r/infp

Anyone else here really feel the turbulence? It’s definitely a struggle 😓

I see posts come around and…. I found out I am rude. Like, idk why I test as an INFP. I tested twice once was a teenager and again a few months ago being in my early 20s. I am still an INFP, I thought for sure I would have gotten a different result but nope.

Are all of you guys so nice? Like… I am sensitive too but I am sensitive in private. Like, I will cuss someone out for disrespecting me and then go cry about it in my room.

I overthink too…. Then when it comes time for the decision, I say “f*** it either I make a mistake and have to fix it or I get lucky” and just make a decision on the spot.

I kinda think my brain is against me at this point because when it comes time to the hard stuff, I will do it even if I overthink it.

Although I’ve ran into some less than ideal INFP traits over the years, I know I have many in my INTP ways. All of my best friends over the years I have come to recognize are INFP’s.

But the thing I have appreciated the most in a world of constantly feeling misunderstood… is the ability to freakishly mindmeld with you folks.

🖖 Live long and prosper

I feel like this happens to me all the time. If someone has a strong opinion about something, I don’t automatically agree with them just because we’re friends or because I care about them. That doesn’t necessarily mean I disagree either. Sometimes I just want to share my thoughts, understand why they think that way, look at the situation from a different perspective, or simply show that I care while still having my opinion.

But people can get SO defensive, and I genuinely don’t mean it in a confrontational way.

For example, a neighbor posted on Facebook about people honking at their cat and said that people should stop because the cat is elderly and has health issues. I commented something along the lines of, “Maybe if the cat has health issues, it would be safer to keep it inside.”

I wasn’t saying they were bad owners or that they had done something wrong. I was genuinely just thinking about the cat’s safety. If a cat is elderly or has health issues, wouldn’t keeping it inside reduce the chances of something happening to it? You can’t expect other people to always know the cat’s situation or know what might happen.

But people got really upset and interpreted my comment as me blaming the owner or saying it was their responsibility to do something differently. Then I end up getting sad and like I can’t say what I think at all without someone assuming the worst intentions behind it.

Does anyone else experience this?

Last night I dreamed I got recruited by the Resident Evil president to go save a secret national treasure that sank off the coast of Wake Island in a fictional war going on. And I teamed up with the Animorphs to go get it. And there was a plot against the president in the secret service. Of course, I woke up right as I recruited the Animorphs.

Sometimes thought I get really bad nightmares

Something about an extroverted woman makes me feel more fulfilled. I can't carry a conversation for crap lol

I mean I can but I just can't be bothered, her yapping and me just saying "yeah" followed by a simple question or comment or mhm or SOMETHING

Yes? No? Maybe so?

Well i am a university student who dont have any friends at college well.Right now i am sitting in a empty classroom typing this and I just feel so lonely like people around me have friends and they are interacting with each other and having fun making memories the youth everyone talks about.I have taken the test multiple times in year and it showed Infp but if I am really an infp shouldn't i just prefer solitude and enjoy being alone why am I feeling so lonely why is this making a hole in my heart why do i want friends why am I craving attention and people and connections

Do you ever have people become annoyed with you when you're hesitant to speak up or assert your needs, wants, opinions? The girl i dated and i are still friends but when we hang out, she can't seem to help herself from pointing out anytime I come across in a people pleasing way. It bugs her.

It's something I'm aware of, not proud of, and I'm working on it, and have actually come a very long way. It's not helpful to have someone getting annoyed with me about it.

Does this happen to you guys too? Just me?

I sometimes wish I was a robot with a T instead of an F

Why am I so sensitive internally, it shows on my face too, I feel so much guilt, dread, etc

Feelings just make things so much more complicated, it makes me not want to deal with people at all

This SUCKS man

Good day

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I’ve known I was an INFP for years, and no matter how many times I took tests over the years, I always got the same result. Recently, I decided to dive a bit deeper into the Enneagram and tritypes, and found out I’m an INFP 9w8 954.

Tbh, I’m kinda shocked by how accurately it describes me. I actually decided to test this with AI. I gave it different hypothetical situations and asked it how an INFP 9w8 954 would most likely react, without telling it that I was describing myself. Then I compared its answers to how I thought I would actually react.

And honestly, the results were weirdly accurate. A lot of the time, the reaction it came up with was either exactly what I would do or really close to it. What got me even more was that sometimes its explanation for the reaction was also really close to the reasoning I would have for doing it. Obviously it wasn’t right every single time, but there were enough surprisingly specific matches that I started wondering how much my type actually influences the way I react to things.

That’s probably what I find so interesting about typology. I expected the descriptions to be relatable, but I didn’t expect INFP + 9w8 + 954 to line up with so many little things about how I react to situations. It’s also made me look at some of my own reactions differently, which I didn’t really expect.

I’m still not sure how much of this is actually the type and how much is just typology being good at describing common patterns, but I’d be really interested to hear if anyone else has had a similar experience with their own type.

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Do you guys think we should always find a way to keep our inner child happy?

I feel like there's so much loneliness in the world because people's core emotional needs just aren't being met. And a big part of that, imo, is the stuff our inner child still craves: affection, whimsy, curiosity, being understood, feeling safe, being excited about stupid little things, etc.

Obviously we can't just live like children forever. Life requires responsibility, discipline and all that. But completely ignoring those parts of ourselves for years doesn't seem healthy either. I think, as adults, the most important part is to find a way to balance serious life stuff with meeting core needs.

I've realised this through some introspection btw, that being an adult isn't about suppressing the inner child (sometimes it happens unconsciously aswell). Maybe it's about learning how to take care of it while still being a functioning adult ig.

I'm curious if other INFPs relate to this.

I (26F) have lived for years with a persistent sense that existing itself is heavy. It’s not that I want to die or harm myself—I don’t. I enjoy my loved ones, my pets, meaningful moments, and I still find joy in life. But underneath all of that, there’s a recurring wish that I had simply never existed in the first place, as if my existence could be erased without pain or consequence. This feeling comes and goes but has been present since around middle school.

I experience emotions very intensely, and I seem to carry an unusually high level of self-awareness. I’m constantly conscious of how I perceive myself and how I imagine everyone else perceives me—from family and friends to strangers, people online, and even people who don’t know me. That awareness rarely turns off.

As a teenager, I often felt fundamentally different from my peers (not in a pick me way I promise 😂). To fit in, I gradually adapted my personality and behavior to match the people around me. Over time, that became so automatic that I now struggle to distinguish between who I genuinely am and the version of myself I’ve learned to present. Sometimes I feel like I’m acting a role, even when I’m completely alone.

I frequently feel like I don’t belong, regardless of where I am or what I’m doing. When I begin something new—a career, a project, a relationship, or even a simple task—I eventually start feeling like I’m not good enough, that I’m pretending, and that other people will eventually realize I don’t deserve to be there. I experience strong impostor feelings and often compare myself to others in ways that leave me feeling inadequate.

I don’t feel driven by a single lifelong ambition or identity. My deepest aspiration is simply to live a peaceful life. Yet even ordinary responsibilities and decisions can feel mentally exhausting because I’m constantly evaluating myself, questioning whether I’m doing things correctly, and wondering whether I’m being authentic.

I don’t feel like my life is objectively terrible. I laugh, I love, I care deeply about people and animals, and I can genuinely enjoy good moments. But those experiences don’t permanently quiet the underlying sense that existence itself is burdensome. The thought of never having existed often returns on its own, not because I want to stop living now, but because I imagine a world in which I never had to carry this lifelong psychological weight.

Despite all of this, I remain committed to staying alive. I have no intention of harming myself and never have. What I’m trying to understand isn’t whether I want to die—I don’t—but why I’ve carried this particular way of experiencing myself and the world for so many years.