u/Creepy_Aide6122

So this is a rant/update to a old post.

Well we have moved on from the issue that caused the huge fight we got in. He has now started giving me a heads up when people come over, and being quiet when he brings people over at 2am-6am ( yes that late). But now it's another issue and just like before he does not listen to me when I say stuff and I feel like I have to get mad and yell at him for him to get it.

So couple things

1.) he has started cleaning and doing laundry at 4am ( my bedroom is right across from the laundry room) our washer and dryer also is loud as shit

2.) this one pisses me off to no end, I have to ask this man THIS 21 YEAR OLD MAN TO RINSE HIS DISHES AND PUT THEM IN THE DISHWASHER/ CLEAN HIS HAIR OUT OF THE SHOWER. it's not like 1 hair it's clumps of hair, long hair too (dudes does have very long hair).

I legit called him out (jokingly) saying stuff like "damn dudes going bald" "looks likes the grudge has been in our shower someone should get it" I finally called him out and said "dude your hair is on the wall of shower and the drain for 2 days you need to clean it, it's fucken gross"

Him: " no it's not, it's normal for long hair and I just need to throw it away"

(I also have very long hair)

I use to think I was good friends with this guy, but it's gotten to a point where I don't think he even respects me. Because everything I ask or say goes in one ear and right out the other. I've tried having a serious conversation but just like last time he does not listen or even care too.

I already know what's gonna happen I am gonna keep talking till I am blue in the face, because I've asked him to not wake me up now that school has started late at night and he still does along with the hair and dish thing. It's gonna keep happening till I snap and it starts a fight.

Sorry if this hard to follow, it's currently 4am and I have school in the morning.

(Oh he also has the bigger room but refuses to pay more for rent)

So I recently moved in with a "friend" (huge mistake), but originally when we moved in, I said I don't care if he has people over but he needs to just give me a heads up. So I can either go somewhere else if I am doing school work or mentally prepare myself.

Well, in the span of the 3 weeks he has had multiple people over all of them starting a 2 am to 5/6 am. I have restated multiple times that I just want him to let me know as having people over that late is rather anxiety inducing. For reference they are not loud.

Well last night I went to pick him up from work as, I thought we were friends and I don't mind helping but when I got there he texted me and said someone else was getting him. Keep in mind earlier that day he walked up to me ten minutes before needing to be at work and asked for a ride. I don't mind helping but both of these are incredibly inconsiderate.

Not only that, he can't even afford his own groceries when he moved in so I spent an extra 100 bucks making sure there was enough for both of us. But now that he has money and we need groceries he is spending it on doordash and weed. ( I get paid tomorrow but it's the lack of consideration that gets me).

Anyway after I leave from trying to pick him up, he shows up at the house at 3 am with 4 different people. This set me off, I just left the house and walked around town till 6 am.

I told him today, I see us only as roommates because he doesn't respect me, or my boundaries/ take me into consideration. He then started gaslighting me telling me I was crazy and he's not gonna beg to be my friend ( he said this twice which is weird).

Sorry if this is hard to follow, I got no sleep and alot has happened in the 3 weeks we have moved in. I don't think I am asking a lot but I could be wrong. I am interested to see others perspectives, he doesn't need permission from me to have people over just let me know. As I am in school he is not, he also doesn't really seem to take others into consideration.

Sorry for the ramble thanks for coming to my ted talk

I was at the show last night in Houston, I will say it was amazing (long set of openers but all good) I absolutely had a blast and so did my friend. Laceys speech of how she wrote all around me and her struggles with depression was real emotional for me as well. I've been struggling hard the past couple weeks and the feeling of just wanting to disappear. Can say it's the first time I've cried in a group full of people. 10/10 I really hope to see them again.

For reference I've always struggled with not feeling good enough and that if I just wanted to disappear no one would look for me.

Growing up with drug addicts as parents that neglect any sense of your emotional needs will do that.

Well I recently moved in with some dude from work, I think we are friends, I am not so sure. Because he invites his friends over a lot and we hang out, I think they like hanging out with me. It's so hard to tell I guess.

I just wish this feeling of pure loneliness would go away, no matter what I do I feel like this. I've tried therapy as well, it helped somewhat but it's still there.

I also really don't have anyone I can talk to, because I always get some sort of "that's so sad" .

It's so hard feeling like you've been alone you're whole fucken life, that no one truly cares about you. Ive legit thought about using all my savings to pay off my part of the lease and leaving the dude some extra cash to help with electric and just disappearing.

This is just a rant, thanks for reading I guess.

(Sorry if it was rambly it's so hard to put into words)

Thanks

Hello everyone, I am a 27M with very VERY LOW T, like lower than the average healthy women. I've always had issues with mood, where the littlest things can just bother me then it's just a spiral effect. I've tried everything from mindfulness to mood stabilizers. Nothing works. My main question is the title, I know it can affect mood but can it affect it this much?

Gonna post my labs in the comments, please for the love of God be kind.

I just wanna say I have really bad anxiety and intrusive thoughts. I've found writing about it and getting other opinions helps me get my rational mind at the front.

For reference, I am a 27M, and I met the most gorgeous woman. Not even my type just saw her and had an "OH WOW" buffering moment.

We met through a movie meet-up post, which I made through my college's subreddit. For context, she joined my DnD group, and I also gave her a list of my top 25 horror movies since she's trying to get into them and I just wanted to share a hyperfixation.

For the last couple of weeks, I thought she was flirting with me. I even asked a couple of my friends who are engaged or have been in long-term relationships (all women). They all agreed with me that it was at least light flirting, and she was single.

Well, fast forward to last week. We went to see Scary Movie 6 without our friends. For reference, I work at one of those fancy eat-in movie theaters while I'm in college.

A couple of weeks before that, I had asked our group to go to a serial killer speakeasy, but no one wanted to go. So I asked her under the guise that I didn't want to go alone and asked if she still wanted to go.

She then said she wasn't sure because it's Fourth of July weekend and she may be spending it with the "guy she is kinda talking to and his family." (This was through text.) I just said, "Of course, let me know."

When she gets to my work before the movie starts, she orders two glasses of wine, and we talk for a bit. During the movie, she orders another glass and leaves halfway through to take a phone call. What I didn't know was that during the phone call, she ordered two more drinks.

My job has a three drink limit with no food.

She doesn't come back, so when the movie is over, I grab her stuff and bring it to her. I find her curled up at a bar table on the phone, and I can tell she wants to cry. I ask if she's okay, and she says she's just tipsy.

She ends up having to call her friends to come get her. Her friends live 30 minutes away, and she couldn't leave her car there because it would be towed.

While she is on the phone with her friend, my friend and I think she isn't following us. We start talking about how it's a little weird that she's flirting with me while also "seeing someone."

She overhears this, which we didn't realize.

At that point, I figured I needed to check for boundaries because I do want to be her friend. I just wanted to make sure I didn't cross any boundaries or blow something up.

While we're waiting for her friends, our group is talking about DnD and other stuff. She brings up the idea of our group taking a trip to a casino by the Oklahoma border. We all say that sounds awesome, but then she says something like:

"Do y'all mind if I bring my potential boyfriend? I don't really know what's going on with that, but I do want y'all to meet him."

We all say that would be cool.

Eventually, all our friends need to leave, so I choose to wait with her until her friend gets there.

We have a long conversation about boundaries. She apologizes for coming off as flirty and says it's just her personality. I apologize for saying it was weird that she didn't tell me about him and explain that I was just really confused.

I even tell her that I would like to meet him before we hang out one on one again since I misinterpreted our vibe. I don't want to be disingenuous, or at least come off that way.

At the end, she hugs me twice, says things like, "I really think you'll be around for a long time," and still takes the DnD book I let her borrow.

Afterward, I send her a text restating what we talked about. I let her know I want her to be herself now that I understand her personality, and I apologize if I did anything that crossed her boundaries.

She responds:

"Thank you for your understanding, I really appreciate it."

I then send her a text about making a group chat for that Oklahoma trip, and I get left on read.

I know it's probably nothing and she's just busy, but it's hard not to worry.

I also want to state that she owes me nothing. She did nothing wrong. This is all 100% on me.

Edit; okay this is something silly I know this, but I logged into Pokemon go which I have her added and her activity is hidden when it wasn't yesterday. Again probs is nothing but I am just so confused. Why leave me on read for a friend trip you suggested......

So I had a falling out with some friends, because of that I made a random post on my colleges sub reddit, if anyone wanted to see a movie( I get free tickets as I work at a theater). 4 people came, and one of them was the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. I am sure of my fellow dudes can relate to the moment when you see a very pretty girl your brain has like a buffering moment that's what happened to me. Anyway, we've hung out as a group a couple times, 4 times to be exact in the past 2 weeks, shes even joining my DnD group. I plan on asking her out to see odyssey when that comes out as she really wants to see it. Anyway I don't really have anyone I can tell so here's to hoping.

So I met this really pretty woman from a movie meetup. Like when I first saw her, I had the typical Man.exe has shut down, wow moment. So far, we have seen a movie as a group twice, Obession and Backrooms, but she is also joining my dnd group, and we are hanging out again on Saturday as a group. But I've noticed whenever I propose an idea, she is always down. For example, I said I really wanted to see the movie The Odyssey and go to this murder mystery speak essay that's going on in my town. She said she was down for both, and they sounded cool. I know this could be just some form of she enjoys hanging out with the group and as friends. But I am autistic, so knowing things I could look out for will help me. I don't really know much about her and just find her really pretty and want to get to know her more, that's all. (I really hope this comes across as good faith, as I am really trying to learn to navigate dating and friendship with women in general as an autistic dude.)

So I have a whole list of issues,

From NF1 and kyphosis,

To a heart condition being blind in one eye, to depression anxiety and PTSD.

I have records of all this, expect no psych records in the last 12 months. Mainly because, part of my PTSD comes from one of those troubled youth camps (where my abusive parents sent me). So it is very hard for me to trust people, but I am currently finally trying to get in somewhere.

I'm just really worried I'll be denied.....

Was able to convince my homie to go with me it will be his as well. We are going to have a blast. If anyone wants to share any tips let me know.

What's the best way to find events, and or raves? I already got my tickets for EDC, but I wanna find some events near me (Houston Tx). Thanks in advance

I had a falling out with some friends today and rather discouraged about it.

But I work at Star Cinema grill if anyone wants to go see obsession tomorrow after 4, I can get 4 people free tickets?

All free ticket spots full, more are still welcome to come
I mean tonight I wrote this early as shit in the morning guys.

So I had a falling out with friends today, apparently, I was bothering one of them too much with texting, but they never said anything. No one ever said anything directly; in fact, it was indirect, and I did not pick up on it till after it went down.

I tell all my friends, over text, you gotta be direct with me. I've gotten good at telling what people mean via tone, but over text is a whole different animal.

I am just incredibly tired of it, dude. I did not mean anything by it. Why were you still hanging out and texting daily if I was bothering you too much (this is also them joking around and laughing through text (emoji))

I know this seems so silly, but I did not get an official diagnosis till I was 23 and have been working on myself for 4 years. Stuff like this happens, and it just feels all for not.

Like I am sorry I did not pick up on I was bothering you, man.....

I am not crying you are