u/qweenofsus

I used to be super fit pre pregnancy - power yoga every day, 15k steps a day. Basically just SUPER in shape. Now I’m about 6 months pregnant and due to various circumstances (ivf, illness, ankle sprain, traveling, more illness, summer heat, traveling again, MORE ILLNESS) I went from daily yoga and walking to not doing yoga in almost 3 months and just tryyyying to get as many steps a day as possible.

Well i bought myself a new Lulu yoga mat which I was super excited about. My cats tore up my other one (ofc it still works but) and I thought a new mat would be exactly what I needed to get back into it. So cue yoga yesterday and today. It’s just so shocking and frustrating to start doing yoga again with this new body that’s also so out of shape. I feel like I’m not even the same person at all. I’m weak and so heavy and there’s extra fat of course at my hips and so I feel this pressure when going into lunges of my skin folding which I never had and I can’t go as deep. I’m not anywhere near as flexible etc. out of breath with a downward dog. Can’t do a side plank anymore. Got stuck at the floor with chaturanga and I couldn’t push myself back up and instead had to roll over like a whale to get up.

But of course I pressed on and then I suddenly got a Charlie horse in both sides of my hooha when standing up from a forward fold and immediately started sobbing. My husband is so supportive and was so sweet to me 🥹

I guess- how do I get back into shape?? Im not trying to lose weight or anything but I just want to be fit again for labour. I want some muscles back. I want to feel strong 💪. I’m actually ok with my body when I look in the mirror I feel beautiful and I have gained a lot of weight (like 14 kilos which is more than average 😵‍💫) but I’m ok with how I look. I JUST want to feel stronger again and I know I’m picking a hell of a time to do it but this is when I finally can. It’s just so much harder than when I first started 😢

Any tips or yoga vids etc are welcome. 🙏 I watch yoga with kassandra and I have a subscription to urban sports which lets me go to any class in my neighborhood (but I am LITERALLY SO OUT OF SHAPE rn I cannot keep up with a yoga class in person!!! 😭) help get me back into the yoga studio before I have the baby and cannot go for other reasons plssssss 🙏

Hi. I have a community tank with 4 red banded sumo loaches.

The problem is they’re fat. They steal all the food from everyone. It’s so hard to feed the tank without over feeding the loaches and feeding the rest of the fish enough. It’s starting to make my snail population grow again too in trying.

They ATE one of my tetras. Bit the tail right off of him. The poor thing. I’m thinking of potentially rehoming them but I’m not sure how to do in Germany. :/ also I don’t know if I can catch these things. It took the guy at my lfs 15 mins to snag them and he was working with a much easier setup to be catching loaches.

And it’s totally on me- I got them thinking that they would have the personality of gobies (my fave fish) boy was I wrong. Those derpy snake potatoes are lazy af. These are NOT

Any advice?

Thx

My male kribensis has Started showing these very strange and concerning symptoms the past few days. I’m very confused as everyone else in the tank is fine. He’s always been extremely vibrant and healthy. He is so weak I literally scooped him up with my hand and placed him into the breeding box to isolate him from the other fish. He pooped yesterday and I saw poop today. So I don’t think he’s constipated…

Parameters:

Mature cycled tank (over a year old)

190l

0 nitrites

20 nitrates

79-80f

I use reverse osmosis water from a filter under my sink - I condition and remineralise it. I can check the Gh and Kh tomorrow but realistically, I don’t believe that’s a problem.

I look forward to anyone’s help on this

I’ve been passively searching for Hebamme in Berlin using various sites recommended to me since I was around 8-10 weeks. Now of course I know I want Beleghebamme but I am having the hardest time finding one. I sent 20 emails today.

For hospitals I was thinking of DRK westend clinic but now I see you have to register by the 12th week… which I did NOT know :( so now I am looking at either st. Joseph, vivantes fshain or Charité. I’m really at a loss. At this point I am beginning to accept I will get whatever midwife on duty and not a Beleghebamme but how do I at least ensure I get the best hospital possible?

I am scared as a friend had gotten Episiotomy ✂️ 🐈 without her consent. And I want to make sure I don’t end up in a hospital with sadistic doctors who will violate my body without asking me in such a vulnerable time. I also want my baby to be in a hospital equipped to deal with any situation quickly for him which is so important.

Does anyone have any reccomendation? I am on the TK

Thanks

Hi- I just really started feeling my baby very recently. And I’ve been wanting this for yearssss. I’m so grateful to know my sweet baby is safe in there. This is a very wanted ivf pregnancy. It took me 5 embryo transfers to get here. I feel very reassured at the fact that all is well in there BUT I’m getting this anxious feeling when he moves (especially when he rolls which feels super strange) and it makes me quite anxious. Like kind of like I want to crawl out of my skin. This is obviously something that makes me feel terribly guilty. I think it’s the sudden realisation that it is REAL he is a person that is there and has his own mind etc. and I think maybe that feeling is just quite overwhelming? I’m not sure. It especially disturbed me last night when I woke up in the night and I had a hard time falling back asleep.

I’m just wondering if anyone else has had these feelings about their baby because at the moment I feel like a terrible parent and ungrateful when in all reality this is all I’ve been wanting for the longest time :( is this just a shock that I get used to quite quickly?

UPSETTING EMAIL ABOUT NIPT RESULT***

EDIT: Thank you everyone for your replies- after a strongly worded email from my husband after hours of crying, we recieved a reply back today on Saturday outside their hours. The explanation is it was in fact a typo. They did mein to type “Keine Auffalligkeiten.” Baby is 100% healthy- no anomalies. 😭

Hi- when I took the NIPT I was told that I would be called if there were any concerning or abnormal results. I have not received a call and I sent an email today to which I receive this response:

Sehr geehrte Frau __,

es gibt eine Aufääigkeiten im Prägtest, Den Befunde darf ich Ihnen jedoch erst mit SSW 14+0 senden. Woher dürfen wir diesen nicht herrausgeben da das Geschlecht vermerkt ist.

I am hoping it is a translation issue but this email made me so upset and now I am worried since now the praxis is closed during the weekend. I feel upset that they don’t clarify if it’s trisomy or a sex chromosome disorder and also that they don’t tell me the seriousness. I am super worried now and crying of course and feel like this is such an inappropriate vague email to send a pregnant person.

I am just asking for experience- is it true if it was a bad result they would call me regarding trisomy? Is this really common practice in Germany to send this sort of email or am I misunderstanding with the language. I was told I would receive all results except gender which I would have to wait for. Does this mean the flag is on a sex chromosome disorder?

I had an ultrasound yesterday and everything looks wonderful. I’m 11+5 today and I feel in my heart the baby is fine but this is such a terrible email to wake up to.

Hi all, I read on TK website that a midwife is covered by insurance and I asked my ob if she had recommendation- but she told me that midwives aren’t covered by insurance and that she doesn’t have any recommendations.

I’m a bit lost. Does anyone know how to find a midwife covered by insurance? Or is TK not exactly telling the truth…

Also I am from a country where midwives aren’t quite as common- will they help me with my plan and choosing the hospital etc? I also read that as part of the birth plan there are certain things you must ask for in advance, like gas and a pool. Would a midwife help me arrange this/ guide me on how to do it?

Thanks!! ❤️

I never thought I’d be making a post like this. I know it’s normal for my body to gain weight now and frankly it is low on my list of concerns but I’m looking for some insight.

I’m 5’5 (165cm) , I was about 120 pounds but I was guessing I went up to 130 (58kg) so I wrote that on my dr appt form yesterday but she weighed me and I’m like 140 pounds now suddenly. (64kg) I gained all that in the last 3 weeks.

On top of that I’m only 8+5 and I’ve been congratulated by people and asked if I’m expecting. It already really looks like I have a baby bump and my boobs are massive.

Since I was doing ivf I really didn’t work out at all the last 2.5 months out of an abundance of caution. I was just given the green light from my doc to resume normal activity which I’m very excited about. Today I just did yoga for the first time in that long and god I am so out of shape. Previously I was doing power yoga daily + 16 k steps.

My question is- if I resume that once again since I’m now allowed to, and cut out dessert type stuff, is there hope of me becoming toned and fit again and having one of those very “fit pregnancies” or is it necessary for my body to carry more fat?

Either way I’m just so grateful for this baby and I will do whatever I have to to be healthy. I’m just a bit bummed because it feels like overnight literally none of my clothes fit me. I’m lounging in bed in pjs cuz I can’t find a pair of pants. Moneys tight and I was not prepared to have to buy a whole new wardrobe right now….

Thanks! ❤️

Hi all I just wanted to post here to get some happy stories from other nervous people. I’m 8+4 today and I have my second ultrasound in about 30 minutes. I’m about to go to the clinic and I’m just so nervous. I know this feeling is normal but my symptoms got a lot less a few days ago and it just worries me if the little berry is doing ok in there. It took me 5 FETs to get here so the idea of going thru that again is… terrifying.

Also at the same time I’m so excited to see how much it grew since 6+5 as I know it’s a lot and I’m hoping to see a wiggle and little arms and legs. Also for the German girlies I’m so excited to get the mutterpass. I know it’s silly but I’m pretty excited about that.

I’ll update after but send me luck pls 🍀 ❤️