r/BabyBumps

I am almost 37 weeks with a breech baby who hasn’t changed positions once since her first ultrasound. Her head is under my right rib and her feet and hands are constantly kicking my side. Because she hasn’t moved position she constantly kicks the same spots and I am SO SORE. It literally feels like I am bruised from the inside.

I feel so guilty, but I literally cannot stand the feeling of her movements anymore. She NEVER stops moving. It doesn’t matter if I’m standing up laying down sitting down. I only get a few moments of peace a day and even then my stomach is so heavy, I feel so defeated and out of body.

I have a scheduled C-section in two weeks, but I’m losing my mind and time is going by so slow. I tell people about how the movements hurt me but they just laugh and talk about how cute that is and what a blessing is to be pregnant.

But I feel like I’m in a body horror film 😭😭😭 I always thought I wanted at least two kids, but I genuinely do not think I can go through nine months of pregnancy again.

I know there’s nothing I can do at this point but wait it out but I really just had to vent.

I simply cannot afford it. I’m getting by, barely. Considering adoption after birth. But for now, I scheduled an ultrasound at a free Christian clinic to make sure it’s not ectopic at least. After that, I think I’m on my own. I’m going to check my blood pressure at home regularly, what else can I do?

I’m iron deficient, with my ferritin at 14 past time I checked, but not even sure if I can keep taking my prescribed supplements, so I stopped taking them when I got a positive test. I am taking prenatal vitamins. I just don’t know what else I can do. I understand I’m at risk with less care, and the baby too, but I want to do what I can.

I also can’t afford to miss work. I don’t have much sick time saved right now, maybe 4 hours left. I also think I could lose my job if they find out I’m pregnant because the job is basically moving 40 lb boxes around. What do people do in this situation? I won’t consider abortion. Any helpful comments are welcome, especially if you can recommend resources that might help me. Thanks in advance.

I’m 36 +1 and today and yesterday baby has had a lot smaller movements than she had two days ago.

However , she was super duper active two days ago.
But is usually not that active.
I have felt her do some small roles here and there but laying on my side usually gets her going…just small movements .

I’m not expecting huge kicks anymore but if it’s still 10 in two hours is she allowed to have a lazy day?

I have an appointment tomorrow at 10:30 so idk if it’s worth going in tonight.

Also random information but I’m also slightly sick too so maybe that’s slowing her down

After nearly a decade of dreaming of our son, my husband and I conceived and we have been thrilled. The moment the NIPT results came back to us around the 10 week mark that he was healthy, my husband bought a pack n play, a car seat, and a stroller that he had sent to his parents. We opened them to make sure they were okay and then re-closed the boxes and they insisted on helping us store them until we had our place more together, which we accepted. They covered them with a clean blanket out of the way and it seemed fine.

Now I’m 36 weeks pregnant and went to pick them up, they were no longer covered, no longer closed as well, and when I opened to inspect them, it was apparent their cats had spent significant time on them as there is literally piles of cat hair in the carseat and on top of the bassinet portion of the pack n play.

Not only is this concerning because my newborn is going to use these at any time, I have my own pets and I’m scared this foreign scent will make them want to mark my baby’s new, nice items no matter how hard I try to clean them up. I am at a total loss at what to do to effectively salvage these without further incident.

Has anyone found out they’ve been diagnosed with colon cancer while pregnant? On September 4th I had an Abdominal CT and ultrasound because I had been having worsening bowel symptoms and blood in my stool throughout the summer. They found a mass on my colon (my pre- CT pregnancy test was negative when that procedure was done). My doc wanted me to follow up with a GI and schedule a colonoscopy for biopsies, and seemed concerned about cancer because I have swollen lymph nodes also. I went in on Oct. 1st for the colonoscopy, and before they did my IV, they tested me and I’m pregnant.

They aren’t willing to complete the colonoscopy until I have an early pregnancy appointment to get cleared by an OB/GYN for anesthesia. I’m supposed to go to that appointment on Oct. 14th and am hoping to get cleared to get the colonoscopy, but of course all of my racing thoughts have just become so much more complex.

The very next day after finding out we are expecting, I started vaginally bleeding pretty heavily and we went to the ER. Ultrasound was inconclusive and they of course had no choice but to instruct me to wait for the passage of time to see how baby develops (or if I actually miscarried). I have been getting my HCG levels drawn over the last week and they are rising consistently, so my next step is my OB/GYN appointment to confirm whether the pregnancy is viable or growing outside the uterus somewhere.

My husband and I have wanted to get pregnant for a while now and stopped trying in August when I became painfully symptomatic with bowel issues a couple of months ago (since I knew deep down something was wrong and it wasn’t general IBS). This all just feels like too much. We want this baby so badly AND I really need relief. If my calculations are correct, I was actually pregnant for the CT scan on Sept. 4th (I believe we conceived on our anniversary August 30th), but tested a false negative because of how early it was.

I’m so scared that I will have to face a really horrible scenario of having to choose between myself and our child in order to get treatment if this is malignant. And if it’s not malignant, it is still serious enough that I need to get this mass out of my body. I am in so much pain every day, and I only expect things to worsen as the baby grows and my organs compact. Looking for anyone who’s willing to share a similar experience as to what their options may have been, and for advice on coping mechanisms for this torturous waiting period of the unknown.

Things I won’t miss after this pregnancy

1. Calf cramps & the lasting pain it causes
2. Insane pelvic pressure
3. Difficulty sleeping & getting comfortable
4. Hot flashes
5. People thinking it’s ok to comment on my body- comments ranging from “your belly is so tiny” to “I thought you were further along, you showed quicker this time!”

I’m sure I’ll think of a bunch of other things 😅

I’m terrified. My girlfriend is pregnant with my baby and I don’t know what to think about it. I’m not financially stable. I still live with my parents and she lives with her sister who just had a baby this year. My parents are incredibly strict and I feel that they will kick me out when I tell them. I make $16/hr and she makes $15/hr. I live in Florida so rent is not cheap over here. I’m also paying for school out of pocket and I just started my first year. I still have an entire year left. I’m doing trade school as well for auto mechanic.

The truth is, I want to have this baby. I want to be a father. I don’t want to leave the kid growing up without a father figure. Leaving is not an option.

If anyone in here can please just help me through this and show me some guidance, please. I will take any criticism. Any tips. Please just help me.

I went late by 9 days with my first and that was with an induction.

My MIL is here because we have a toddler and she can provide childcare, my daughter adores her. She is very helpful.

I was due yesterday.

I’m tired. I’m 40+1. I spent most of my pregnancy severely anemic. I’m still working full-time (though from home since 38 weeks). I have a toddler.

Every time I sit down my MIL makes comments like I need to be on my feet, I should go for a walk, I should go dancing, I was more active last pregnancy (I wasn’t), etc. I get she’s inpatient and excited but it’s driving me nuts. Plus I am pretty active! I’m up and down the stairs doing laundry, cleaning, lifting my toddler, we went to the local fall carnival for 2 hours yesterday where I was walking, standing, and again hefting my toddler without complaint. I’m out running errands. I went and bought 2 giant 26 lb pumpkins and lifted and arranged them outside by myself. I’m not just lying in bed.

I finally snapped and said I am active and if it were that easy to induce labor no one would go past their due date.

Last appointment (5 days ago) I was barely 1cm dilated. I don’t have any signs of labor. I know things can change quickly. I’m hoping to avoid another induction (it was most unpleasant) but all this pressure isn’t helping me!

TW: baby loss

My baby boy passed away in February and I went back to work in August. He had an incredibly rare genetic disease.

The past few weeks I’ve noticed intense shedding in the shower.. more than ever in my life and it’s alarming. I’m currently ten weeks pregnant with my rainbow baby and I am looking for recommendations on how to help with hair loss during pregnancy?

My blood work thyroid iron is all normal.

Rosemary oil or anything that you think is safe to use?
TIA

Trigger warning: mention of drugs and addiction.

So Ive posted here many times but for this post I wanna add for context that I’m turning 18 in December and im 19 weeks along today.

I’ve had to cut contact with my bestfriend (17) because she relapsed once again, she’s been clean from all kinds of drugs for about 5 months or so till yesterday where she smoked weed.

Which is totally fine for me and out of my control, usually I would keep in contact with her and try to guide her out of it and try to keep her away from other kinds of drugs but now that I’m pregnant I want my baby to have the best people around and no drugs whatsoever in its life.

She’s used all kinds of drugs as she fell into addiction at only 15 and was on the run multiple times last year and the year before doing whatever one does then, I had to cut contact with her once or twice then too and we didn’t become friends again until almost a year later both times where she was clean again due to how she changed as a person and she put my sister(16) in danger and tried to make her relapse too.

I don’t know if this was harsh and just straight out mean of me to do, I didn’t want to but now that I’m having a baby I want only the best people and environment for my child and us.

I feel so sad and like I’m the most horrible friend ever because what friend does that?! And especially since I always try to help her and keep her clean, she’s been and is so excited to be an auntie and I just feel so horrible and like I ruined that for her now.

Can someone please tell me if it was the right choice or not because I’m spiraling and my heart feels broken for our friendship once again and for her & her wellbeing because I want her to be clean and healthy & happy.

I’m expecting my second child and my husband and I want to get some home improvements done as well as deep cleaning before baby is here. Well I guess we didn’t think very carefully about the timeline and waited until the third trimester to start on anything. Which means I am basically alone taking care of our 21 month old every day and every night while he works on remodeling the basement and deep cleaning. It is so physically exhausting (on top of working a full time job) and I feel so miserable not getting the rest I need.

I’ve complained about this arrangement to him and his solution has been to wait until the toddler is in bed before getting started on the projects for the day. Which just means he’s exhausted and falling asleep on the couch late at night and I’m left alone without any company during the evening hours. I’d like my husband back and just some precious quiet family time to rest and enjoy the last few weeks before our new family member arrives.

I wish we did all this work during the second trimester, but we were traveling and visiting family instead because I felt good. I guess I’m just posting this to vent a little bit!

We did scale back on the plans a bit but unfortunately some of the projects are already half done and the house is torn apart so it’s probably best to just forge ahead on most of it.

I’m so exhausted.
I lost my son at 20 weeks in late April from a failed LUTO shunt placement surgery. Less than two months later I’m pregnant again. I’m now almost 9 weeks. I’m exhausted all the time, nauseous all the time, starving all the time. I feel like I’m already showing. I’m being treated like a baby because this pregnancy is considered high risk due to my past loss. I’m already making milk because my supply never fully dried and I can’t express or pump without risking triggering labor and losing this pregnancy. Essentially I was told I just gave birth and got pregnant at the same time so I’m experiencing postpartum and first trimester symptoms on the highest level, simultaneously. I’m so happy about this pregnancy especially after losing my previous (who was a rainbow after two other losses) but my god…everything is so hard now.

I’m tempted to ask if I can go on leave early and just take it easy this pregnancy. I can’t do anything at work and I’m limited at home. It sucks.

our baby boy will be here in less than 3 weeks and i’m having a hard time landing on his middle name, his first name will be apollo. his brothers (half brothers but brothers none the less) both have names that go together. ikaika and kimani. and now my family is telling me my baby will feel left out since his name is not like theirs with a “k” in it. anyways the names im stuck between are apollo lee, apollo kai, and apollo knox. i’m really liking apollo kai but apollo lee has family significance which would be the only reason i’d give him that middle name. any advice or opinions are appreciated 💙

I am looking to see if anyone has experienced something similar to what I’m feeling and if it gets better/ any advice to offer to help navigate it??

I am a first time mom, with my little one having arrived in August. Ever since her arrival I don’t mind what I consider “my people” like my mom or friends etc to hold or be over around the baby. However I feel EXTREMELY hostile towards my in-laws calling, wanting pictures, wanting to come visit and hold her etc. Specifically, my father in law has to me been extremely overbearing, calling my husband to check in a lot, and texting me. I have chosen to not respond and he recently took up issue with that to my husband about how he’d appreciate a response, mostly out of concern I think that I’m not answering and wanting to be involved and missing us etc.

What confuses me is I didn’t have a bad relationship with my in-laws prior to this, I even enjoyed spending time with them and never anticipated feeling this way. I also feel bad because for my husband this is his first child too and he has a great relationship with his family and is likely excited to share her with them and make memories. I simply and just doing everything I can to avoid them, and keep them away. I don’t know how to make myself feel better/ navigate this.

I see everyone packing their hospital bag and it looks fun but when it comes to thinking about my own, i just… don’t see what I would put in it? I don’t want to wear my own clothes at the hospital. I don’t want to provide my own underwear and socks at the hospital. I don’t want to bring my own pillows/blankets and bleed or puke all over them. I realize I need a phone charger and something to wear home, but other than that…. ???

I can’t be the first person to think this, right?

edit: thank you to everyone who commented. you have given me some very helpful advice!

I’m due November 18th with our first baby and my husband is wanting to go on a hunting trip that is 6 hours away October 27-31st. I’m advising him not to go due to the unknown. It’s our first baby. Do you think that’s fair to ask him to not go??? He thinks he’ll be good and I won’t go into labor

I am 31 weeks and apparently everyone has appointed themselves manager of our nursery.

Most of it is secondhand. My sister saved the little wooden dresser from her kids, a friend gave us sleep sacks, and my husband sanded an old bookshelf with his dad. Nothing matches and it wont look like a showroom. It feels like our family and has saved us alot of money.

Still, relatives keep asking when we will buy the real furniture. One coworker called it a bit sad. Apparently choosing used items means we are either struggling or not excited enough.

Yesterday our elderly neighbor brought over a repaired quilt. She replaced two worn squares with fabric covered in tiny crooked stars, because she said babies need something imperfect to stare at. I nearly cried.

Why are we so determined to turn preparing for a baby into a shopping performance? This child will be surrounded by things thier family touched, fixed, and passed along. That does not feel sad to me.

I have recently given birth to a beautiful baby girl. She is now 12 weeks old. My husband and I have 2 under 2 now, plus his 2 older daughters who are 8 and 14 years old. My stepdaughters have no family support on their mothers side of the family, my in laws are their only family network. Their mother has epilepsy and never seems to be able to control her seizures for long. Also never does anything about it medically. Since having my Bub, she has had 3 seizures.
My 14yo stepdaughter doesn’t want to live with her mum anymore and has been fighting about having to go spend time with her since a week before I gave birth. My 8yo stepdaughter is scared to be with her mum without her big sister in case something happens.
My husband and I have tried everything to make her understand that she needs to take her medical condition more seriously for her safety and the psychological wellbeing of the kids. We even moved her into a house close to ours last year so that the kids would feel safe knowing we are only a few hundred metres away in an emergency.
with both my 22 month old and my 12 week old I have had PPA and PPD. I have felt constantly overwhelmed since my baby was born because of the volatility of this situation and feeling like I have no control over my life because of this.
As mentioned, my in laws are the only family support for my step kids. However they spend 6 months every year overseas. A few weeks ago I reached out to them to explain how the situation here wasn’t great at the moment and the kids are having a hard time. I told them I was really struggling, how stressed their son is over this, and that I feel like we need their support. They left my message on seen and never responded. Flash forward 3 weeks, and a notification popped up on my phone that they angry reacted my message.
I feel so hurt and angry and I feel like they have shown me how little they care. I am anxious about when they get home how I am going to manage my relationship ship with them when I don’t want to see them at all.
How would you feel?
I need advice.

I get how soft colours are cute on babies, but why is it so hard to find outfits that have bolder colors? I have a newborn baby girl and I’m tired of these light pinks, light greens, light purples. Where are all of the dark pink, forest greens, royal blues, something a little more colourful? I’ve tried looking at the Gap, Carter’s, Target, Walmart, Joe fresh, children’s place. Anyone know other retailers that might sell more colourful baby clothes?