r/IVFpositivity

IVF can definitely take some of the “surprise” away when telling your partner you are pregnant. For instance, my husband knows I will probably be testing, and he knows my blood test is on the 9th. If he asks me if I tested, I don’t want to lie, but if he doesn’t ask in advance, I would like to surprise him in some way.

Has anyone surprised their partner with the positive result of an FET? Any suggestions?

(I have never seen a positive before, and I am literally shaking).

Did anyone else gain a ton TTC/through miscarriages/IVF? Did it eventually come off later on? Feeling so down about myself and aware that this doesn’t even take into account pregnancy weight (not that I’m even there). I’m trying to be thankful for all my body has done to get here and give myself grace but it’s so hard. I miss feeling comfortable in my own skin. My body has been through so much. It just doesn’t feel the same as being like I’m freshly postpartum.

Or like, is there so much progesterone from the pregnancy it’s negligible? I’m 9 weeks and flipping dying here. I’m so bloated and constipated and of course the regular morning sickness. It would be amazing if something were actually going to improve

Freaking out with joy and anxiety. This pregnancy flew by for the last trimester. I’m 38 weeks and the induction request is going in at 39. They won’t let me reach 40. This means in less than 14 days I get to meet my 4AA ! Feels like the stick turned positive yesterday. My transfer was November 1 of last year, feeling all the emotions ‼️

Hi all,

I'm 31, and about to embark on my first frozen transfer at the end of July. We had PGT-M for an x linked disorder (fragile x) and we've got two viable embryos. I've had a pregnancy before which was a natural conception but it resulted in a TFMR at 14 weeks because our little boy was full mutation fragile x.

Basically I'm looking for general positive stories of similar... people who have had PGT-M and had success with their first FET, because they've had natural conceptions in the past?

Thank you to everyone for all the positivity in this group upto now. It's really carried me through my treatment and enabled me to keep the faith.

Tomorrow is my very first pregnancy scan & I’m honestly so nervous.
(Currently 6W3D)

I think part of what’s making it harder is that I keep seeing so many negative stories online. I know people are more likely to post when something goes wrong because they’re looking for support, but it’s really been getting in my head & making me even more anxious.

This is an IVF pregnancy after a long infertility journey, so while I’m incredibly grateful to finally be here, I feel like my anxiety is through the roof. I keep worrying that something will be wrong, even though I haven’t had any bleeding & my betas have been reassuring & my tests have been super dark.
I know the scan is supposed to be exciting, but I’m finding myself more scared than anything. Did anyone else feel this way before their first ultrasound? How did you get through the waiting & did seeing your baby help calm your fears at all?
I’d love to hear your experiences or any words of encouragement. ❤️

I got my positive!!! Yay! I’m cautiously optimistic. I got result for two hcg blood test. The first one was 8dpt, it was 139. The second was yesterday (10 dpt) and 430. Im so grateful. I worked out yesterday and started bloating extremely hard. I looked pregnant for about a week and it looks even bigger now. Has anyone else had this experience? I know I’m too early to have a bump…
Also, when did you take a deep breath and not always worry it’s not going to work out.

As the title says - I’m exactly 40w today with my miracle IVF boy, which took me 4 ERs, 7 ETs, and 3 losses consulting across three clinics in two countries before I got to this moment. I had just turned 36 when I started IVF; husband and I are now 39.

When I graduated the clinic, my fertility doctor - who I’d been with for over 3y, supported my choice to get second opinions and overseas ERs - cried with me. She’s the same age as me and was pregnant with her second child. For this 7th transfer, she personally did all of my follow ups and ultrasounds bc she felt personally invested and really wanted to see me successfully graduate before she went out on mat leave.

It still feels a bit unreal and too good to be true that I can say “I’m due today”. Last year, my husband and I decided that we will stop trying to create more embryos in 2025, and whatever embryos we stock in 2025 would be the limit of our TTC journey - and if that meant no kids at the end, we would move on with our lives. I’ve been in therapy, and also worked extensively with a career coach that specializes in IVF and infertility. I’ve always been a high achiever, but suffered massive blows to my self confidence that made my feel really lost in the last 1-2y of my IVF journey. I highly recommend seeing an IVF specialized career coach; it made a huge difference for me.

Anxiety followed me throughout the pregnancy from all the losses I had, and I’m still worried about losing my baby for something that could have been prevented if I’d advocated for myself. I went in to emergency maternity to get checked for high fever, reduced movement etc several times during this entire pregnancy. Each time, the doctor on call and all the midwives who examined me have been so patient and understanding and explained everything super well - they’re truly angels.

I discussed the anxiety of late term baby loss during a few of my third trimester checkups with my amazing OB, who’s very empathic and a great listener. After discussing extensively with him, we’ve scheduled in an induction at 40w2d; I’m going to the hospital to start softening the cervix tomorrow (Sunday) late evening, and hopefully have a baby on Monday. Writing these words still feels unreal. I’m a bit scared about an induction delivery, but I’ve decided I just need to go with the flow and have trust in my doctor and the midwives. From everything I’ve seen and experienced during my pregnancy, I have no reason not to have confidence in them.

Husband and I are feeling all the feels today. It’s been hard to do much today despite the fact that it’s the weekend and our last full day as a family of three - we have the sweetest dog, who we got after my third IVF loss. I fell asleep on the couch this afternoon watching a mindless series on Netflix, and the two have gone out for a walk while I was asleep. I think I’ll suggest we go out for dinner at a casual local neighborhood spot tonight.

I don’t exactly know why I’m posting this. Part of it is for myself, as an outlet for reflection and all the feelings the day before I go have my miracle baby. Part of this is for all you women out there who are still in the thick of IVF - I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. It’s so hard. It just sucks. I see you. Most women will probably have their eventual miracle baby, but some won’t. But whatever the future holds for you, I truly hope everyone will find their peace and happiness in life.

I’m 32. Started IVF when I was 30. We have done three rounds. Told we had male factor infertility and they couldn’t find anything wrong with me. We have had every possible test except to test for endo, but I have had laparoscopic surgeries for ovarian cysts and the surgeon unofficially looked for endo and didn’t see any obvious lesions. We used ICSI and did sperm DNA fragmentation which was normal so the male factor had been accounted for. Our first round we got four pretty good grade untested embryos. All ended in miscarriage or biochemical. The longest I have been pregnant is 6 weeks. The second round we did pgta and got no euploid embryos. Third round we got four euploid embryos. We just transferred our first 4AA and it was a failed transfer. I’m starting to feel hopeless and like my body is failing. I feel like there has to be something wrong with me and I am losing hope. I meeting with my RE in one week. Anyone have any questions I should ask? Also would love to hear similar stories that have ended in success.

Prefacing that I did a trigger shot 10 days ago but have gotten pregnant 3x naturally (all MC) before moving to Ivf so assuming I’m fertile lol. Anyways, just wondering if this is completely unheard of for a true positive or most likely trigger still? I got a vvfl this afternoon!

Hello IVF friends,

I have just started my third FET round, this time with the NHS and they have put me on a different protocol.

(first two FETs unfortunately ended in chemicals)

Previous protocol was antagonist fully medicated, this time is with the NHS and is long protocol with two weeks of buserelin down regulation before starting estrogen (progynova).

Wondering if anyone else has done this protocol as I can't find much info, and has had success?

(Suspected mild silent Endo, tiny amounts of adeno, lean PCOS)