My husband is talking to people online.
I have known for a while that my husband (we are both in our 30s) talks to people online, and will even post pictures of himself naked online. Recently, I discovered that he was talking to someone online for a few months and it’s sexual. Not only is it sexual, but I saw some messages and he is putting me down. He told this person that “my wife needs to relax” and some other stuff I won’t repeat here. Also, we have discussed boundaries and I’ve told him that I have a boundary of no sexual conversations online (no sexting, pictures, etc), but I have no problem with adult videos, etc.
I work long hours and he is unemployed. I am starting to feel like he’s using me.
What steps should I take? I feel like I want to give him an opportunity to stop, but then I also feel like that’s not really respecting me and I deserve better.
For steps: do I need to collect evidence that he’s doing this? He doesn’t know that I know about it yet, should I get him to admit it and record it? Does evidence even matter? Should I just kick him out and move on? I’m lost as I’ve never gone through anything like this.