u/terwilliger-blvd1

The first trimester is so scary!! I just found out last weekend that I’m pregnant and am currently almost 5 weeks along.

I feel like I am googling everything in the house before I eat it or touch it. Every little twinge or cramp in my stomach worries me. I have still been in the gym every day but I feel like I have to move so slowly and carefully. I’m scared to sit up too fast or hit potholes in the car.

And I can’t even feel or see anything there yet! I just know the stats on first trimester miscarriage and am terrified that something small and meaningless will kill my baby.

Does this anxiety get better or worse once you hit 12 weeks? I can’t believe it’s only been a few days and I have no idea how I’m going to make it another 7 weeks like this. My first doctor visit is still a month away.

I just got a positive test this morning after only one cycle of trying.

I feel both a wave of anxiety and also like it’s not even real. I wasn’t 100% sure I was ready but we figured it could take a while to happen, and now I feel totally unprepared. And yet it’s like it’s not actually happening to me, like I’m looking at someone else’s test.

I’m going to take another test tomorrow to be sure, but in the meantime I feel extremely strange and also like a teenager again. I am wondering if we made a mistake trying because now I feel totally overwhelmed.

I don’t know if I’m looking for advice, solidarity, or comfort. I know I should be excited but I feel like I’m going to throw up.

If you took the test alone - how did you surprise your husband or partner with the news that you were pregnant?

I want to do something fun and memorable for my husband once we get a positive test, but we’ve been actively trying and he knows my period schedule very well, so I feel like he will be difficult to surprise, since we’re expecting it.

Looking for ideas and reassurance that a surprise can be pulled off even when your partner is heavily involved in TTC!

My husband and I are being to discuss having a baby. Looking for any helpful (modern) recs for what to be ready for, how to prepare, what to expect.

(Not the Da Vinci Code please) Something fun and fast paced, treasure hunt, uncovering secret history, race against time, maps and clues, lost civilizations, etc.