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started to feel my body going numb. I went to my husband and he said “what do u want to do” I said “I don’t know but I am scared”. Our two kids were sleeping and he wouldn’t come up with a solution so I just said “I will walk there.” (We live a block away from the hospital). I began to walk and collapsed on the side walk. I woke up to an ambulance. I am currently in the ER and they could not find anything wrong and are saying it could be chronic stress/sleep deprivation. I called my husband and agin he said “what do you want me to do.” I told him to ask the neighbors to watch the kids. He came here asked me what happened and then said he should get back to the kids. He is now texting me saying he is tired while I am still in the ER

He just told me i made him hit me. I’m so lost and i feel the lowest of lows. I have no friends either. I don’t know if I made him hit me.
He says he begged for me to stop but i did not so he hit me. Is that true?

I blocked him on every social media, even in my phone calls and messages. That was two days ago. Why is it that, knowing he was very hostile towards me, that he destroyed my self-image, and that he didn't care to hear my side of the story, I'm feeling like blocking him is a betrayal, even though he was the most valuable person in my life? Thinking about not seeing him again for a long time terrifies me. I imagine I'll never find someone with the same good qualities he had.

By the way, the reason I blocked him was because he cheated on me with his ex.

Some of you may remember I was struggling to get out because he had our dog and our cat and would only let me leave with one of them. I couldn’t bear to leave our dog behind. So he uses her to suck me back in
Today’s the day, I’ve been playing nice, I’m picking the dog up to spend time together. He thinks we have a future
I’m both terrified and can’t wait to get her and then run. Wish me luck.

Update: we are out, got my girls ❤️

My husband does this every so often, and in-between he is a charning husband and father, so when he does these things it really throws me off. I'm noticing the pattern now, and he seems to be repeating how his mother was with him as a child. (Likes to ruin enjoyable moments)

Anyways, we went a friend's party where my husband told me to have some drinks and have fun, he will be the DD. All went well, I was feeling good but not overly tipsy. On our ride back, my daughter pointed out that the moon looked interesting. I told her I'd look up why it was that way. Well according to my husband, I looked up the wrong information and he was annoyed at how "drunk" I was. I tried re-reading what I looked up but he didn't want to hear it, I was wrong. The whole ride home he kept chirping me about being so intoxicated. I felt fine and coherent so that was really getting me upset. I got the kids to sleep and he continued on about it, until we went to sleep. The next day he ignored me all day, he said I should think about how I behaved the night before and apologize to our daughter for what I said. I said what did I say besides talk about the moon? He said "See, you were too drunk to remember" and then he ignored me again for the rest of the evening. Bought dinner for him & the kids and left me out.

I'm starting to think that I am not allowed to have fun, have opinions etc. unless he's okay with it.

This kind of fight happens every couple of months and it's usually something very trivial.

If anything throws off plans that he had in his head, he's mad at everyone.

My father was like this and I wanted to marry someone completely opposite, now it's feeling too similar.

He can be manipulative, so I am afraid if I leave, he will alienate my from our children :(

Im in a fucked situation where im out of my depth, I have lots of family that use this site regularly and I cant give all the details(but family is the issue)

Im not in physical harm at all but the psychological is past the point of any hope, I only realized how bad it was after seeing a handful of mental health professionals this year when I initially went for OCD, two caught the abuse basically in the same month late last year(guess where the OCD came from)

Since then ive been trying to figure out the best way I can get out, a part of it seems easy but other parts are not.

Im hitting a snag on what am I supposed to do when it comes to mailing and an address, I dont think I have the time to set up a lease and it might be hard, my credit is "good" but its secure only and I cant get a real one for 9 months and my history is very basic. Im not sure if that gets pulled up.

I dont think I can handle another month here at all.

I have a job but pay is only 17$ and I do have around $30,000 in savings and no debt(this is minuses another $10,000 since its going to a car, so literally $40,000). Cheap is too dangerous here to live, but the col also isnt low either outside of that. No furniture but a nice bed thats mine that I cant take with me, its Queen sized.(ill probably abandon it because its just gonna turn into a no win game getting it)

No car but I have the funds for a used car outright and have a really reputable dealer in the area. I have insurance but its connected to my abusers, and a license.

I have my own bank accounts but I found that a CC was open in my name under an Authorized User a decade ago and I had NO consent or knowledge of this. I did have it removed and thankfully it seemed like it was actively being used but also paid off(mostly, every month seemed to always have < $100-$50 on average left on it.

I managed to remove this but now im freaking out because im not sure if I can freeze my stuff when I need to get a car, a place, insurance, all in this short time frame, same applies to my SSN. I know its possible but not sure if its a good idea right now when I most defiantly need things that use them in the upcoming immediate.

Basically this is what I need help with.

Setting up my own car insurance, how to get a new address, where to send my mail, and changing all my bank/important information to this new stuff, but freezing it and keeping it all safe somehow. I dont know the order at all in which I should proceed.

I completely forgot this stuff this entire time.

Should I use my current address since ive been here so long for insurance? Does it matter? How long does it take for an address to be considered yours? Same with mailing. I have doctors and prescriptions and all this stuff.

I need a chunk of this ready to go so I can do the last part of making sure they give me ALL my personal documents and cut off entirely, im not afraid of calling the police if needed, im not in threat of physical danger and I now know its psychological.

Im very isolated, the abusers alienated me behind my back taking any relationship I had with one side of my family and destroying it. My professional help said its generally NOT a good idea in my situation to try and fix it(basically my abusers have what I would say, far more social power and standing than I do, im a full blown scapegoat)

My other side/friends is just from my PoV, NOT a good idea, not in a place in life to help me with this.

My plan right now is to get a 1 month airBnB to cool off and have some buffer time to figure more things out.

hi, I recently got out of a relationship that I can see was very emotionally abusive. I am 22 and he was 32, I caught him liking sexual pics of 18yr old girls and I broke up with him. I notice every single time he would apologize, he would later do something that would upset me.

First time: he argued and had an attitude when I didn't accept his apology

Second time: he gropes me again in my sleep (even though we are broken up) and I told him to sleep on the couch the next night cause I didn't feel safe. He kept walking around the door and at some point tried ways to get in. (At this point I had the doors locked and window curtains closed)

Third time: he kept making comments and getting an attitude whenever I would leave the house

4th time: he kicked me out on the day I wanted to go hang out with a friend

Now I am beyond hurt and angry, I have posted awareness of who he was on my social media (showing text evidence and recordings) because I notice he followed other young girls and I felt like they deserve to know. He has posted things about me being a stealer and a bum (really ironic coming from him cause he stole from his own family multiple times). I have my mental completely shattered. I have went on rants about how much I hate him. Every single time he contacts me we would have fights, I have posted that I wanted to get violent to him. My drinking has worsen, I have stopped taking care of myself. My self harm has increased to where it hurts too much to shower. All day I just hate and hate and I completely lost the person I was.

yet through all of this, I still love him. I still have care for him. I still have thoughts of us being happy.i want these thoughts to stop. I don't want to keep going back and forward with myself. I have love and hate for myself and him. Why do I want him back?

Hello I need advice urgently for my mom F38 currently in a both emotionally and physically abusive relationship. Her boyfriend M28 has major depression, social anxiety, alcohol and weed addiction, and anger issues. When he’s sober he’s kind to my mom, but when he drinks, it becomes actually insane and I know for sure not legal and my mom is too nice to say anything. He punches holes in the wall, breaks cars, doors, genuinely everything in the house. He threatens to kill himself everyday, including if she were to leave him. He starts yelling profusely and becomes violent when he drinks, and sometimes leaves the house while intoxicated to drive and he has been in an accident and caught by the police because of this. The problem is that they are on the same lease so if they were to break up, she would have to deal with a lot of debt because the contract is for two years and he already doesn’t make enough to pitch in for his half of the rent. He still hasn’t paid for damages he’s caused in the house because of his own issues and owes my mom money. She’s super worried because she isn’t financially stable enough to go through with all this and leave him. I really need advice on what I can do and what she can do legally so she doesn’t have to go through all the consequences of his sick issues by herself. Funny thing is he acts the complete opposite when he’s sober and acts like the most innocent guy ever offering my mom everything. He’s a manipulator and he really needs help but more than that, my mom needs help the most. Right now he’s currently spam texting my mom saying we’ll never see him again and he’ll fix everything so he can peacefully “rest in peace.” I want help for him but I can’t let my mom keep going through this. Please help

I feel so god damn stupid. It’s been 8 months since I left and I’ve been getting back to me. I’m going to therapy, smashing my job and genuinely enjoying being on my own.
Then a month ago I get a message from him taking full accountability for everything that happened. Something which never happened before. The tone of the message was different. We had 2 dogs together and he kept one and I kept the other. He asked if he could see my dog as he didn’t get to say goodbye. I thought it’s been long enough, I’m strong what’s the harm? When I met him he seemed different. He was calm, felt genuinely at peace with himself and like he had worked on himself. He messaged about a week later asking if I wanted to see the dog he kept. Of course I said yes as I miss that dog so god damn much. Again he seemed different.
2 weeks past and he asked if we could meet to talk as he thought it would be helpful for him and I thought it may be “healing” for me. He admitted to the abuse - first time that happened - and we actually had a good conversation. He said how much he missed me and how he’s made “changes” to be a better person and he wanted a chance to show me those changes. Over the course of us spending time together I could feel myself soften. He reminded me of the person I fell in love with. I also have a bit of a potential cancer scare going on at the moment and it felt good to speak to someone about it honestly.
At the end of the night he was begging me not to leave etc and asked me to stay. I said no and he pulled his phone out of his pocket and his lock screen was him and another girl. I feel so fucking stupid to let him back in my life and I’m so hurt that I started to think that he had changed and maybe we could be happy.
I thought I was doing fine but this has really thrown me. I’m honestly fed up and don’t know what to do. It’s so draining and I’m just so annoyed at myself for letting him back in my life.

I am a 33 years old male in the healthcare field for the past 5 years. AlhamduLeAllah when I was single I worked hard on myself to create a comfortable life and through successful investments I was able to achieve a lot of my financial goals earlier than I thought. One of my goals was to be financially comfortable being married so I can provide a comfortable life for my wife and kids in the future inshallah - AlhamduLeAllah I was able to achieve that.

After reaching that goal 2 years ago, I decided to get married to a woman I met at an Islamic event who is Algerian. She comes from humble background and I was attracted to her values, how she carried herself with respect and her beauty as well - at least that’s how she marketed herself to me. She had part time jobs and she made minimal income - I don’t care about that but it’s important for the context of the story.

One of my requirements was a prenup, which would have applied to any woman I wanted to marry, it’s not about her at all - she agreed and signed the prenup under the condition that it provides her protection incase of a divorce and I did that.

Since we got married, my wife decided to be a stay at home wife by her own choice. I told her I am able to provide $2000 a month in allowance, in addition to me being the main/only provider (that included mortgage, car, insurance, groceries, gas, clothing and every necessity of life).

That’s where the red flags start. I will only mention a few of many many red flags for you to get an idea and tell me your advice/thoughts. Here we go:

1. She starts to tell me how $2000 a month is not enough and they are “okay” but she will be “patient” which insinuates I am not successful enough in her eyes - which I find so demeaning and constantly weighed my mental health down. Keep in mind I don’t make any demands at all while she is at home, I never ask her to cook, clean, do laundry or anything - me intention is to make her life a very peaceful and comfortable life which I think she has been taken for granted given how easy I made things.

2. If there is a month I don’t pay her the allowance due to reasons beyond my ability or just send part of it depending on my expenses for the month, she starts to withhold emotions and act cold with me.

3. She has what I think is an unusual obsession with material things and money because they are brought up in literally every single conversation. I understand that people can like nice things which is normal, but I find her to have an unusual obsession with those things which are evident by her addiction to watching social media posts about influencers who promote this type of lifestyle, she herself doesn’t post anything and doesn’t have followers/following but she consumes this content a lot.

4. She has multiple times tried to use intimacy/sex to leverage a material gain such as a bag or an expensive item. I found that to be highly disturbing given that it happened 4 times, I told her about it and she said that she was joking and I always take things out of context.

5. She constantly makes comments that reflect her view on men and relationships and that without money men can’t have love or intimacy with a woman because what does a woman get in return (whaaaat) lol.

6. Every holiday, birthday, and anniversary she expects lavish gifts. I am talking $10,000+ bags and things like that. I was able to do that a couple of times (unfortunately) but I find it takes away the barakah and given that I am super money conscious I find it haram and unnecessary to spend that much money just to make someone happy. Especially that she knows how I work day and night to provide this life and how stressed I feel constantly. Now I have an anxious association with any holiday because I know I have to prepare big bucks to make her happy, I would rather invest this money.

7. Lastly, MY TRIGGER FOR THE DIVORCE: her birthday was 2 months ago in April. She has been nagging me for so long that she wants this specific bag that’s $12,000. Last minute she also decided to visit her Algerian parents who live in France for 6 weeks and expects me to magically fund that. I gave her a total of $16,000 for both her birthday and trip - thinking that would make her insanely happy and get off my shoulders. To be honest, that really financially overwhelmed me but I was excited to feel the peace after she leaves. Lo and behold, 15 days later she asks me for her $2000 allowance…… I told her that I am overwhelmed lately juggling many responsibilities and I won’t able able to send her monthly allowance this month, especially that my mom is sick and I have been taking care of her financially as well plus the fact that I gave my wife more than enough money for both her birthday and trip. She showed complete disregard to my mental wellbeing or even my mother’s sickness and just said a chore statement like “ok I hope you and your mom get better” and started to completely withhold emotions and act cold with me. When I talked to her about all the insane comments she makes, she deflects and denies every single one of them or just says “she is joking”.

Thats when I went off and asked for divorce. To clear my consciousness in front of Allah, I consulted with an imam, a relationship coach, 3 therapists (1 male Muslim, 1 female Muslim, and 1 female non-Muslim) all of which consistently told me that I am with a scammer and I need to leave as soon as possible.

I always dreamed of being the best husband ever to my wife and future kids. I never thought in a million years that I would be a divorced man, not that there is anything is wrong with that but I tried so hard to make this work and I can’t continue to deny the financial abuse over the past couple of years - this will be financially destructive to me if I continue, especially given that my financial progress in life slowed down significantly since I got married.

I would love to hear your advice and your opinion. Do you agree this is financial abuse and that it’s fair for me to seek divorce or am I overthinking because I am in an emotional state? Am I a bad husband or is what I am doing not enough? You can see how the constant lack of gratefulness from her side is impacting myself image and mental health.

I (25F) was in relationship with a man (29M) for 1.5 years.
He was suffering from mental problems and was under medication for his mental heath.
Doctors diagnosed him with Depression, anxiety and schizophrenia.
I was always by his side even I know he is not normal cause I really loved him.
What happened its been few days that he is so down and last night he told me that he wants to commit s suicide by the end of this week cause he is not fine and every second of his life is a torture for him.
I talked to him for hours but unfortunately he said that he already took his decision and will do it by the next weekend. The last words I had with him was like I love you take care and get a nice funeral for me.
His words drove me crazy and I called 911 immediately!
By the way we are in a long distance relationship (6-7h drive far).
So polices went to his apartment and arrested him with handcuffs and took him to hospital!
After few hours he contacted me with massive abusing words and threats such as uploading my naked pictures and sexual videos on internet, stabbing me by knife and also making legal problem for me because I contacted 911.
And I immediately had to contact police again and they came to me and I reported everything cause I was scared!
I as a human had to do this cause he is my partner and I could not see him ending his life and I knew about his decision.
So I had to block him! Cause he was sending me back to back abusing words and very bad words to me and my family.
Did I do something wrong?
I am scared! Police told me I am safe and he cannot do anything.
He has my address, my work place and everything.
My mental health is in a very bad situation.
I need suggestions and help.
Thanks

I'm dealing with a situation that has been wearing me down, and I'd really appreciate some outside opinions.

I recently got into a relationship with an amazing woman that I've actually known for about five years. We were on and off as friends during that time, mainly because of her ex. Whenever they got back together, I stepped back. There was never anything romantic between us while they were together. I was just a friend with whom she could talk to when things got bad.(i was never there when they were in a relationship) because i respected that.

Over the years I watched this guy repeatedly hurt her. He killed her cat, insulted his own children, said he didn't care about them, cheated on her multiple times, and even sent her videos of himself with other women just to hurt her. Every time he ran out of money, he'd suddenly become interested in seeing the kids again. Once she gave him money, he'd disappear, go drinking, cheat, and ghost them for weeks or months.

I kept telling her this was a cycle of manipulation. He only seemed to come back when he wanted something.

The saddest part has always been the boys. He rarely asked about their lives. Most conversations were about their mom, not them. Then he'd disappear again, leaving them heartbroken. Watching them get excited that their dad might finally stay involved, only to be abandoned over and over, was painful.

She has two wonderful sons. The oldest was understandably cautious around me at first. I never forced anything and just gave him time. Eventually he started opening up. The youngest has mild autism, and he and I bonded very quickly. We'd read together, he'd show me his Lego creations and toys, I'd ask about his day, tuck him in with a goodnight, and genuinely enjoy spending time with him. I've known these boys since they were toddlers, and I've always cared about them, even when their mom and I weren't together.

Eventually, my girlfriend decided to completely cut off her ex because every time he came back, all he brought was chaos. She still allowed him opportunities to speak with the boys, hoping things would be different, but it always turned into him filling their heads with negativity instead of actually being a father.

He has never supported them financially, never spent meaningful time with them, never played games with them, never showed up consistently, despite having plenty of free time. He mainly drinks and blames everyone else.

Seeing how broken my girlfriend and these boys were made me step up. I never tried to replace anyone, but I wanted to be the stable father figure they deserved. They now call me "Papa," and I love them like they're my own.

Now here's the problem.

Instead of contacting me directly like an adult, he keeps making new accounts to message my girlfriend. He claims he misses the kids, but his actions have never matched his words. He's also threatened to shoot me. I live in a third-world country where threats like that aren't always taken as seriously as they should be, so while I'm not panicking, I'm also not brushing it off.

I honestly don't want to keep him from his children if he genuinely wanted to be a healthy father. I even considered reaching out to him myself to see if we could find a reasonable way for him to have contact with them. But every single time he comes back into their lives, he hurts them all over again.

I'm not scared of him. I'm just exhausted.

Has anyone dealt with a situation like this? How do you handle an abusive ex who refuses to move on, keeps manipulating everyone, and now starts making threats? Should I keep trying to be reasonable, or is it time to completely stop engaging?

Any advice would be appreciated.

I’ve been in a on/off relationship with a man for over 4 years now. He has been controlling, very emotionally abusive in the past but like most people in those situations he’s capable of being the most loving person and the relationship can be amazing at times.

I left to go travelling and recently returned in April, and I’ve noticed that his behaviour seems to be getting worse. His language over text has become far more aggressive such as he’d spit at me if he sees me, he wouldn’t piss on me if I was on fire, if I ever speak to him like that again he will do 10x worse, he doesn’t care what I suffer with (I have ptsd and panic disorder, unfortunately some of which is to do with his behaviour) if I think what he’s already done is bad I should see what he’s capable of, before we’ve met up on Thursday he said he doesn’t care if it ends in him screaming in my face in public.

We had 3 days of what can only be described as a really nice time. Then when I woke up this morning he thought I was in a mood when I wasn’t and he became irate, he first gripped and dug his fingers into my forearm and then he gripped round my face with his face a few cm away and spoke intimidatingly but I can’t even remember what he said.

After it happened I was obviously shocked/upset and after have an hour I said how he’d made me feel and his response was “we both need to work on our communication skills”, I press his buttons and that I’ve hit him before on the leg but he never made a big deal out of it. Just for context I’ve never ever put my hands on this man - I’m half his size and he even said recently to his family (when I wasn’t there) he’s surprised I haven’t but I never have. It was like he just made it up to justify what he’d just done. He’s never grabbed me like that. I remember once in the same setting he hit my phone out of my hand and it just seems like we’ve escalated and I’m worried about what might happen next.

His mum was saying last night it makes sense for us to move in together and I said to him privately I’m not comfortable because I need to see the relationship healthy/safe over a sustained period of time and I’d rather move out alone. I feel like this is reasonable given this is what he’s prepared to do whilst his parents are sat downstairs. We’re both 28 btw just for context.

People who have dealt with an emotionally manipulation/abusive partner, what are the things that made you feel like you've been or you're being emotionally abused, but when you tried to talk to your partner or even other people, they made you feel like you might be the problem, or you're just being too much? I'm talking about some toxic traits that are easily visible, like lashing out or threatening to break up when things are going wrong (obviously, these are wrong, and I've done this too, and I'm working on improving myself). I'm a codependent and have anxious attachment, and I'm working on my anxiety issues, too.

I'm 24F, and my only relationship ended like 6 months ago, and I'm still trying to get over it. I'm not sure, but I think currently I'm dealing with CPTSD, and I keep getting flashbacks of a couple of things that my partner said and would do, but even I dismissed them as not a big deal, and now I've started realising how much of those things have affected me. Also, since it has happened recently, I still can't remember all of it at once, so it's very hard for me to talk about it to anyone except for my therapist, because people just don't take it as a big deal, and it's very suffocating for me.

Honestly, I don't know why I am even creating this post. Maybe I just want to reassure myself that I haven't been through this alone and take more safety tips for my future.

Okay, so I'm gonna list down a couple of things that my partner would do that felt very problematic to me:

1. He was liked by everyone he knew, like literally everyone on this planet.

2. The lovebombing phase was the scariest and sweestest part of it. He was already planning about the future within the first 2 weeks after we first got to know each other.

3. He knew that if there is one thing in the world that I hate the most is cooking, and so he was already preparing dinner for me in the 2nd or 3rd week.

4. He would make big promises that he would do THIS-THAT, and then would just forget, and after I nagged him a couple of times, his response was, "You keep talking about promises? What are you, a 12-year-old?"

5. Given that I'm codependent, so obviously I come from a very dysfunctional family, but he would claim that his parents/family/relatives are all very nice. He claimed that his parents gave him full freedom to pick a career of his choice, and still, he went to the US for an MS, even tho he had no interest in engineering because "it was his mother's dream to send him to the US".

6. His parents were really great because "if he asks his parents if he wants to go on a trip, then his parents will find a way to sponsor his expenses even tho they were struggling financially".

7. I'm doing quite well in my career and have had no problem supporting him through his hardships but this man who is in his final years of MS with a big chunk of loan didn't even know a single programming language, almost blank LinkedIn profile and for whom applying for jobs alongside college studies was overwhelming for him was promising me that before 30 he would pay off his loan, buy a house and a car by the age of 29-30 and will marry me. And when I would call him out, he would say, "Don't act like it's about me. It's you, your anxiety, and your overthinking is the problem". (In this case, I'd threaten to break up a couple of times, stating that I can't be with someone who can't take his career and financial responsibilities seriously)

8. At the start, he said: "he would unfollow his ex over Instagram if I ever had any problem with it". When I asked him to do it after a few months into the relationship, he said, " I can do it, it's not a big deal, but why give the other person any idea that I still think about her"

9. Way too arrogant about his looks. Whenever he would click his pictures, every time he would send them personally to his female friends, and he once said to me, "Why majority of your close friends male? It's such a red flag". Also, there was a girl from his college who would keep sending him pictures of hers and later confessed to having a crush on him, and when I confronted him, his reply was "I thought she sent me just as a friend", and he also said that he never actively talked to her in college. At the start, I didn't have any problem with all of his female friends or him following his ex, but I started noticing that he kind of likes hooking people around himself, and then I started getting insecure.

10. I found out that 2 months before the breakup, he created a profile on a dating app and was pretty active over there, as in he had checked that every single day multiple times without any break (don't ask me about how I found out, I'm quite good with computers, and I was suspecting that something was wrong). I found this out 3 weeks after getting dumped by him (the reason was that I was overbearing).

11. I knew that if I confronted him directly, he would twist the words, so I reached out to one of his friends, and when he found out that I'd kind of exposed him, these were his words:

- "If you had any dignity, even some of it, then you would have tried to move on instead of behaving like a child"

- "I trusted you with my credentials, and you went through my stuff. Don't you have any morals or ethics?"

- "I don't remember installing a dating app. If I did, then it's my mistake, but I really don't remember doing it" (thankfully his friend was kind of on my side and told me that he confessed to installing them so that he could see "how girls would react to his pics", but that friend didn't tell him that I know about his confession)

- "Obviously, you can't know everything about me, but my friend and I know who I am, so I don't have anything to prove to you"

- "I stopped feeling for you a long ago, but how could I have left you since you were going to therapy?" (I was anxious the whole time by the end of the relationship, so 2 weeks before the breakup, I went to the therapist for the first time because even I thought I was the problem)

- "You're just making things up, so if the blame were on me, it would be easier for you to move on"

12. Ohh, we met through a dating app only, and he uninstalled that app on our first date itself. Reason for uninstalling: "He met someone" (later, when we went to ldr he reinstalled it)

I'll add more when I remember more of it. But yeah wanted to just talk about it and hear about any similar or different incidents that people have been through, and I should be aware of them.

there are screenshots of him threatening to rape me. she has seen those screenshots + her boyfriend has threatened to kill me in front of her yet she continues bragging about him in front of my face. should I dump her? the thought of her boyfriend makes me sick.