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I’m looking for a place to stay for around a month until my first paycheck comes in from my new job. I have called around shelters but there’s no space for us anywhere. It’s myself and a 4 year old girl. I’m 5 months pregnant. I’m willing to go to nearby cities if we can get there on transit.

I’m looking for a place to stay for around a month until my first paycheck comes in from my new job. I have called around shelters but there’s no space for us anywhere. It’s myself and a 4 year old girl. I’m 5 months pregnant. I’m willing to go to nearby cities if we can get there on transit.

I’m 22 weeks pregnant and everytime I see my MIL she asks me how much weight I’ve gained. I tell her every single time that I have not stepped on a scale. It’s true, because I really don’t want to know. You would think she would get the hint, but she keeps asking me.

I’m mostly recovered from an ED and I’d rather not think about it and just try to eat enough. I told her even if I wanted to know, I don’t think I can see the scale over my bump.

She definitely has an ED and keeps telling me that she was 85 lbs when she got pregnant. She is always saying how big I am and that she didn’t have a bump at all because she was sooo skinny and everything was sooo tight….

I have temporary custody of my 4 year old niece. Yesterday she lost a hair clip that I bought her. My husband and I were looking all over for it. My niece was devastated and crying hysterically. We tried to comfort her and reason with her, offered to buy her a new one. Nothing would stop the crying.

We eventually stopped looking. My niece was laying on the bed still crying. My husband went and closed the bedroom door. She opened it again. He went and closed it again. She opened it again and he closed it again. I wanted to go sit with her and he told me to stop babying her and that I’m being too soft and she needs to self soothe.

He also said if this was our daughter he would have spanked her. That really scared me because I’m pregnant with a girl, and we both agreed not to spank our kids. I don’t think she did anything even close to deserving a spanking.

AIO or is this abusive?

How do I make my husband want to leave me and never talk to me again? I want to leave him but I’m scared. He’s obsessed with me and will not let me leave. He manipulates me a lot and makes it hard for me to stand up for myself or say no to him. I tried to leave before but I ended up back with him. He has told me before that I can’t never leave him, no one else can ever have me and things like that. I’m also pregnant with our first child.

My husband is very close with his mom. They text each other all day. Last week I unexpectedly took custody of my niece who is almost 4 years old. We will have her for 2 months. We both work from home and I wasn’t prepared to work and care for her at the same time. We have no toys, activities or things for her to do. I put her in front of the TV each day this week for 3-5 hours so I could work. In the afternoon I took her to do fun things like water park, pool, playground etc.

My husband was upset about all the screen time and I’m not proud of it but I didn’t know what else to do. I’ve never had to care for a child before. I bought a bunch of stuff for her to do going forward so that I don’t have to rely on the TV as much.

Today I was in his mom’s neighbourhood and I stopped by to say hi. She asked how it was going with my niece and said she heard that she’s been watching a lot of TV.

AIO for thinking he tells his mom too much, and this is another example of that? I feel like everything I do is always reported back to her. It would be nice if he didn’t tell her things that make me look bad.

My 4 year old niece is going to be living with me for the next little while and I have to work during the day. I have been putting her in front of the TV while I work. I give her some art supplies so she can draw. I live in a different city from her mom so we can’t even get her toys or things. She doesn’t have any friends here.

I start a new job next week and that will have me even busier. I’m also pregnant and I don’t sleep much at night. I usually nap during the day but I can’t do that anymore.

I only work for 3-5 hours then I find something for us to do outside the house. But I feel guilty for all that time she is front of the TV.

I’m babysitting my 3 year old niece for the next couple months and there will be times I have to leave her home alone with my husband. My husband has been physically abusive to me.

I’m pregnant and I have my 20 week anatomy scan today. He offered to stay behind and watch my niece. I suggested we get his mom to babysit her so he could come. He insists on watching her and seems excited about it. I’m nervous because I experienced CSA from close family members.

He has never hurt a child or said anything creepy about children. But he hasn’t spent much time around any.

Is it weird that he insists on staying behind with her and seems excited about it? Up until now he hasn’t missed any appointments and this is our last ultrasound.

I’m so confused about my husband. We’re back together after a short separation. He has been abusive but he stopped and lately he has been so supportive, caring and kind. He’s in a good mood and most of the time I feel safe around him. I’m pregnant and he has been taking good care of me and doing everything around the house.

Whenever he’s in a bad mood I feel scared and I try to keep distance from him. I get worried he might start a fight with me. I feel my heart racing and my whole body freezes and it’s hard to snap out of it. But he has been managing his feelings and not taking it out on me. I feel guilty for feeling this way.

He promises to never hurt me again and I want to believe him. But I never thought he could do that to me in the first place so what’s stopping him from doing it again??

I recently had to stop my therapy because my benefits ran out and I’m really struggling. I’m looking for affordable options that are actually good. I have used community services before but I felt they weren’t really equipped to deal with my issues.

I have severe CPTSD and I was just starting EMDR when my benefits ran out. I’m 5 months pregnant and I’m living in hypervigilence all the time, I can’t turn it off. I’m very worried about the impact it’s having on my baby. I can’t stop thinking about things that happened obsessively. I wake up everyday at 3-4 am and it’s the first thing I think about. I’m having a hard time moving on and letting go.

I recently had to stop therapy because my benefits ended. I have a lot of trauma and I’m having a hard time functioning day to day. It’s all I can think about. I can’t get out of bed some days. I’m 19 weeks pregnant. I don’t know what to do.

I’ve been pretty set on getting the SNOO bassinet. It’s supposed to help baby get more sleep. I don’t get maternity leave at all so I need my sleep to function.

My MIL convinced my husband that the radio frequencies from a SNOO might cause autism. I can’t find anything supporting this. She said the technology is too new and it hasn’t been studied enough to be sure. I know if we got it anyway and our baby happened to get autism she would blame me. Now my husband is saying we can’t get it.

Im really upset right now. I know I’m going to be the one up all night with baby, and working during the day, while my husband gets 18 months of paternity leave. The SNOO was the only thing making me feel like I might be able to do this.

We’re expecting our first and our MIL is offering her help postpartum. She’s excited about the baby and insisting we accept. My husband has already said yes to her. I just don’t know exactly how helpful this will be.

She lives about 30 min walk/ 5 min driving away. But she doesn’t come over because we have cats and she’s terrified. She wants us to come over everyday and spend the day at her house. She will watch the baby while we work. We don’t drive, she would pick us up and drop us off.

I don’t get maternity leave but my husband is taking paternity leave. He doesn’t actually have any work to do but he can help me with my job. My job is very flexible and I can get by with 10-20 hrs a week.

I have no idea how I will feel postpartum or what kind of help is actually helpful. But I imagine I would want to be in my own home where I can be comfortable. From what I read I might still be bleeding, might want to be close to my shower and fresh clothes. In between working we would want to clean, do laundry, cook, maybe meet up with friends or baby classes etc and won’t be able to at her place.

I talked to my sister who has had 3 babies and she said I should take up my MIL’s offer and I will be grateful. But she might be biased because she wishes she was closer with her MIL.

Edit: people keep saying to put the cats in another room. The only rooms we could do that are our bedroom or the baby’s room. One of the cats likes to pee on things when stressed, which they will be with a new baby and moving their things around.

I’m a survivor of CSA from my dad and his friends. Most of it happened before I was old enough to remember. My earliest memory is from when I was around 8 years old with my dad’s friend.

Sometimes now I think about what he did to me and feel aroused. Then I feel dirty and wrong and guilty.

I don’t want to have these feelings anymore. Is this something I can make go away with EMDR??

Where is the best spot to go swimming in the Cates Park area? Do I need to worry about being stung by a jellyfish?? I hear there are lots around there.

My husband is upset with me because he says I don’t do anything around the house. I’m 18 weeks pregnant and I haven’t been sleeping much at night. I take 1 or 2 naps during the day. We both work from home 10-20 hours a week. I’m his supervisor and my job is more demanding than his.

I sweep all the floors and wipe down the counters everyday. We both take turns doing the dishes, laundry and feeding the cats. He cooks, cleans the kitchen, takes out the trash and scoops the cats litterbox. Some days I’m very tired and all I want to do is sleep. On those days he does a lot more than me. He complained about that and I reminded him that I’m pregnant. My body is working hard 24 hours a day. He said that’s no excuse because some pregnant women have to go to work 40+ hours a week out of the house. He’s right about that but being home all day makes me feel sluggish sometimes.

Am I being unfair?