r/IVFpositivity

After losing my 2 year old daughter to a genetic disease, 2 1/2 years later i impulsively said i was ready.

I am ready. Im excited, nervous, scared, hopeful. Anyone here scheduled for around that time?

For those who transferred a hatching blastocyst/hatching embryo — when did you get your first clear positive (BFP)?

Curious about:
What day post-transfer you tested
Whether it was FRER, digital, or beta
If your embryo was fully hatching vs partially hatching
How dark/light the line was at first

I’d love to hear people’s timelines and outcomes - I’m dying to test but I want to have that test scream at me! 🥚✨

To lean completely in or be in the cautiously optimistic lane….

Got a BFP today on a digital at 5dp5dt, was negative yesterday and it stung. I want to live in this moment and enjoy every second. I want to SCREAM IT. Buttttt my big ol brain is going down every rabbit whole wondering asking is this a chemical, what will my betas be… when/if I should test again and be obsessed with line progression.

So many thoughts. My partner is also really emotionally guarded, to protect us both. He doesn’t want me to be shattered. This baby is so wanted.

I’ve taken a lot of tests in the past couple days. I’m afraid to take more, I’m afraid to not take more. Do I obsess over line progression now or do I try to wait it out until beta? After beta do I hold my breath until ultrasound? I want to feel uninhibited joy.

Please share your thoughts, if you can relate, advice or positive outlooks.

I knew pregnancy would be exhausting, but I don’t think I fully understood just how much the first trimester can take out of me mentally and physically. I honestly just don’t feel like myself lately.

I should be grateful to be pregnant and I know growing a human is a lot of work, but I’ve gone from feeling capable and productive to struggling to do the bare minimum most days. I feel blocked and just don’t want to cook, clean, work, food shop or even make my bed in the morning. I haven’t taken my dog to the park in a week. All I want to do is sleep through this entire trimester and wake up in the second trimester hopefully feeling like a person again.

I’m usually motivated, organized, and on top of things, and lately I just feel disconnected from that version of myself.

Did anyone else feel this way in the first trimester? How did you navigate it mentally without feeling guilty or lazy all the time?

Putting this out there to encourage others through their journey…

Almost a year ago today we got the call that our beta was positive… we were finally pregnant!!

After about a year of trying led to an ectopic pregnancy and laparoscopic surgery, then 4 heartbreaking months of trying with no luck, then 2 egg retrievals and then finally a transfer. Before we got the results I was trying to prepare my heart for disappointment and gear up for another try (I still have the note I wrote to myself to read after I got bad news). When we got the call and they said those beautiful words “you’re pregnant!” I was beyond grateful and so hopeful and still so nervous and scared…

Now he’s here! And he’s everything I could have imagined and more. My heart is full, I’m free of the heartbreak and despair of wondering if i would ever get to look into my babies eyes. Now I wake up to him every morning (and multiple times a night) and I’m so incredibly grateful. Even though I’m sleep deprived and there’s an endless amount of work to be done, my heart is so much lighter and our home is so much happier with my dream come true baby

My IVF journey was relatively short compared to others but each day was hard and I was heartbroken from our loss. I constantly read through these threads looking for hope and praying that I’d hold my own baby someday

I genuinely hope anyone still struggling through their journey gets to hear those words “you’re pregnant” and gets to bring home their own precious baby as soon as is possible for their timeline.

Sending love and baby dust to all of my fellow IVF warriors ❤️❤️❤️

Hi! I am 8 weeks and have been instructed to start tapering my PIO.

I’m on 1.5 mL daily.

I go to 1 mL daily for my 9th week.

I go to 1 mL every other day for my 10th week and stop right at conclusion of week 10.

I’m feeling nervous to taper! I’m not on any other form of progesterone. I had 3 miscarriages before starting IVF (6wk, 10wk, 13 wk).

Was anyone else’s taper similar?

Rooting for all of you ❤️

I just got financially approved for our Second FET after the first FET ended in a chemical. But I wanted to share things I’m doing this round again and new to remain stress free for those who are in the same Boat!

1- I will not be on Social media including Reddit during the two week wait and extended If pregnant.
2- pouring into my family when I feel I will spiral
3- gardening!
4- reading
5- games that require critical thinking or are a good distraction to help make the time go faster
6- making plans to get out of the house as much as possible!!
Who’s with me for their June FET??

I feel so incredibly lucky. With all the negative stories I've read, I didn't have high hopes, but I'm here to tell you it's possible for IVF to work on the first try. ER brought us 23 useable eggs, 15 fertilized, 8 made it to blast and 5 were euploids! And the first FET stuck! We had our first, 6 week scan today and saw the little heartbeat. Everything is looking great. We are starting to tell close friends and family and it's all starting to feel so real. I know we have more hurdles as we move through the pregnancy and nothing is a given yet, but we are absolutely over the moon. <3 Sending love and light on your journeys as well. <3

Hi everyone,

I'm not really sure what my post is going to be about exactly, but I feel like I want to put my thoughts down amongst like-minded people.

I am 42 and have pretty much been single my entire life. When I was in my 20s I recall telling an acquaintance that if I was still single when I'm older then I would go and have a baby by myself. Obviously I never imagined that it would actually become my reality, but here we are.

3 years ago I decided to get some basic fertility testing done, and my main reason for not going ahead with solo IVF at the time was because of my financial situation. After telling a male friend (who I was starting to be interested in romantically) that I had the testing done with the view to using donor sperm, he made a "sure I'll do it for free" comment and then after further conversation we decided to see if there could potentially be something between us. Long story short, I invested a lot of feelings in him but things didn't really progress and he eventually just ghosted me. I had started to save money in the meantime anyway and I am now in a much better financial position to pursue the idea of solo IVF.

I have an appointment next Friday for a repeat nurse consultation/bloods. 3 years ago my AMH was 8.4 pmol/l and a few weeks ago I paid to have a home AMH test done and my AMH was 9.29 pmol/l. I'm relieved to know that my AMH has stayed steady in the last 3 years but I also know that my chances are low, considering my age.

I have told some members of my family, who are supportive, but perhaps a bit cautious about encouraging me. For some reason I have found it incredibly difficult to tell my younger sister that I am closest to, and also my parents. Not really sure why this is, maybe I'm worried that they will be 'sensible' about the idea, and discourage me. For some extra context, I still live at home with my parents. My mum has incurable lung cancer and has treatment every 21 days, and my dad has been diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment which is showing up as memory loss/confusion. I obviously worry about whether me trying to bring a child into the home is a ridiculous thing to do, but I also know that I will regret it if I don't at least try to fulfil my dream.

Sorry for the incredibly long post, and thank you if you've made it this far! As I said, I'm not even sure what/if I am looking for advice, or just somewhere to try and process my thoughts amongst like-minded people!

My husband and I are coming up on one year of TTC. Over the past year, we learned we had so many more hurdles than we anticipated. In the course of diagnosing his severe oligospermia, we learned he has a balanced translocation. With both of these issues, IVF was the only option for us to have a real chance at a child.

As we learned more about balanced translocations, our chances of success seemed even more dim. However, in February, I had a successful egg retrieval that resulted in 4 blasts (D5: 3AA, 3AB; D6: 6AA, 6BA). Miraculously, all 4 were both euploid and normal (no translocation!). The sheer probability of this happening was stunning. Like a fraction of a percent.

When transfer time rolled around, I really felt like our luck had been used up, and I started having so much anxiety around using one of our embryos because I feared we may never be able to make more non-carriers. While all my results have been normal to above average for my age, it really didn't help quiet my anxiety throughout the entire transfer cycle.

Today, I got my first beta of 839 mIU/mL at 12dpt! I've never had a positive test before, and I almost hesitate to even share this news. I know there is so much yet to come and be anxious about but learning that I can get pregnant is such a relief. Yay for days like this!

I miss the version of me that used to feel excited before transfers 😞 After enough failed cycles I feel like I automatically prepare myself for disappointment now even when everything looks “perfect” on paper.

I had my ER last week and 11 fertilized. Waiting on a blast update and just received this and feeling really upset:

We are still waiting for the final number, but as of now, we had 0 finalizations on Day 5, 2 embryos finalized on day 6, and we are waiting on the other 9. We will call you tomorrow and let you know how many total made it to blast!

I’ve read day 6/7 are less viable. Should I feel really discouraged?