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So I (18m) and my gf (18f) have been dating for well over 3 years now and for the past 6 months she has been calling other men hot, like the ones she sees on reels and at her university and etc. This is really hurting me mentally, I try so hard to look better for her but everyday it seems to me that she has been doing it more and more, I understand that I'm not the best looking person but it just hurts me really much and I don't know if its my fault or I just dont know. I dont know if its wrong for me to be hurt. I really need advice on this I don't know what to do I really dont know. I love her so much.

DISCLAMER: I DO NOT WANT AND I WILL NOT ACCEPT ANY MISOGYNISTIC OR SEXIST COMMENT AGAINST WOMEN UNDER THIS POST.

Thank you everyone!

Sooo i (16F) met this guy (18M at the time 19 now) through a friend (15F) they were friends but never talked fr because he doesnt like that age gap yk

anyways i lied said i was 17 we hung out a bunch, this was around october my birthday about a week before we met so i was freshly 16 anyways we did stuff ya know all of that And i never introducted him to my mom cause i was lying but hes sooooo sweet and i want to introduce him to my mom cause hes been confessing his feelings or whatever

but im not gonna lead him on any longer without telling him my real age my birthday is about in 2 months ill be 17 He’ll be 20 in december so it is a bit of a age gap but like we click Also there was a big gap of not talking we talk every once an awhile

Anyways i just wanted advice on how to tell him im okay if he doesnt ever speak to me again because we did do stuff i did lie and thats a shitty thing But i wanna tell him real bad so if anyone could give me tips on how to lay it out to him thatd be great

our age gap is completely legal

I’m getting married in a couple of days but my fiancé has not put in any effort to make me feel special. He doesn’t even answer my calls like he did before nor does he call back. He is only interested if it’s something physical. I talk to him about this at-least once a day but he says i need to stop being negative and picky. Im honestly so sick of him and how he acts. We haven’t even been together for long but im so tired of begging for the bare minimum over and over. He has absolutely no consideration. He says nothing is going on and he loves me but he does not improve anything unless it directly benefits his life such as studying. Im younger than him by 2/3 years yet im always stuck feeling a lot more mature in these conversations. I get the ick from him everyday because of his attitude yet idk why i still love and care about him just definitely not the way i loved him before. Idk what to do. He wont improve and he wont sit and have an actual talk. We have talked so much but it seems like it pushes him away more.

So my fiance (21m) and I have been careful our entire relationship- and I’m on birth control! I genuinely have no idea how this has happened. There’s never been a time where I thought maybe something went wrong.

We found out together 2 weeks ago when I started throwing up and ultimately passed out in a restaurant (I will never be going back there… still have second hand embarrassment 😅)

He’s been nothing but amazing and supportive, and he’s phenomenal with kids.

We knew we wanted kids from the start but I really didn’t expect this to happen so early. I’m kinda freaking out. We live together in a 1 bedroom apartment- but we’ve been both saving for a long time so luckily we have some backup. His parents have offered to take us in until we can get into a more stable financial position for 3 people.

I’m really scared. I haven’t told my parents yet- not becuase I don’t trust them- I just really, really dread that conversation, especially because they’re very Christian and against sex before marriage.

I don’t doubt that they’ll support me in the end- they’re reasonable- but I just hate disappointing them and I always have.

I’m mostly asking for advice from people who have kids, I suppose. I’m halfway between exited and unbelievably nervous. I’m looking for all types of advice.

I (34F) need advice. I've been with my husband for 3 years now and we visit his parents pretty often, a few times a year (we don't live in the same country, it's about a 3 hour flight).

My father in law (69M) smells absolutely horrible. At first, I thought it was his breath. My mother in law said he had a rotten tooth and that's why his breath smelled and eventually the rotten tooth was removed at the dentist. This has not helped his breath from smelling rotten. He drinks 3 double espressos a day and one glass of water at lunch. I think we are all clever enough to see how this impacts his oral hygiene. I have never seen him take a shower. Not after swimming in the sea. Not on any regular day. He often wears the same clothes for a week at a time before washing them. I'm not against this per say but I think it's contributing to his smell?

We've been staying here for a month this summer as I'm pregnant and my husband can work from home. My pregnancy sense of smell is obviously heightened, but I've tolerated this for 3 years and I can't take it anymore. How do I approach this subject? Do I talk to my mother in law? Do I talk to my father in law directly? Do I ask my husband to talk to him? It's at the point where I cannot sit near him and I have to cover my nose with my shirt if we are in the car together, and sometimes we have to drive 3 hours to go to certain destinations. I'm at my wits end and I can't handle it anymore. It's clear he has bad hygiene and bad oral hygiene but everybody else just seems to tolerate it and leave him alone. I don't get it.

Edit: added our ages and gender for context

I (M35) have had an online friend, let's call her C (F35), for 15 years. We met on a forum as teenagers and just... clicked. Deep conversations, art, music, everything. The kind of friendship where distance never mattered because the connection did all the work.

I considered her my best friend online for this whole time. She helped me a lot through a very delicate time of my life, and since that I’ve only been but thankful to her.

This whole time, C has had a partner (let's call him H). I always respected that completely, never once crossed a line, and honestly spent years encouraging her to work things out with him whenever they had rough patches, because I wanted her to be happy. H has a long history of being jealous of our friendship though (and also jealous that she used the forum where we met, jealous of our messages, etc). A few years ago, during one of their crises, he straight up accused her/us of planning to end up together, that “we have/had a plan”, which was completely false. After that, C pulled back hard silently. For a couple years we basically only talked to say happy birthday.

A few weeks ago she reached out again, out of nowhere, complimenting a drawing I had in my message's app avatar. We had some talk, and then she mentioned she and H were coming to my country for vacation, and “coincidentally” would be staying about 20km from my town. She immediately over-explained why (supermarkets, a friend's suggestion, nothing to do with me, also happens to be their 20th anniversary trip, etc).

I gave her recommendations, offered to send her photos of good beaches, stuff like that. I offered to pick her and H up from the airport, no strings attached, pure logistics. She declined in about 5 minutes (usually sometimes takes her days/weeks to even open my messages). She then said "I'd like to meet you, I don't know if the opportunity will happen this time, but we're in touch." (I think she said that probably because she felt that she rejected me in some way. But for me was weird, because to be honest, is weird to say ‘I’d like to meet you’, and then, literally after a ‘,’ say ‘I don’t know if the opportunity will happen this time').

She was avoidant like that though most messages. At some point, I genuinely thought “why did she told me she was coming if she doesn’t plan to meet?”

Said "we are in touch" the same non-committal phrase she's used a couple times now to close a conversation without committing to anything.

They landed. Nearly had heatstroke walking in 35°C heat because they didn't take a ride (the one I offered). She told me about her day, the beach, normal stuff, but never brought up meeting.

It's now day 20 and they leave the 22. My last message (sent the day August 11, as a reply to her messages) is still unread to this day. Not "seen and ignored," literally unopened. She's 20 minutes from my house and has been for almost three weeks.

I don't even want anything complicated. I highly respect they are on THEIR vacation. I just wanted to give her a drawing of her late cat that I did in the past, and say hello and thank you in person for how much she helped me. She did a lot for me when my mom died when I was a teen, and I will always remember that. Nothing more than maybe 10 minutes, with her husband there, whatever. That's it.

I keep going back and forth between "maybe there's a real reason (her partner's jealousy, maybe she's not even allowed to bring it up)" and "maybe I just wasn't as important to her as I thought, and 15 years meant more to me than to her."

She leaves in 2 days. I don't thing it's going to happen at this point. I feel a lot of sadness and like a void inside me, that friendship meant a lot for me.

Even if the case is the husband's jealousy, I feel deeply saddened about that. Literally, I never saw her in a romantic way or anything. I literally always helped her to fix things with him whenever they had a big fight. If that is the reason and they think badly about me or anything, is like a big reason for me to leave the friendship. Because I don't have (and never had) any shady intention with her. Leaving feels like the final proof that if he or they thought that, they are wrong.

Assuming the meeting doesn't happen and she ends leaving like nothing (no real explanation, just silence), is it reasonablet o significantly step back from this friendship afterward, or directly end it?

Am I being "selfish" to think that she could have some time to meet while she is on her 20th anniversary trip?

I haven't tell her straight to meet, since she was very avoidant. I think the most natural meeting thing was me offering to pick them from the airport. Also, since she ignored my message since day 11, I feel like this whole time, the "ball was on her court".

I thought about leaving the friendship if she leaves like nothing. Maybe sending a final message, or just blocking her directly after some time. For me it would feel like a fake friendship and I don't think I would be able to sustain it.

Thanks for listening to me, it means a lot since I'm having a bad time and this thing has really affected me.

Unfortunately yes you read that right. My mom cheated on my dad (step dad) and now’s she’s pregnant. She won’t get an abortion because she had a miscarriage when she was 17 and she was sad about it, but her guy she’s cheating on my dad with wants to pay for it. I want to get out and be away from all of this but I’m 16 (turning 17 at the end of September) and I don’t know what to do. My family will be ruined and there’s no way for her to be able to support 2 teens and a newborn.

If/when my dad finds out or she gives birth it will be very obvious she had an affair because my dad is fixed and the guy she cheated with is black and my family is definitely white…

And for the Reddit guidelines thing no I know I’m not pregnant I wasn’t asking…

I, 48F, and husband 52M have 2 sons. Our youngest is 22 years old. We adopted him at 11 days old and have had a great relationship. Truly. Not trying to fluff it up or fake the happy family but we are all pretty close. We just took him on his first plane trip to FL with us on vacation in July. We were planning things. He still lived with us and we have had to get on him a bit about getting started in life. If you don't want to go to college, fine, then pick a job. We have been lacks with him, letting him not work and just sit in his room etc. He finally had a job and was going well but they are in their slow period and he hasn't worked in weeks. (I did call and verify this after the events of this past week.)

Last year when he turned 21, he of course wanted to drink some. No problem we are not super strict. Just the usual rules. No drinking and driving etc. No getting hammered alone in your room and then thumping around all night, waking us up. After several months it got a little out of hand and we had a Come to Jesus with him and said no alcohol in the house if he can't control himself. We had several lighter conversations prior to this one. His bio family has severe addiction issues so I have been open and honest with him since they started talking about it in school. No topic is off limits in our family.

So we thought things were better. No more late nights falling down, no apparent drinking. In February we were out of town and he tried 2 edibles and had a severe reaction, heart rate in the 180s and my father took him to the ER. $4k later he was cured. Swore off those ever again. Made me stay on the phone with him from FL for over 2 hrs because he was scared and we are close.

A few weeks ago I thought I smelled alcohol on him during the day. The day after, stale alcohol. I asked him. He swore up, down and sideways that he was not drinking. And because he had always told me the truth before I STUPIDLY believed him and let it go. I did mention it 2-3 more times. Again, it was nothing.

Last weekend we had been out to dinner together. We were planning a day at the lake with friends for sunday. I woke up saturday morning as I often do to let the dogs out and he was gone. 5am. Truck gone.

Now, he is 22. If he wanted to go out, all he had to do was tell me. We have one very important family rule. Let someone know where you are and don't make us worry. I texted and called. I got him to answer once. He said he went to see a friend. He did NOT sound like he was drinking but I was angry and told him to get home. He said ok. That was the last communication I have had with him.

Whole trying to find treatment for him because he is obviously in full blown addiction (we searched his room and found over 30 bottles of alcohol, beer to liquor), a state Trooper calls me to say his truck was left abandoned alongside a road he should haven't been on and they needed to tow it because it was right in front of a runaway truck ramp. His life360 that he refuses to leave on pinging him at that location at 4:30am but up in the woods near his truck. We panic.

They towed the truck, my husband and I head to that location. A deputy meets us there. I am walking along the road looking for foot prints and screaming his name. The deputy and my husband wouldn't let me search with them for fear we were going to find him hurt or worse. I am a nurse. I had a medical bag and narcan just in case. They found nothing.

I am calling hospitals and jails, nothing. I call my oldest son and DIL who live almost 2 hrs away and they head to us immediately. I am begging for a search party, drones, anything. still texting and calling his phone trying to reach him and clear this up.

Working contacts of everyone I can think of I finally get his BFF's dad. His BFF is the worst influence but they have been friends since middle school and we have invited this kid I to our home for years, give him the things he didn't get at home. But trouble follows him. We have explained this to our son. But you can imagine. How that goes. But the BFF's dad is able to get some info for us apparently the meth head mother of BFF picked them up when the truck broke down and he is with them, a place he is not supposed to be due to drugs and law enforcement involvement. We call there, she says he is there but he refused to get on the phone. Seriously, the worst punishment this kid has ever gotten was timeout on the stairs as a child!!! He has no reason to hide from us.

Dad gives us her address and we go there. This POS and the looser BFF threatens us with trespassing and won't help at all. (Side note, my husband is a police Sargent). They give some shit about their house being a "sanctuary " for anyone. I remind BFF our house has been his sanctuary since 5th grade. He has the nerve to try to HUG ME! I told him like hell and get away. The mother is useless and high. She wanders off. They won't help us. We leave. With nothing.

We have a welfare check done later that evening. They won't answer the door. Deputy finally gets him on the phone at some point and he is a "grown man and I don't know why she (me) is acting like this all of a sudden." Wtf? We were fine. We were planning to go get info about school that monday and he had just been shopping with me.

So I have been devastated, crying. Sick all week. I didn't keep messaging him. I sent one text letting him know where he truck is and that he will owe money and they charge a daily storage fee. I told him he had until monday the 8/24/26 and I will be turning off his cell phone and canceling his truck insurance since he isn't paying it like he is supposed to anyway. His 2nd truck is in my name and I told him if he doesn't want it I will sell it to help pay him $4k medical bill. Everything he owns is here. I told him to text to set up a time to get his stuff. My husband works nights so I am alone and scared. His friend carries guns and is stupid enough to pull them out. So I am reduced to putting a pan against the door in case he does have a key and manages to open the door so I hear it. I moved the emergency key.

So what do I do now? He needs help but I can't make him take it. I hoped that seeing the dysfunction in the family he is with would make him wise up. But he is allowing us to be torn to shreds without a care in the world. In the text I did send about his stuff I told him we were searching for him and cops were getting search party together. Nothing.

We went and got boxes so if he does show up he knows we are not begging him to stay. If this is what he wants and this is how little he cares about his family then I guess I have no choice than to let him go. But I am terrified. He hasn't done drugs, he rarely left the house. But if they give him their dose of something it will kill him!!!

I told him we love him and this is always his home but I don't know what else to do. Never in a million guesses would I expect this from this kid. Who still wants me when he is sick. Who still jokes and hangs out with us. We had zero issues with him until all of this.

I would love anysuggestions, stories, processional help. Anything to get us through this. I told him if we don't hear anything by monday, we will assume he has decided to move out and will make our own plans. We did take away all the guns he has because they aren't in his name and he is not stable, plus his BFF will just get him to sell them to get $ for him he uses him and our son doesn't see it.

Please help. Thank you for reading if you made it thorough. I am just devestated.

I was in a bad situation at home. I won’t get into it, but a coworker (28f) insisted I moved in with her to get on my feet and after I was there for about 2 weeks she kicked me out because she didn’t want me living there anymore and claimed she didn’t know what she signed up for. I moved in with another co worker and their lease is up in a month and they are moving. I don’t make enough money to live on my own or live with roommates in general. I have about 500 dollars after all expenses (meds, insurance, pet, gas, and food. Pet will be staying with a friend when I loose the spot I’m at) a month. Any advice?

Is this even legal?

I live in an over priced cabin that I happen to love so much that I've dealt with the world's worst landlord for 4 years.

My cabin is a small studio with no attached bathroom, me and 3 other cabins SHARE a nice but small single person bathroom (inconvenient but it works).

I got a text from my landlord that I owed him an extra $10/ month for my girlfriend using the bathroom (not showering) maybe 10 times a month. With that being said my girlfriend and I have been on an extended trip and haven't even been to my cabin in almost 6 months now?

I just renewed my lease and it doesn't mention anything about guests usage of the bathroom, just the typical if they're there for extended time they need to be added to the lease. Is this even legal? Do I pay him? Do I tell him to fuck off or use the $10 to fix all the things I've asked for years to be fixed?

Hello. So I(24ftm) have severe depression, I always have, and lately I havent been able to force myself to shower. Now before people come saying it's gross, I know. I generally consider myself a clean person until lately. I sweep daily and vacuum multiple times a week. My car is clean and vacuumed. My cats litter is scooped three times a day. I wash walls and registers and shampoo my couch every other month, one thing that often gets neglect is dishes, but even then not to the typical depression level, just work a lot. But it's like showering is the biggest task in the world. It makes me feel better and I enjoy being clean and I do force myself in twice a week. I brush my teeth and wear deoderant etc daily, and Ive asked people around me directly if I stink and everyone has said no, but I just feel disgusting.

When I do shower, I have an entire routine. After not showering I feel gross and often exfoliate a lot and double scrub areas like privates and pits, along with after shower stuff such as lotion and witch hazel etcetc. It really gets to me because I used to do this daily, if not twice, along with the whole schbang of after shower products. Now Im lucky if I can do it once a week. Even then when I do shower I take an hour and it's usually after being up in the late night/early morning for hours hyping myself to do it. Which is an issue since I work a 7-8 with a half hour commute, as well as having a seizure disorder triggered by lack of sleep.

Ive tried everything Ive seen online. Things like dark showers, music, podcasts, shower chairs. Nothing helps. Im not even sure if it is a depression thing, I am at such a loss and it feels embarrassing to even talk about online let alone irl.

So my boyfriend has been talking about us moving in together next year and idk why but it’s been stressing me out a little.

Like, I love him. I really do. And I can definitely see us living together eventually. But I’ve never actually lived alone before, and lately I keep thinking about how much I want to experience that at least once.

I’ve always lived with other people, whether it was family or roommates, so I’ve never had a place that was just mine. And honestly? I kinda want that.

I want to come home and have the apartment exactly how I left it. I want to buy random decorations without asking anyone if they like them. I want to spend an entire Sunday doing absolutely nothing and not feel like I need to talk to somebody. I even want the boring stuff like grocery shopping for one person and figuring out bills by myself lol.

But my boyfriend is already talking like moving in together is obviously the next step, and every time he brings it up I just kinda go along with it.

I haven’t told him how I feel yet because I’m scared he’ll take it as me not being serious about him.

It’s not that I don’t want to live with him.

I just really want to know what it’s like to live alone before I possibly never get the chance again.

Is that weird??

Our friend group went to a local bar last night and a friend brought new girl she met at work. As she's just moved in she wanted to show her around. The night progressed and the new girl noticed I'm not drinking. When she asked my buddy that knew the real reason said "Oh he has cancer he can't drink". Everybody at the table was shocked so I tried to explain before anything else was said but the new girl being a little tipsy as all of them said "Oh I'm so sorry. Is it terminal? Can I be your girlfriend till you die?"

Then I explained that I'm not dying. They just found an unidentified mass on my lungs and I'm gonna get it checked out tomorrow and as they are doing my bloodwork I can't drink.

I talked to my other friend about it. He showed me a video where a guy was saying to girls that he has cancer and they had the same suggestion.

I mean we talked a lot we kind off had a good vibe the whole night. Before that happened. Now I don't know if it was her just being drunk, or she saw the exact videos and just said it as a joke.

I don't want to use it as a power move "Oh hey remember my cancer..." So I don't know if it would be weird even talking to her afterwards.

I'm open to any imput. I've been thinking about the whole interaction whole day and I'm kinda confused about what to think.

Should I even engage with her?

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My father is terminally ill, and I’ll be receiving a large inheritance which will be part of my monthly income.

I currently work part-time and love it (would work full time if I could, my position only gets part time hours, but I can move up to a full time position later on once I’ve worked there long enough). I am also trying to develop my career on the side in my free time. I am making money from it, albeit not a lot yet, which I am aiming to change. I feel like I have a pretty good work life balance right now where I have enough time both for my creative endeavors outside of my regular job as well as a social life or hobbies.

My mother keeps telling me that in order to be stable, I have to get a full-time job that pays 50k/year. I’ve been trying to tell her that 50k/year jobs don’t just fall in your lap that easy (especially if you’re in your early 20s, like me) nor are they common in my field (the arts, where most professionals work contract or freelance). My roommate works full-time and is still only living paycheck to paycheck on 21k/year, and he feels like he barely has any time for himself. Full-time does not always equal more money or fulfillment. I honestly think I can be satisfied and happy on 25-30k/year, especially as I do not plan to ever have kids.

I am conflicted, because yes, I agree most people cannot survive on only part-time work + self-directed side work (I am only “affording” life right now because my father cosigns my rent). However, I am not most people. This inheritance will give me the freedom to still be stable on part-time if I choose, as well as afford expenses which can help me make more money from business. Most of the money I gain per month will be saved or invested.

I hear conflicting views from professionals in my field. Some say they are able to work unrelated full time positions and still make time for developing the career they’re actually passionate about (but in exchange for sacrificing time for other parts of their life), while others say “you have to be PART time, if you work full time you WON’T have time to develop your portfolio.”
For all intents and purposes, I love my day job and do not intend to quit. I know working full time in art isn’t doable for most people, and it would be great if I could, but I think it would be stupid to quit a day job until/unless I know I can maintain a consistent monthly income from art alone (as in an amount that could support me on a reasonable budget even without the inheritance).

I’ve been considering going back to school so I can get qualifications to work a full time day job that I actually like, at least (considering studying vet tech, I love working with animals).
But I’m afraid I’m only giving into family pressure to work full time because she thinks that’s the only “normal” or “correct” way to have a career, that I’ll lose sight of what I care about and give up on the dreams I’ve been working my whole life towards for a false sense of security, when the inheritance will already be providing me security.
There’s a short film called “Here’s The Plan” that keeps coming to mind. I don’t want to waste years of my life doing something that isn’t actually aligned with my goals because I wanted to “play it safe.”

I know I will have significantly more privilege and freedom than I did before but I don’t want to be stupid about it. My roomie thinks that if I can stay part-time and still be stable, then I should, bc he hates being full time and only does so because he actually has to. However he’s young like me so I understand taking his advice with a grain of salt.
Is my mother right or is she out of touch? Should I listen to her or take advantage of the extra time my inheritance could afford me if I so choose? My gut tells me to do the latter, but I’ve been wrong before.

How do I (15M) tell her this? I’ve known her (33F) since I was 8 and since then we had a sort of mother-son relationship. But recently these few months her breath stinks like rotten eggs and sulfur and since I visit her house often she always bends down to wake me up which ‘tortures’ me. I don’t wanna hurt her feelings but I care about her and I’m worried if I don’t tell her this sooner her friends are going to not talk to her anymore. Once I almost vomited when she talked close while teaching me how to fry eggs but I tried my best not to gag and she didn’t notice

I’m a minor and am currently being sextorted. I met this person on app who seemed legitimate enough to me, because the app is strictly teenagers. The chat moved over to ig as as soon as I sent explicit photos the demeanor changed.

He sent me back the picture I sent him, with writing on it saying “let’s make him viral”, and the background was of all my mutuals on ig. He then demanded money, which I stupidly gave him. I didn’t know what to do in that moment and stupidly sent him the money. He asked for more which I sent. In total I have sent him 200 I feel so dumb.

He’s now asking me to get him a gift card tomorrow. And have all the texts and two emails he has. One was the email I was texting him on and the other was the email he made me send the virtual gift cards to. I talked to my parents about it and looked on TikTok and the best thing I can do is not respond or send any money, and just hope he doesn’t send it to all my friends.

But is there anyway to get more info on this guy? I have his emails, and I believe he is American by the way he texts and slang he uses. But like is there anything I can find through an email? I don’t have the skills to find info through an email, but if anyone on here does please help me. I am planning on going the police on this. Please someone help me find this evil human being, ik I’m not his first victim.

I have a union-protected civil service office job that I'm admittedly terrible at - mainly because I hate almost everything about it. I'm past all probationary periods, so it's extremely difficult for them to fire me. They don't want me there, and I don't want to be there. They've started the process to terminate me, but it's a long, painful slog of warnings and write-ups -- and they're getting me on every little nit-picky thing they can.

Today they offered to let me resign and instead of paying out my accrued time, keeping me on the payroll through it - so I keep my benefits for that time after I'm gone. It amounts to about 3 weeks. I'm in fine health, so I don't really NEED my benefits unless something happens.

My alternative is to keep showing up and being miserable until I find something else.

I asked them to let me resign and don't contest my unemployment request. They said they couldn't do that -- it's up to the state.

So now that I'm typing this, I feel like I wouldn't be getting anything at all. I'm still going to get me accrued time no matter what. I'd just need to resign before I'm actually eventually fired.

Is there something I'm missing here? Is there a reason to take their offer?

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EDIT: This is all going through my union rep. I asked for severance and to let my unemployment insurance go through without contesting it. He came back with this -- which I'm suspicious is basically nothing.

I 21f have been dating my 22m bf for almost two years now. he had a decent job when we got togethe, everything was split almost equally. then he got fired from his job, took him over 3 montgs to get another, saying he would doordash but never would (I’d have to force him after I was done with work and help) and he’d only make like $15 then spend it on food or weed. his car got repossessed since he stopped paying for it (I didn’t know). and i ended up having to pay three grand to get it back, and he was going to pay me back, that was almost a year ago now & he still owes me $650. he still spends all his money on weed, food or concerts. I’m not the breadwinner, realistically we make the same amount but he never has any money to provide anything. it gets so exhausting. i buy all the food, gas, dates. i literally paid for us to go out on my birthday. he always complains how he has no money but will spend $100 on a shirt. idk if im ask for advice or just ranting. but will it ever get better

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