u/NeuroNerdGirl52

I applied for the online Ed.D program and today, I received an email saying that after they reviewed my application, I've been selected for an interview.

Is this standard for all applicants? Thanks in advance.

I've never had a large breed dog before. Frannie is our six month old golden retriever. She's already lost all of her baby teeth and her big girl teeth have come in. Is this the right time or is she earlier/later than expected? Her bitey phase has started to lighten up as well...although she still enjoys nibbling on our hands. First time posting, so thank you in advance.

Yesterday was so hard. I posted in a sub that I was debating between my Ed.D and my Ph.D, but that with either choice, I was going to go online due to my social anxiety and general discomfort in a classroom and around other people.

I was just clinically diagnosed with Autism this year and am still learning a lot, so maybe I just shouldn't be posting.

Omg...I got the worst comments. People saying I need to "get over myself" and just "go to class like a normal person" and that I need to "force myself" to face my anxiety. They also blasted me for doing an online doctorate saying that nobody was going to take me seriously and that it was the weak way to get a degree I won't earn. It was terrible! Whenever I'd respond to anyone trying to explain, I got dozens of downvotes. I have severe rejection sensitivity and felt like I was doing everything wrong. I ended up having a mini meltdown.

I'm not sure how to handle this. Maybe just delete my Reddit altogether?

Yesterday was so hard. I posted in a sub that I was debating between my Ed.D and my Ph.D, but that with either choice, I was going to go online due to my social anxiety and general discomfort in a classroom and around other people.

Omg...I got the worst comments. People saying I need to "get over myself" and just "go to class like a normal person" and that I need to "force myself" to face my anxiety. They also blasted me for doing an online doctorate saying that nobody was going to take me seriously and that it was the weak way to get a degree I won't earn. It was terrible! Whenever I'd respond to anyone trying to explain, I got dozens of downvotes. I have severe rejection sensitivity and felt like I was doing everything wrong.

I'm not sure how to handle this. Maybe just delete my Reddit altogether?

I'm asking because I got blasted on another sub for wanting to do my Ed.D online. I did all of my education (BS, MFA) online and it has not hindered my career one iota. I found that most employers actually don't really care if your education was online or in person (other than STEM fields which, understandably, should be taken in person). My MFA in Creative Writing was online. I work as a part-time English professor and have several upcoming interviews for full time professor positions.

I'm autistic and have great difficulty with social interactions, which is why I chose to do my higher education in an online format. Now, I'm choosing to do my Ed.D online rather than an in-person PhD for the same reasons. The employers I have spoken with said they really don't have a preference between the two doctorates or whether or not the school is online. They take a more holisitic, whole-person approach rather than checking boxes on which school you went to and which degree you chose, so why do some people think that online school is a scam or somehow less than in person? One person on the sub told me that "no one" is going to hire someone who did their education online because the education you get online is "weak" and not up to the "rigorous academic standards" as in person classes, which is ridiculous. My online work was not easy by any stretch of the imagination and I went to very reputable schools for my degrees, not for-profit diploma mills.

Any thoughts appreciated.

For context, I currently have an MFA in Creative Writing and am an adjunct English professor at a two year college here in Oklahoma.

I'm hoping to get more into the administration side of education and have been accepted into Pepperdine's Ed.D program. However, I was told by a friend of mine that a Ph.D might be better. I always thought the Edd program would be better for those wanting to move into higher education admin roles, but I'm not sure so I thought I'd ask.

Any thoughts welcome. Thanks!

I’m currently an adjunct English professor at a two year college. I’m looking to get more into the administrative side of education and I’m looking into Pepperdine’s online EdD in leadership. It seems to be a good program that fits me. I currently have an MFA in Creative Writing which, while it helps with the teaching side, doesn’t do much to help me into higher admin roles. Someone suggested a PhD but that seems like it would only work to continue teaching. Which would be the better option?

He wants to schedule a follow up and feedback session, which I really don't want to do. Do I have the right to request my full report? I did pay in full at the beginning, so there is no money owed.

I've been married for seventeen years. I was officially diagnosed with ASD this year. Needless to say I'm not good at communicating, but I do try. I work part-time as an adjunct college professor and am a PhD Psychology student.

I'm beginning to see a pattern in my marriage where my husband deliberately (I believe) triggers emotional stress, arguments and meltdowns so that when it happens, he'll say "Please let me help you" when he's the one who caused it in the first place. It is starting to feel like he wants me to be dependent on him so that I won't leave or feel like I can. He did something similar two years ago. We were hiking in Malibu and I became very sick in the heat and almost passed out. I begged him to call paramedics for me and he refused, saying it was quicker just to walk to the car. I ended up with severe heat exhaustion. When I bring it up, he gets mad and says I need to "let it go" and that he thought he was doing the right thing.

I'm not sure what to do because he makes more money than I do and our health insurance is through him. I can't afford to live on my own and it would be difficult for me to do anyways.

First time posting here and just looking for advice. Thanks.

We both work full time and I'm a Ph.D student in addition to that. I take care of 99% of the house. I do the laundry, cleaning, errands, bill-paying, taking care of our three dogs etc...once in a while, he'll do a load of dishes or a load of laundry but he hardly ever picks up after himself. I mean, he can't even remember to shut the cupboard doors, throw his soda cans away or turn lights off. He constantly takes things out and never puts them away. He starts multiple projects and leaves stuff everywhere. He blames his ADHD. He's completely disconnected from household responsibility and the stress that comes along with it. Occasionally he'll ask me if I'm "ok." Seriously? No, I'm not. I'm handling everything myself and and completely stressed!

We've had tons of arguments about this and he lashes out because I don't cheer for him every time he does a tiny little thing around the house. Even a load of dishes...if I don't mention it, he'll lash out that I didn't say thank you. He says I'm disrespectful and unappreciative. He then tells me that his dad and stepdad never helped around the house. I don't care if they didn't! He lives here too and does next to nothing.

I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm sick of living with a man-child who can't even manage to put his dirty clothes into a laundry hamper.

tl;dr...how should I handle this situation in my marriage?

For context, we both work full time. I teach at university and am a Ph.D student. He's employed in hospitality. We live in a 2500 sq home that we rent, and we have three dogs (including a golden retriever puppy who is being trained as a service dog for me).

My husband does not even do the bare minimum in this marriage. No matter how many times I have tried talking to him, it just goes in one ear and out the other. He can't shut a cupboard door, he can't put the dog food away, he leaves half empty soda cans on the table, he leaves every light in the house on etc...he blames his ADHD and says that his memory is bad. He has anger issues and lashes out whenever his anxiety gets the better of him. And listen, I have to make his appointments, remind him to take his medication (and he refuses to take his ADHD meds because he says they slow him down too much) I have to remind him to do everything.

I take care of the house, the laundry, the dogs, the bills and everything else 99% by myself...on top of my full time doctoral program and my full time job. Every now and then, he'll do a load of dishes or take the trash out and then he expects accolades and acknowledgement for every little thing he does and if he doesn't get it, he lashes out and says I'm disrespectful and unappreciative.

He doesn't pay his credit cards (expects me to do it and then when they're maxed out, he comes to me, outraged, and expects me to handle it) and he doesn't even pay his own car payment. I do everything.

Tonight, I just broke. I told him how stressed out and overwhelmed I am, as well as being really overstimulated (I have ASD, autism spectrum disorder). He just sat there in his chair, on his phone and casually says "What can I do?" and no, he doesn't care. He just wants to say the right thing.

Right now, I am in the bathroom, almost in tears, exhausted and dreading the thought of dealing with him again.

Just wanted to vent. Thank you if you took the time to read.

My husband and I applied for an apartment in Oklahoma City. The manager told me they require a certification for my service dog (and she is a service dog, not an ESA), along with a letter from my doctor detailing why I need her.

Admittedly, I'm not super familiar with the laws as she just got done with service dog training, so I'm wondering but isn't this a violation of the fair housing, not to mention HIPPA? She wanted to know why my service dog is needed in a letter from my doctor.

Thank you in advance.

I'm so upset right now. I have an EEG with contrast in the morning to monitor my Epilepsy after which I was advised to not drive as they want me mildly sleep deprived and the hospital is an hour away.

Tonight, he got upset because I asked him to do the dishes and lashed out with "I rearranged my schedule tomorrow just so I could take you to this appointment." He does this all the time. He resents having his schedule interrupted because he's a complete control freak at work. He's the general boss so it's not as if he has to get permission. His staff can manage things for a few hours. I told him I would drive myself and I'm going to. I'll be damned if I'd have him drive me now.

If this were the only incident where he was an a**hole, I could overlook it, but I feel like he doesn't like me anymore. At all. I can feel something big is missing. He took me hiking once and made me walk two miles back to the car even though I was having heat exhaustion and almost passed out.

I have autism and epilepsy. I have poor executive functioning and need help with some things. He hardly ever does anything and even if he does, he expects accolades for even the smallest thing. I feel like he doesn't even do the bare minimum and when I mention this, he tells me it's how he grew up and that his dad and step dad never did anything around the house either.

Am I just making too much of this or do I need to be concerned about it?

I'm an adjunct English professor and want to obtain my doctorate in order to get a tenure-track, full-time professor position. I'm interested in Pepperdine.

I have completed most of the application requirements except the personal statement. I am an autistic woman, and I'm wondering if it this is something I should mention in the statement. I'm not sure if it's relevant other than being a personal challenge I have worked hard to overcome.

Any thoughts welcome. Thank you.