I’ve learned that apparently people care to know if you’re planning to circumcise and why/why not and whether your child’s father is circumcised. Like grandma can we please not have this conversation
currently 18 weeks and Ive felt flutters once and thats it. when did you start feeling little one kick? im so excited and cant wait for this milestone!
My doctor told me today that, at 21 weeks, I should have only gained 5 pounds. I started this pregnancy with a BMI of 21. This can’t be right
I'm 8w+1 and I've been struggling with bad nausea since week 5. I haven't actually been throwing up, but the nausea has been debilitating. I know weeks 8 to 11 are supposed to be the worst, and I've been dreading it getting more severe.
This week I started to feel desperate and requested Xonvea from an online pharmacy (I'm in the UK and you can't buy Unisom here, only get a prescription for the combined pill with B6) I was prepared to pay the £70 for 20 tablets and I told my husband when he got home. The next day I ended up speaking to my GP and got it for free, and I was so happy to get the prescription and finally have hope. When my husband got home I told him and he started doing research about it.
I understand why he is concerned about the safety of unisom. It is a first generation antihistamine, which are known to significantly increase the risk of dementia in older adults with prolonged use because of the way it interacts with the brain. The idea of giving something like that to a developing baby does sound scary. We both have a background in research - not medical, but we can read and understand the papers that research the safety of these drugs. Even though there are some reassuring papers about their overall safety (don't cause birth defects), there is less conclusive data about less obvious, more long-term effects on cognitive function. There are some good studies, but not enough to reassure my husband.
At the end of the night, he was begging me not to take it and I was crying and insisting I can't carry on with this nausea without help from medicine. I took the first dose and we went to bed, but I promised we'd carry on looking into the research again today.
We haven't told any family or friends we're expecting, but I had to tell some colleagues. I don't have any support or anyone to talk to about this, so I'm just venting here. I do have two friends who had hyperemesis who took Xonvea, but I don't want them to feel judged by my husband or worried they did something to harm their babies if I explain his perspective. Plus my nausea is nothing compared to HG.
Has anyone else experienced something similar? I just need some support 😢
edit: Corrected myself about the dementia risk
Soooo my mom hates the name I have picked for my baby girl... please tell me if it’s ugly or not 😭
✨Marlee Moon✨
If it’s really that ugly, what are some similar whimsy middle names I can choose? I’ve been so stuck on that name, and now I’m really hormonal and sad 🥲
Well, it finally happened to us!! The in-laws have finally expressed that my husband and I have turned a moment that "should be happy and exciting" into "something sad, painful, and hurtful"...
For context, my husband and I haven't told the in-laws and their family about the gender of our baby (their first grandchild) and the MIL has been pestering us to know, but we kept saying that we wanted everyone (siblings/grandparents/aunties/etc.) around to say it since she and the GIL took it upon themselves to tell everyone about us being pregnant so we couldn't even tell people in person. (We just got congratulatory texts from some people after they found out, not even from all of them, which is sad in its own, but whatever) And since they made it clear that gender reveal parties were a joke, we decided that we were not going to do one and just stick to telling everyone in person. Fast forward to yesterday, they invite us to the BIL's birthday dinner at a restaurant and they begin the questioning so we can tell them right then and there what the baby is (we don't want to during someone else's birthday) and my husband started making jokes about it and telling them that they had to guess first, but the MIL snapped and asked "why where we teasing her and that now she didn't want to know at all" and my husband replied with "because it is our choice" and that's it, that's what did it for her and she shunned us the rest of the night. Then, we get a lil' text when we get home from the FIL of how we have turned a moment that should be happy and exciting into something sad, painful, and hurtful and that instead of throwing the "its our decision" in her face, that we could've been like "we decided...because..." (basically correcting the way we should be saying things to her? Not that it would help anyways since she doesn't respect any choice that we have tried to/or made before). My husband is pretty upset that his family ruined this simple moment for him and themselves, and his parents and sister are fully playing the victim card and telling him that we are in the wrong, etc. Now he doesn't want to tell them at all and probably won't even have a baby shower since we don't have anyone else to share it with...
So yeah, rant to vent that now the news of the gender of our child has split the family because we won't comply on telling them how they want and when they want so the MIL can know first and spread it/share it through text to the rest of her family. This is great.
39 weeks and 2 days; woke up this morning to pee and after had little bubbles of clear fluid come out. Nothing crazy but enough to feel and leave my underwear a spot of wetness. It was very liquidy and has a sweet smell to it, which my discharge is normally thicker and white. Anyone experience this and ended up being a slow water break? This is my second pregnancy, with my first I had a huge gush so can’t tell?? My dr appt is in an hour!
I have a ton of credits at restore. Has anyone used IV drips from there or any of the other iv drip companies? I’m feeling dehydrated and curious whether your doctors signed off on this and if so what type of supplements/vitamins you got in the drip.
Ftm here and 20 weeks exactly today. My belly popped at 18 weeks, but now it has significantly gotten bigger and I definitely appear pregnant.
Been noticing the past week my belly has been having some strange discomfort. Lots of stretching feelings inside that are uncomfortable (I assume that is round ligament pain or my abdominal muscles stretching). Also just a general sensation of being "full" all the time. Not like "wow I'm too full to eat", but more like "wow my body feels like it is holding a bunch of stuff in one centralized area and its heavy". It's a bit painful.
I've also been having issues with trapped gas and constipation the whole pregnancy, and moreso now that I am taking iron supplements. This only adds on to that feeling of fullness.
Did anyone else experience their expanding baby bump just...hurting? Not really in a horrible way. Mostly discomfort and having issues where you can't move as quickly without triggering round ligament/abdominal muscle pain. Is there a point where I should probably see my OB about this? Or is it normal?
So we all know that the majority of women will poop during pushing and that the midwives will reassure us that we actually didn’t poop and they deal with it so quickly that nobody would know and we can all live in the delulu that we didn’t poop…
But I’m planning on having a water birth - what happens in the poop situation then? Has anyone experienced this? I feel like the consistency of the poop is gonna affect this situation as well - what if it isn’t…you know…solid 🤢
My husband might be in the birthing pool with me, or at least he will be right next to me…
How is this dealt with someone please reassure me 😂
I see so many people talking about being upset over accidental gender reveals, but it’s just very odd to me.
Granted if you are genuinely okay with any gender and want to enjoy one of life’s few surprises, sure go for it, but I see so many people talking about gender disappointment at birth or with an accidental reveal.
Why would you not want to know as soon as possible so you have time to adjust and mentally prepare yourself? It feels a little like setting yourself up to fail, even if the gender disappointment takes you by surprise.
That’s just my opinion though, I did a Sneak Peak test and got the NIPT results as soon as humanly possible and shared it immediately because I want to know everything about my baby, and I don’t want anyone getting weird about it without fair warning to fix themselves. I know my parents were disappointed it wasn’t a boy, so I’m glad I got to have that conversation with them well ahead of time.
But genuinely, why does a gender surprise matter to you, if it does at all?
I’m currently 25 weeks and I was under the impression that I’m supposed to take my prenatal vitamins for the entirety of my pregnancy. I had a midwife appointment yesterday, my midwife is on holiday so I was with a substitute, and she said that I don’t need to be taking the prenatal’s anymore because I’m past 14 weeks. But my normal midwife never said anything about that when I last saw her at 16 weeks (prenatal’s were mentioned then).
A quick google says to carry on taking them, but I am just wanting some advice from real mamas lol
I have had plenty of amniotic fluid this entire pregnancy (it’s my first btw) until yesterday. Baby was moving fine, felt normal & all was good. I had a regular appt & they said according to my ultrasound that my amniotic fluid was low. They said I had to be induced that day, couldn’t wait. Told me I had time to go home, grab my bags & eat dinner but to show up at the hospital & be admitted.
So that’s what I did. Currently at the hospital. They’ve given me medicine to thin out my cervix, I was last checked almost 4 hrs ago & wasn’t quite dilated to a 1.
They’ve got me on fluids through IV.
Anyone else experience this?
I am very worried. Did I do something wrong? Is my baby gonna be okay? 😢
Im 21 weeks pregnant and for the first trimester I was really really sick with this pregnancy; I had HG (hyperemissis) and I also had 3 miscarriages prior to this pregnancy.
What got me through it was thinking I’m having a baby girl; I’ve always seen myself as a girl mom for some reason.
Anyways we found out we’re having a boy via blood test at 13 weeks and honestly I was in so much denial that I booked a private gender scan at 18 weeks to make sure it a boy. And it is and I’m devastated it’s a boy. I’m also devastated because I can’t choose the name of my first born son because my husbands name is passed on within the family. I got him to change his mind and use his name as our sons second name but not his dad is in critical condition in the hospital with very little chance of getting out and I’m honestly devastated all over again because the passed on name is back to being the first name. I hate the name btw. Never liked it even though I love my husband very much I don’t want to name our son after him, his dad and his grandfather.
Am I overreacting? Am I being an asshole?
Hi everyone, as the title mentioned I am 6 weeks pregnant and in the trenches of morning sickness.
My boyfriend has a very large Australian cattle dog that is extremely reactive but also has a bite record. He’s had it for 3.5 years and in the last few months alone it has bitten him once, bitten his brother twice, bitten another dog and tried to attack me twice (but always slightly missed thankfully) and when I say bite I mean drawing blood and immediate bruising etc. The attacks seem to come out of nowhere with no growling or anything beforehand.
He always said when we have children he’d rehome the dog if it seemed like it was going to be a dangerous situation.
Now I am 6 weeks pregnant, a very much planned and wanted baby. Yesterday I tried to step over the baby gate that we use to keep the dog in the kitchen during the day and he jumped up and grabbed my wrist and shook it very hard. He would have broken the skin but he sort of missed and only grabbed my sleeve. He then paced back and fourth in front of the baby gate snapping and lunging at me every now and then to keep me away from it. In the end I managed to convince it to go outside and then I locked it in the garden and called my boyfriend to come home from work and take him somewhere else.
After he finished work we discussed this and I said I am no longer willing to live with a dog I am scared of, I am not being pregnant with this dog around and I am certainly not having a small child around it. He says he can’t bring himself to get rid of the dog and he thinks an abortion is the next best step.
What would you do? I’m absolutely devastated. I want this baby very much but it would be extremely irresponsible to have it around this dog and if we split up the baby would still be around the dog when he had custody etc. It’s just not safe. I need some advice please.
UPDATE - thank you for your advice everyone, I think he was downplaying the danger in his head because he really does love the dog and wanted to do right by it and not give up on him. I think he’d convinced himself that he’d be able to keep the dog and baby separate but after reading it all in black and white he has had a very difficult realisation and contacted the breeder today to take him back ❤️
I’m a soon-to-be dad🧑, and I found this written in my wife’s notebook.
I asked her if she’d be okay with me sharing it here, and she said yes.
“Your kicks are a secret only the two of us know.
It was 4:20 in the morning. The sky was still dark. Half asleep, I suddenly felt you move — soft and light, like a tiny fish blowing bubbles underwater.
I woke up instantly and quietly placed my hand on my belly.
As if you knew, you kicked again. Gentle, but strong.
I couldn’t help but smile in the dark. Your dad was sleeping peacefully beside me, breathing slowly and deeply. The whole world was asleep, and yet somehow, only the two of us were awake together.
You stretched and turned inside me while I whispered to you from the outside. We haven’t even met yet, but we’ve already spent countless days and nights together.
You’ve heard my heartbeat. I’ve felt your little rolls and kicks. You are the tiny person hidden inside my body, and also the warmest secret I carry through this world.
My baby, take your time. I’ll be waiting for you.”
Obviously, I’ll never be able to truly experience what baby kicks feel like myself. But reading her words made me genuinely feel the happiness and love she carries inside her heart.
Would love to hear some of your own little moments of happiness too. 🥰
i’m 21 pregnant with my first biological baby (i have 2 bonus sons) and my parents and sister aren’t very supportive of the baby name me and my fiancé have chosen. i’m 17 weeks pregnant with a baby boy and we absolutely love the name Apollo Lee T.( i don’t feel comfortable sharing our last name) but everyone says “i don’t like it but it’s not my baby”. i know everyone says don’t care what people think and i was planning on keeping it a secret for way longer but it slipped one day and now i cant help but thinking everyone is gonna hate his name when he’s here. is Apollo Lee T. a good strong name or should we start to think of others ?
I will be getting induced next Thursday, starting cytotec Wednesday evening and doing that overnight at the hospital. Im a FTM so im super nervous and this is all new to me. I have been walking as much as I can physically stand, and just started drinking raspberry leaf tea. I wasn’t dilated at all at my last appointment at 37 weeks and 2 days, but my cervix was low and softened. I’d ideally like to go into labor naturally, or at least make a little more progress as far as dilation and maybe making labor a little easier!
I found out today at work that I am only permitted 6 weeks of unpaid maternity leave starting the day I give birth. I was surprised at the time frame, I thought I’d get at least 8 weeks.
I am not really comfortable putting my six week old in daycare. I’d like my kid to have his vaccines before looking for childcare… but I honestly want to stay home if they are only giving me 6 weeks.
6 weeks after his birth date I will be on the schedule and if I am not there when I am back on the schedule I will lose my job. This got me thinking, what is the average timeframe most parents get for leave?
EDIT: I do not qualify for FMLA and I do not have PTO due to not being with the company long enough (less than 12 months) and I am due next month. I am on Medicaid because my company does not provide insurance. I am in VA and state mandated protections don’t start until 2028.
I was the woman who posted about 10 weeks ago about having a full rupture on Friday the 13th and needed positive stories.
Well today I went into labor at 30 weeks and 5 days.
Baby girl came out pretty good! She was breathing on her own but they still have her in respiratory therapy due to her having little to fluid. She’s already been weened down from her nitrate levels twice (which is good) and her o2 levels once.
She’s doing great and we’ve made it out the worst part.
I just wanna say thank you to all who supported, prayed for and rooted for us!! We so blessed and appreciative.
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