r/autism

so i usualy never wear socks in house, i don't like how its all slippery and those grippy circles under some socks are hell and i would rather walk on lego. my feet are also so sensitive that i can feel the edge of where the normal sock is and where the heel pad part is if its not positioned right...

the problem is, my room gets very cold at night, like at least 4°C colder than the rest of the house, like i can feel the warm air when i walk outside.

i heard that wool is very good for insulation and very warm but idk about the texture. all the wool socks i see online have these patterns on it and if i can feel that trough the sock when im trying to walk on it i would rather jump out the window....

so my question is, does anyone know where i can find good comfy wool socks for the winter??

I prefer to identify my self as an autistic person rather than a person with autism. I think I'm autistic because that is how my brain is wired, not because I have something called autism.

I'm in my late 20s so maybe my experience as someone on the younger side is affecting my decision.

Which do you prefer for yourself? How old are you, if you feel comfortable sharing this piece of information?

For years I wondered, how does everyone identify me as the target to pick on, out of all the people around me in any place or group in any town or country I go to. Even when I'm not being harassed, or alienated or laughed at, whenever I've interacted with workers who have to behave in a professional manner, like older doctors, cashiers and teachers, they always talk to me like I'm a child and people in general just never take me seriously. I wondered why teachers in primary school were more polite to me than to others and why I was getting taken out of class to do some painting or drawing.

I always knew that my body and facial language, mannerisms, social skills and voice screamed autism but I've always kept to myself, I never speak unless I'm spoken to, etc. I've always wondered how I really appear from the unbiased and subconscious point of view of any person within my vicinity.

Well I've went through footage on my camera of myself walking out of and into my house and my week has already been ruined. I don't even know how to describe it, but the way I walk is so unnatural, clumsy, uncoordinated, robotic, I don't even walk like a human at all. I can spot a fellow autistic person in public from the way that they look and walk but in my case it's even more extreme. My posture and arms are stiff, I turn my head and swing my body and feet too swiftly and robotically, sometimes it even resembles twisting or when I turn around abruptly, my legs may cross each other while standing. When I walk, my feet appear fall into the ground and stomp it, and my whole body language in general looks very disgruntled yet unbothered at the same time.

The way I walk, turn, stand, sit, react, do things etc look very rushed and just extremely weird in general, I can't believe I ever thought that I could actually mask and fit in with society, it has been confirmed that I absolutely do not belong in society. Whenever I see another person in public exhibiting similar issues, my heart not only breaks for them, but also because it reminds me of how I am seen by others.

Does anybody here have to go through this as well? I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy but I often feel like not many people if any can relate to this.

I am in a weird half diagnosis place currently and unsure if I can use the label. all my life I presented heavily with autistic traits but it was never caught until my teens because my own parents are neurodivergent, and because I'm highly independent and good at masking (masking caused a lot of mental health issues for me in my childhood unfortunately) they also didn't even know what neurodivergency was for a large majority of my childhood.

I have been assessed by a psychiatrist and a psychologist, both agreeing I'm autistic, but they didn't have the exact phd required in my state for me to "count" as autistic or get accommodations. I also have a therapist who Ive been currently working with for a long time, who definitely agrees I'm autistic based off of our work together.

I don't know if I'm discrediting anyone or taking advantage of the autism community by saying I'm autistic. I don't tell everyone I'm autistic, just my doctors when I need certain things (example, I was getting an IUD placed for gender affirming care and needed sensory tools to stay regulated so I let my doctor know beforehand) and sometimes my friends if they are neurodivergent too.

my parents also say I'm autistic. my family comes from a long line of largely undiagnosed neurodivergency and there's a lot of teaching I'm still trying to give my parents because they are still learning what neurodivergence is (they are trying very hard lol.)

I'm currently working with my local school to get diagnosed there so I can get the accomodations I need when I need them. the only way for me to get a 504/accomodations is if I was diagnosed through the school. unfortunately they don't gaf if you were diagnosed by a psychiatrist or psychologist, it only "counts" to them if it's through the school. it sucks and it's tricky.

I'm currently diagnosed with bipolar 1 and hEds, working on a POTS diagnosis too and I have an endoscopy coming up because I have some weird stomach issues. I know autism can come with a lot of comorbidities.

please give me ur honest opinions, they would be much appreciated! and if anyone else can relate to this specific situation I would appreciate your advice too. thank you.

I need help with my husband. He works at a dog daycare and ends up leaving 3 hours late all the time due to autistic inertia (also he gets tired which makes the inertia worse) AND he isnt packing enough snacks to bring to work!! He also needs a dinner to bring to work that doesnt need a microwave.

He doesnt like ANYTHING!!!! He doesnt like chicken, fish, hummus, lunch meat, pork.

He likes PB & J but not when theyve been in a bag for a while or if its been jostled around alot (like it would be on the way to work)

Please HELP us!!!!!!

For context: Im Brazilian, autistic (diagnosed) and close to finishing med school, and going into psychiatry. I've done rotations in hospitals and community mental health centers, and I'm deeply passionate about this profession

I'm a class rep, and this week there's a mandatory conference at my school. The space is small and a lot of people show up, so it gets packed and loud. A few autistic classmates asked me to talk to the coordinator because they wouldn't be able to handle that environment. It bothers me a lot too, and if I went, I'd stay as little as possible

I asked another class rep for the coordinator's contact (which he was supposed to provide to me 4 months ago) and explained why. I was told that for future doctors this is something you have to "fight through," that you have to "get used to it," that people with autism have limitations and need to do the same, and that conferences are where doctors stay up to date to give the best care

In the end, the message was that an autistic person would be a worse doctor for not handling a crowded room. When I pointed out that this was ableism, I was told it was just "another perspective"

Later he """acknowledged""" that he used "unfortunate words," but kept talking about our "limitations," in an AI-written text 🫩 And the request was simple: an alternative, like attending online. Staying up to date comes from studying, papers, and guidelines, not from being able to spend hours in a crowded place

Anyway, just sad to see that, even with new generation of doctors, this will continue to be a frequent occurrence

My son turned 5 on May 30th. I did not send him to school in August as I planned to homeschool. He has done minimal ABA as we didn’t see a benefit. He is very smart about his interests but we still struggle with numbers, abc & attention. He does not know how to write his name. Our dev pediatrician says we are going to probably look at AuDHD. He is very busy and stims a lot. He used to elope but does not now until today we went to visit the school he will go to. Gen ed classroom for now with a 504 in place and awaiting IEP. He is pretty okay unless he gets bored and during transitions which is why we did the 504 first to give extra time for transitions and such. He is potty trained minus stool sometimes as he deals with severe encopresis that we have been addressing for months. I’m worried I’m sending him
Too early due to his inability to stay still and follow directions well but my husband thinks he should go and that he adapts well. The new special education director seems to be pushing me to wait til next year but the old special education director who just left this year after 10 years there says to send him & that his teacher he was placed with is phenomenal and will be good for him. I’m just scared and my mom heart is so torn. Today he tried to run out of the main doors from my hand when leaving. We do have angel sense. I’m also worried since it’s a big class around 23 that he will be overwhelmed. It’s a long day 7:30 bell and 3:30 dismissal. He’s never done that and they don’t offer any transitional time/days. I’m torn because he wants to make friends but how do I know if he is ready?

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Trigger warning: Child abuse

Hi everyone. I am 28F and feel like my life is falling apart. I was diagnosed in December and have been working with a neuropsychologist and an OT.

Until July I was in the best relationship. To the point that some of my childhood was being unlocked. The unfortunate truth is that the trauma was being unlocked too. I was abused as a child by my mother. She was horrible. I remember being locked in the bathroom for hours and coped by hitting my head. I was in survival mode this year because of unemployment and triggering memories. Because of this, I started coping in the ways I used to as a child. My relationship crumbled and I have been losing it. He was my safe person.

Recently I started having more memories. I blocked out memories from before I was 11. The person that made me feel safest was my dad's sister, I considered her to be my real mother. She died when I was 11. I then blocked out memories of her and the trauma to protect ne from the loss. All the memories are flooding back and my safe person is avoiding me. He is the only person that made me feel as safe as my aunt.

I am feeling so alone. I thought healing would be liberating but it is so painful and lonely.