bring out other types of drugs randomly. It was bad when he got a dog because we would hear him yelling at it and beating it at all hours but we were too scared to call the cops on him because he has made it very clear that he does not respect the law. Luckily, he rehomed the dog after a month or so (no, he did not pay the pet rent; yes, this was a second violation of our lease agreement).

However, when he got a girlfriend he became fucking insufferable. I liked his girlfriend at first! Until she moved in (against our lease) and started using all of my stuff. I have had my boyfriend stay with us for a bit longer than is allowed by our lease so I would feel hypocritical reporting him for it (my boyfriend does not use the common spaces if I am not there and has only been left home alone without me there for less than 5 hours at a time while I went to class). I was getting annoyed with them using my pots and pans and not cleaning them immediately afterward. When I went to make empanadas and noticed all of my salt was gone I asked my best friend what happened to my salt, as she is the only one who has asked permission to use it. His girlfriend used all of my salt to clean her bong! Salt isn't expensive, I know this, but the goddamn audacity! She didnt ask or even tell me! She just left like 3 grains of salt in the container. They kept taking my silverware into his room (neither the drug addict or his girlfriend have any utensils, pots, or pans of their own) and not bringing it back. I kept running out of silverware. I kept going to cook dinner and finding my pots and pans dirtied (they wouldn't clean them for days!). The shit that pushed me over the edge was when they started putting my pots and bowls in the fridge with food in them and letting them mold. I threw away all of the food that was in my pots and bowls, cleaned everything, and now keep it all in my room. All of my pots, pans, cooking utensils, and silverware. I did message our roommate group chat to explain why everything was missing and I had messaged a few days prior begging them to clean up after themselves. Also it should be noted that after she started staying over, our utilities bill went up $70! The grad student sent a message to our group chat begging everyone to lower our consumption because of the bills, something myself and my best friend strongly agree with.

A few days ago the drug addict sent a long message yelling at everyone because someone took his clothes out of the washer and put them on the counter instead of putting them in the drier (it was the grad student). That is a dick move, but it doesn't really warrant the borderline threats he was sending considering the grad student had done that to the rest of us in the past.
The next day the grad student had broken his lease and moved out. He didn't tell us he had moved out until after it already happened. The drug addict and his girlfriend have not said a word to my best friend or I since this happened.

Now, the problem we have encountered is that the drug addict has already renewed his lease. My best friend is moving out and my boyfriend intends to move in with me. Problem is, I don't know if I should stay living in this apartment or request a transfer. On one hand, I am comfortable here, I have upgraded furniture despite paying the normal price, and I live on the first floor. Also, if I transfer apartments, I will be homeless for 3 weeks. I do not have anyone who lives nearby that I could stay with (my boyfriend currently lives with his family, it is a very very cramped house) so I would either need to take time off work and go stay with my parents, or pay for a motel for 3 weeks. Neither is a good option. On the other hand, I can stay in this apartment and try to make the best of it. My boyfriend would move in to one room (likely the grad student's old room) and someone new would move into the room my best friend has been living in. I am worried about the potential of getting worse roommates should I move or staying here and dealing with an evil I know and the potential for a new evil, especially if he requests one of his friends to move in.

Seriously, any advice is so so so strongly appreciated. I am losing my mind trying to figure out what the safest option is here. Do I risk struggling financially for the chance of something better (or potentially worse) or do I deal with another year of this bullshit? Thank you so much if you read this far.