r/BabyBumps

I think i pooped a bit while being on last stage of labour & i feel really ashamed meeting my gynae after the birth

How early did you feel morning sickness and what did it feel like? I am 3.5 weeks and I keep going in and out of feeling like I have a hangover

I have a (what i thought was lol) pretty chill family and set of friends, and never understood the advice of lying about your due date to avoid annoying questions as it gets closer. I am now fully understanding and wish I didn’t share my due date (or gave one with extra buffer)!

While I truly appreciate people checking in on me daily and know it comes from a good place (I get at least a couple of texts a day from different family members and friends), it started to irritate and stress me out.

”is the baby here yet?” “its getting close!” “why is it taking so long?” “tell the baby to come out already!”

I know some are meant to be funny and cheer me up, but when your body hurts, you can’t get good sleep, and every day is a waiting game of symptom spotting, it really gets to be a lot!

I found the most helpful messages that made me feel loved were simple “thinking of you!“ without further questions.

Just wanted to vent, and curious if anyone else felt this way.

I am currently 21 weeks pregnant with my first baby, and my husband and I have been wanting to adopt a dog for a long time now. We just moved into a new place that is finally dog friendly 2 months ago and have lightly started looking at available dogs at nearby shelters. We just found a dog that seems perfect for us- 5 years old, in good health, only 16lbs, and described as house-broken, super easy going, and cuddly. Great with kids of all ages and other dogs. The shelter also describes him as being a great companion for a senior (which feels like a good sign temperament-wise).

For more context, we live in an apartment on the third floor in a very walkable neighborhood with a park 5 minutes away. I work in my neighborhood and have a very flexible schedule where I am able to come home for lunch everyday. My husband is also able to take him into his office and would be taking over the brunt of his care while I am recovering postpartum. We both grew up caring for family dogs but have not had one ourselves.

With all of this in mind, I can’t help but think that it isn’t the smartest idea to get a dog right now. Has anyone been in a similar situation?? My heart says we should go for it, but my brain is telling me to wait. Would love some input/advice. TIA!

fellow induction/preemie/NICU moms/parents chime in here pls but anyone is welcome to give advice. also i'm too tired to check for typos, i apologize in advance.

I was diagnosed with sudden onset severe preeclampsia at 35 weeks to the day. they got me on magnesium and all this other crap and said that i had to be induced. i agreed with this, thats not the problem here at all, but just everything that went down is fucking with my head. now, idk if you've ever had the mag but fucking hell everything is a goddamn blur from those few days. i was in the hospital a total of 8 days.

i'm so depressed that i got no part of the birth experience i wanted, i didn't even get to hold him after birth for longer than maybe 10 seconds before they took him from me for the NICU. i feel so disconnected from the whole entire birth, like i genuinely almost cannot believe i gave birth i keep thinking "gotta plan for the hospital so i can make sure it goes smoothly" and whatnot b4 i realize ive literally already given birth. the not holding him i think is fucking with me the most. i'll never get that sticky newborn skin to skin feeling ever again, no amount of the skin to skin i've done in the NICU feels the same. i think this is a major contributor.

i keep looking at my nearly flat belly and feels so sad. he wasn't supposed to even be here yet. i was still supposed to be poking him through my belly and playing little games with him but now he's here and i can't even experience it fully bc he's stuck in the NICU for at least another week :/

every fucking time i look at this kid he doesn't feel like mine. it feels like im babysitting some other persons kid or some shit. i love him dearly but also he literally doesn't feel like my son. no part of the exploded becoming a parent went how i thought it might, and maybe that was just naive of me, but it's seriously fucking with my ability to bond with him fully. he doesn't even rlly look much like me, which obv ik can change cuz lwk he looks nothing like my partner either so.

but yea, i feel sad and depressed and awful bc this whole situation got fucked up and i was out of it for most of it and now i cant even bond with my child properly.

not to mention they didn't give me a damn pump until 10 hours later so i'm on a stupid strict regiment to get my supply to start again basically which isn't helping the stress out.

Hey Everyone!

I am currently 24w and I am having a bit of anxiety due to my noticeable cognitive decline that seems to have increased in the last few weeks :(

I am a manager at my work where I have to juggle quite a few things all the time. In the past, I have been great at this and I thrive, partially because I don't forget things and don't make "logical mistakes" (e.g. just knowing that a certain type of schedule should be made if we are having a certain type of event. Like things that are implied).

I have already noticed this decline as of maybe 5 weeks ago, but now it's getting so bad that even coworkers/my employees are getting upset with me. It's causing me a lot of anxiety, which impacts my ability to relax, which I know makes this all worse... I have asked my coworkers to have more patience with me and that I might ask for more reminders. Also asking them to tell me if they think I am mistaken. But it's getting to the point where they're clearly angry/irritated with me.

What triggered me even making this post is that I had asked my colleagues about an upcoming meeting's starting time and I didn't see the information in a spot that we normally have this information posted. Then they sent me a screenshot of a company-wide announcement post, rather than just telling me the time. I usually would know to look there next, and I'm annoyed/embarrassed that I didn't. I just told her "Thank you", but this kind of really hurt my feelings (another aspect of this whole thing that is making this all frustrating is that I wouldn't normally take something like that so personally).

It's noticeably creeping into my personal life as well this past week: I am forgetting to message people back, I am forgetting things my husband has told me. I am even forgetting to just put things into my calendar and then being surprised by things happened (and then immediately remembering and being so frustrated that I forgot). Family and friends are a little more forgiving, though...

I looked at other posts on here and there seems to be a lot of "it only gets worse!" commentary and this really is not helping the anxiety I am feeling about this. I really don't want to be "doom and gloom" about it. I want to know if anyone has any advice or tips on how they handled/are handling this issue in their pregnancy.

Right now I am coping with post-it notes all over my desk and rewriting meeting notes, but I feel that I could have a better system in place. I don't go on maternity leave for another 10 weeks, and I was able to work it out with my bosses that I will be working remotely starting in October. I think that this would help, but I guess just any advice about this all would be super appreciated! (Sorry for rambling, this was kind of rant, too, I guess).

I'm 30w4d due in late October; I discussed adjusting life with a newborn with my husband. He is fully supportive and we have been talking to both sides of the family for visits. I have told everyone that we would like to see what adjustments we need and ask that the first visits start in January 2027.

Everyone but us seems to keep asking if we're really sure and if we can handle that. This is our first child so I'm a little anxious and confused why everyone keeps insisting that they should visit earlier or live with us for a couple of weeks.

We have promised to be honest if we are overwhelmed but we're excited, baby proofing the home, practicing meal prep, and looking for what is hard for us to do on schedule and changing/adjusting it to have a system where we wouldnt be overwhelmed.

We do welcome the help but we want time as a new family to adjust. Are we being too confident or what? How are your adjustment plans going?

Hi everyone … I’m 13 weeks pregnant and I haven’t had any symptoms…. I don’t feel pregnant at all and I wondering if that’s normal ? I’m driving myself crazy looking up symptoms can anyone help if possible?

I am currently 32 weeks pregnant and I need to formally complain about the physical comedy routine that is simply changing sleep positions.

nobody tells you that turning from your left side to your right side becomes a major logistical operation. You cannot just flip over like a normal human being anymore. You have to wake up fully, brace your core, mentally prepare for your pelvic bones to sound like popping bubble wrap, and execute a synchronized maneuver with five different specialty pillows.

First, the wedge under the belly has to be dislodged. Then you have to extract the massive full-body pillow clamped between your knees without kicking your partner off the mattress. Then you perform the agonizing mid-bed rotation, groaning like an overloaded cargo ship fighting a tidal wave, only to re-stuff the pillows back into their designated pressure points.

The entire ordeal takes four full minutes, elevates your heart rate, and generates enough friction heat to warm a small apartment.

And the worst part? The absolute SECOND you get perfectly wedged and comfortable on your right side, your bladder decides it has three drops of liquid that must be evacuated immediately.

Why did nobody warn us that third-trimester sleep feels like wearing a bowling ball strapped to your ribs while doing low-budget parkour?

There are much much bigger things to be sad about but I am sad about this.

I always thought, I was SURE, that I never wanted to have a kid. Biggest surprise of my life when after nearly 17 years together we both changed our minds. It's been such a beautiful and special time (34 weeks tomorrow). Of course I want some pictures to look back on!

He avoids having his picture taken like the plague (anxiety and deep loathing of anything related to social media) but I did talk him into a professional photoshoot when we eloped and I swear I look at those beautiful pictures nearly every day and it's been 7 years. So I took a chance and booked a maternity photoshoot months ago and hoped he would wrap his head around it by August 23rd as something important for me and a once in a lifetime thing.

This morning he told me it makes him sick to his stomach to think about and he won't do it. "The most paralyzing, anxiety inducing thing I can think of". He also is pissed about the $550 cost and said he'd rather I cancel and lose the $275 deposit than pay more.

We aren't rich but we have money. We usually take an entire week off for our anniversary (unpaid for me) and spend $400 renting a jet ski for a day but we didn't this year so it's not like we can't/ don't occasionally drop a sum like this on something we want.

I literally don't post on social media ever. These pictures would be for us, when we're 90 and want to remember, for our daughter to get a glimpse of how full of love we were when she was almost here. (And yeah, I really like how I look pregnant and candids from friends just don't do me justice!)

I feel defeated and honestly angry. I'm empathetic to the anxiety and at the same time wish he would push through it this one time. It's just an hour in the park getting our picture taken.

Have to share with strangers since talking to friends or family would be poor Team Married behavior.

I gave birth in November 2024 to my son.
I gained 70 pounds. He was 8lbs 1oz and I had preeclampsia. I started showing at 6 weeks having already gain 10 lbs.

I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks in September 2025. I gained 10 lbs.

I am 22 weeks pregnant and I’ve already gained 29 lbs. My ob said I’m too big when she measured my belly. She even tried to push my fundus down to make my measurement smaller but she said I was still big. I am going to have preeclampsia this time but I’ve been taking baby aspirin to prevent it.

I don’t know why I get so big? Do I just make a lot of room for my babies? Does my body just overreact to pregnancy? I feel heavy so heavy all the time.

I’m 23, my husband is 26. We got married 6 months ago. I am 10 weeks pregnant. Got pregnant 4.5 months after getting married. My parents (mostly my mom) have expressed multiple times in the form of comments to other people that she isn’t hoping to be a grandparents anytime soon or not ready or too young to be a grandparents. I’m not sure how they will react when we tell them. I’m scared. I want it to be a happy moment, but truthfully not sure how it will go. Any ideas on how to announce in a more chill way so she has a minute to process? I was thinking a card that says “we really need our parents, because we’re going to be parents!” then gifting that to them with a pregnancy test Labor Day weekend (I’ll be 13 weeks. And this is month before their anniversary) and say it’s an early anniversary gift! But I’m not getting our NIPT/genetic testing done til the 26th, so I would really like to know if we’re low risk or not before announcing.

My dad will be ecstatic I think so not too worried about him! My in laws will be ecstatic!! They always talk about grandkids and they want to be grandparents so badly. My mother in law sends me and her daughter (my SIL) TikTok’s about babies, etc! No clue how to announce to them either. Would really prefer to do my MIL, FIL, SIL & BIL all at once. Any ideas?!?! I don’t really like doing a gift cuz I feel like that’s obvious then. I don’t want to do the picture and be like “okay everyone say Sara’s pregnant!” Give me all your unique ideas!!! But specifically if your mom has ever been a tougher person to announce to I would really appreciate the input!

The first trimester is so scary!! I just found out last weekend that I’m pregnant and am currently almost 5 weeks along.

I feel like I am googling everything in the house before I eat it or touch it. Every little twinge or cramp in my stomach worries me. I have still been in the gym every day but I feel like I have to move so slowly and carefully. I’m scared to sit up too fast or hit potholes in the car.

And I can’t even feel or see anything there yet! I just know the stats on first trimester miscarriage and am terrified that something small and meaningless will kill my baby.

Does this anxiety get better or worse once you hit 12 weeks? I can’t believe it’s only been a few days and I have no idea how I’m going to make it another 7 weeks like this. My first doctor visit is still a month away.

My baby has been measuring a week ahead at every single ultrasound throughout my pregnancy. I get my growth scan next week at 33 weeks. I know the measurements from an ultrasound can only be so accurate, but it makes me nervous that he’s consistently a week ahead this whole time. My mom had two 9lb+ babies. My 6’5” dad was born at 11lbs 1oz and cracked my grandma’s pelvis!!!

So please, anyone here who was measuring ahead throughout pregnancy and had a baby at full term that ended up smaller than expected, reassure me lol. I’m paranoid my baby will weigh in the double digits and i can’t pop out a 10+ pounder

I used to be super fit pre pregnancy - power yoga every day, 15k steps a day. Basically just SUPER in shape. Now I’m about 6 months pregnant and due to various circumstances (ivf, illness, ankle sprain, traveling, more illness, summer heat, traveling again, MORE ILLNESS) I went from daily yoga and walking to not doing yoga in almost 3 months and just tryyyying to get as many steps a day as possible.

Well i bought myself a new Lulu yoga mat which I was super excited about. My cats tore up my other one (ofc it still works but) and I thought a new mat would be exactly what I needed to get back into it. So cue yoga yesterday and today. It’s just so shocking and frustrating to start doing yoga again with this new body that’s also so out of shape. I feel like I’m not even the same person at all. I’m weak and so heavy and there’s extra fat of course at my hips and so I feel this pressure when going into lunges of my skin folding which I never had and I can’t go as deep. I’m not anywhere near as flexible etc. out of breath with a downward dog. Can’t do a side plank anymore. Got stuck at the floor with chaturanga and I couldn’t push myself back up and instead had to roll over like a whale to get up.

But of course I pressed on and then I suddenly got a Charlie horse in both sides of my hooha when standing up from a forward fold and immediately started sobbing. My husband is so supportive and was so sweet to me 🥹

I guess- how do I get back into shape?? Im not trying to lose weight or anything but I just want to be fit again for labour. I want some muscles back. I want to feel strong 💪. I’m actually ok with my body when I look in the mirror I feel beautiful and I have gained a lot of weight (like 14 kilos which is more than average 😵‍💫) but I’m ok with how I look. I JUST want to feel stronger again and I know I’m picking a hell of a time to do it but this is when I finally can. It’s just so much harder than when I first started 😢

Any tips or yoga vids etc are welcome. 🙏 I watch yoga with kassandra and I have a subscription to urban sports which lets me go to any class in my neighborhood (but I am LITERALLY SO OUT OF SHAPE rn I cannot keep up with a yoga class in person!!! 😭) help get me back into the yoga studio before I have the baby and cannot go for other reasons plssssss 🙏

Me again cause I don't have many people to speak to. I'm tired of having to use the bathroom so often and being nauseous. That's all. Happy pregnancy friends!

We got a baby bouncer delivered yesterday and I decided this was finally a piece of baby gear simple enough that I could assemble it without waiting for my husband.

Four legs, fabric seat, a couple screws. Easy.

About 45 minutes later I was sitting on the floor furious because the instructions clearly showed the seat leaning backward, while mine looked like it was designed to launch a baby directly toward the ceiling.

I took it apart twice.

My husband came home, stared at it for maybe ten seconds, picked the entire thing up and turned it around.

I had assembled it perfectly.

I had just been sitting on the wrong side of it for nearly an hour.

He didn't even laugh immediately, which somehow made it worse. He just said, very carefully, "Do you want me to make dinner?"

The bouncer is now finished and I am no longer accepting engineering assignments.

My partner has left at 33 weeks pregnant. He can’t handle the stress of living with my existing children from a previous relationship. Anyway, he’s also been unemployed for the last 4+ months so has been financially living off me too.
My question is.. should I now give the baby my surname, his surname or hyphenate?
Should I put him on the birth certificate to make it easier to claim child support or just leave him off.
So disappointed but just don’t have the energy to be emotional. Just feeling numb. My house is calmer without him and that’s the truth.