r/pregnant

I am 5 weeks 2 days and I feel GREAT. As all pregnant women experience, I’m being riddled with the “just wait” and “oh it’s gunna hit you so hard”

So - am I naive? Or did some of you have an okay first trimester? Were you able to just coast for a bit? I’m definitely feeling tired more often and also needing to nap but no nausea or anything.

Would LOVE some open ended honesty!!! I’m so tired of the gloom and doom!!!!!

**EDIT: I have a wedding when I’ll be 8 weeks and I’m the MOH. Am I going to be fighting for my life? Lol

ftm 9 weeks today :)) this is more of a fun post lol, at first i had a feeling im having a boy but now i honestly dont know and frankly i dont mind either way as long as theyre healthy. my family thinks its a boy too and my friends think its a girl but i recently had a dream i had a baby girl. the dreams have been insane lately and i wan curious to see how many people who dreamt of their baby before finding out the gender if their dreams were accurate? wishing everyone a safe and uneventful pregnancy ❤️

Hi ladies! Are we still worried about eating cilantro? I’m still avoiding lettuce but it seems like everything I’m craving (chipotle rice, salsa, guac) has raw cilantro in it. I’ve been craving restaurant guacamole soooo much 😭 I’m in Michigan btw. (7 weeks)

I’m 12 weeks 2 days. I had a great ultrasound at 9 weeks 3 days but haven’t heard or seen baby since. My symptoms are gone and I genuinely forget I’m pregnant all the time. My clothes still fit the same. I feel the same. It’s just a weird time.

Ty!

What teas are safe? I’m a big night time tea drinker and need something but chat is basically saying every single one I ask about is unsafe 😐🫪

Pregnant with my 3rd and I think we are going to wait to find out the gender till birth but I’m basing which gender off of how long I’m nauseous for?? 😅

My first was a boy and I was sick till 14 weeks. 2nd was a girl and I was sick till 17 weeks 😵

My nausea is finally letting up at 13.5 weeks so I’m like, is it a boy?? I’ve also heard girls you’re usually sick longer? Which I was.

Anyone with multiples have the same nausea lengths but have different genders?? ☺️ Waiting to find out is hard but it’s gonna be fun to wait and see 🥰

I know there’s no universal “right” age and that it depends a lot on the person and their circumstances. I’m 25 and thinking about getting pregnant in a couple of years, so I’d love to hear about your experiences.

At what age did you get pregnant, and how did you feel about the timing? Would you recommend waiting longer or starting earlier?

Hi all! I had a fairly rough appt today. Saw a new-to-me PA instead of my normal OB, they couldn’t find the heartbeat for about 15 mins (my stomach is bruised from the probe 🙃) and my BP was alarmingly high for me. Pretty much what the title says - went in for my 16 week appt today and my first BP was 140/90, retake was 138/90. Normally, I run 90s- very low 100s/60s, so for me, this is high. I’m a trauma ICU nurse, and the girl taking it was new and I could tell she wasn’t comfortable or fully trained in taking a manual BP, but I didn’t want to pull the “medical card,” and ask her to re-do it or have someone else do it, so I just figured I’d have my husband, also ICU nurse, recheck at home. When I had my second check, the PA said “well, our cutoff is 140, so since you’re 138 you can leave.” Recheck at home a few hours later yielded about the same, but with a systolic of closer to 160. I have a good amount of health anxiety, and this is a rainbow baby, so I guess I’m just kind of spiraling 🙃 from what research I’ve done, it’s very uncommon for pre-e to come about before the 20-24 week mark, but it’s just making me nervous. The PA we saw gave me no guidance on what to look for or if we should be checking at home, so I’m just kind of using my nursing skills when I just want to be a patient and be told what to do 😅 I’m on a baby aspirin prescribed by my normal OB.

TLDR: has anyone had high blood pressure readings early on (abnormal for them) that eventually led to preeclampsia or something else? If you’ve read this far, thank you 🩷

Hi there,

I'm several months pregnant with my first child (singleton pregnancy, AMA), and I've thought carefully about where to deliver, comparing NICU levels, trauma designation, and care philosophy. Two things are important to me: (1) a midwifery-led, low-intervention birth, if medically appropriate, and (2) a care team with the necessary resources available should the unexpected happen.

I chose Hospital A: it's 35 minutes from home, a large teaching hospital with a Level III NICU, Level I trauma designation, and an integrated hospital-based midwifery program with OB/MFM backup if risk increases or an emergency arises. It's also adjacent to a children's hospital with a Level IV NICU and pediatric trauma center. The facilities are older, but I've felt well cared for and comfortable with the team so far.

My partner keeps pushing for Hospital B: 20 minutes away, smaller, more boutique-feeling, in a nicer neighborhood, and with much nicer postpartum rooms. It's highly regarded and affiliated with a prestigious university system, but it has a traditional OB-led model, no midwifery program, and a Level II NICU. Hospital B has an emergency department, but I couldn't confirm whether it also has a trauma designation, and, if so, what level it might be. I understand the appeal of comfort and convenience, and Hospital B is a good hospital with a strong reputation that I'd consider for other medical needs. But for delivery, I want a midwifery/low-intervention model and the strongest emergency backup available among the reasonable choices for me. I haven't looked into Hospital B's evacuation protocols, which I'm sure exist.

My partner doesn't engage with my actual reasoning. His objections keep shifting: colleagues chose Hospital B, Hospital B has “better doctors,” my risk planning is exaggerated, … He has also nearly mocked with a friend my “lack of doctors” by choosing midwives care, painting me as almost reckless and himself as the “reasonable one” having to deal with my choice, even though the midwifery practice is embedded in the hospital, follows protocols, and escalates to physicians when indicated.

Bottom line: he reflexively distrusts midwives, Hospital A, and my care decisions, despite there being no concrete problem with the care I've received. He's confused midwives with doulas, seems reassured by prestigious credentials more than by the care model, and keeps reopening a decision I made thoughtfully. He has no personal experience with Hospital B and hasn't taken any concrete steps toward it himself. He's only questioning my choice and pushing for a transfer of care. I even arranged a second opinion at Hospital B on something I didn't think I needed, just to get some peace of mind. The same protocol he criticized at Hospital A was also used at Hospital B, yet drew zero criticism there. I'm noticing a strong negative reaction building toward anything related to Hospital B, which isn't where I want to be.

I'm drained, and the situation is now affecting my sleep, well-being, and productivity at work. I don't have the bandwidth to keep re-litigating this. How have others handled a partner who won't let a decision — especially one about your own body and care — stay decided? And has anyone dealt with a partner who reflexively distrusts their care team regardless of the facts? How did you handle that pattern?

 Thank you

I want to start by saying that i’m not upset with her or the situation because i could have misheard her but i really really wanted the gender to be a surprise at birth.

I had my anatomy scan today and told her at the start that we opted out of knowing the gender for NIPT so i’d like to make sure she didn’t tell us when doing the scan. She was more than happy to do that and we even talked about the overall experience and why i wanted to wait.

I brought my mom and daughter with me and while we were mid conversation talking about my daughter the ultrasound tech said “there’s her femur” and my mom and i immediately looked at each other but didn’t say anything. That was the only time she said it and said “baby” the rest of the time.

I have no issue with having another girl but i really wanted the gender to be a surprise at birth and now i feel like i know it and its not that exciting moment i had hoped for. It feels silly to complain because baby is perfectly healthy and beautiful but maybe i misheard her!

Pregnant, next question.

I will never, ever, ever forget the way my fiancé looked at me yesterday when we got the maternity photos done. I have never in my life felt so completely cherished and beautiful.

Just needed to write that down.

I’m sad.
I’ve posted here before. My husband didn’t want this pregnancy, and doesn’t want to leave me. So now I’m pregnant, and he’s miserable.

Today he asked me, if I was feeling sorry for him, because he is going to be a dad.
I told him, that i know it’s my decision, that he didn’t agree with.
He said i have too much ego if I don’t feel sorry for him. That I’m going to be a bad mom, because of the ego….

I’m so sad and angry.

I’m currently 10+3 with our second baby. Our first baby is 5 years old so I forget a lot about early pregnancy lol plus I was pregnant during Covid protocols so it was a bit different. But why are ultrasounds so different depending on the OB office you go to? I see online some people get multiple ultrasounds during the first trimester. I had my first appointment last week at 9+4 and had an ultrasound then, and thankfully everything looks good! But they won’t do another ultrasound until 20 weeks for the anatomy scan at my office. I’m just wondering why it’s so different depending on where you are from? I realize some are higher risk and probably need more scans, but I didn’t know if there were any other reasons. My anxiety is making me think my symptoms settling down is a bad thing and I just can’t believe we won’t see the baby again for 10 weeks 😅

Hi all!!
I am 10w 2days and having light spotting and cramping. Went into the doctor’s for an ultrasound and they found a small subchorionic hemorrhage. They didn’t seem to be too worried and were pretty vague with me, saying “it doesn’t look like a miscarriage at this time.” Anybody else experience one of these??

This might sound like a silly question lol but bear with me. I know redheads can react differently to anesthesia… I’ve had 3 surgeries before the age of 3 and wisdom teeth removal when I was 17 where they put me completely out. I’ve never had an issue with the effectiveness of the anesthetic… but it got me wondering about the epidural or even a spinal block for a c-section. I’m really hoping to having my pain managed while in labor, but I’ll be 14 weeks tomorrow… so I’ve got time. Any natural redhead give birth and run into any issues with pain management? or any redheads have success stories as well?

FTM, I’m 32 weeks pregnant and starting to finalize my “birth plan”. I know you can plan and still have the complete opposite birth. For months i’ve been debating whether I want to go completely unmedicated, or just non epidural. I have decided that I am going in with the mindset of not getting one. I want to hear other mom’s experiences with not receiving one.

I truly don’t want a epidural, i don’t know more than 2 moms who have had a good experience with one.
Between the constant back pain, numbness, migraines, recovery, tearing, potential stopping of dilation and contractions. It just doesn’t sound like something I want to deal with/ regret later down the road.

I heard it’s a mindset thing, you’ll get to a certain point of feeling like you can’t do labor anymore and many moms cave. What was your experience with not receiving an epidural?

*I plan on getting a IV, laughing gas, and fentanyl patch still. Just NO epidural.

So I’m very new to the prego world. I am 7 weeks pregnant and wasn’t really having huge cravings until a few days ago but so far it was just small things like my very first was orange juice I couldn’t get enough of it.

My second was grapes after a long hot day but the funny thing is my husband doesn’t understand that cravings change so the next day he bought me more grapes 😅. I was still thankful at the time though and still like them and ate them. But I didn’t have a huge craving for them the next day.

And now today after an hour of waking up I wanted easy mac n cheese (it’s a nostalgia thing) with sweet peas I usually make this meal when I’m broke or just don’t feel like cooking like a girl dinner kind of thing.

And now for actual dinner get this, I’m craving captain crunch cereal 😭😂😂 how is this even possible I got my meals mixed up but I really want captain crunch and I’m about to go back out to the same store and buy me some cereal and almond milk.

Please tell me I’m not the only one going through this right now and gone through great lengths to get what you’re wanting if my husband was otw home I would have him get it but he’s out of town right now.

Someone please tell me I won’t actually have to wait until 9/4 for my results from Natera 😭 the lab received my sample 8/14 so it’s been 5 days and I know they say a week/week and a half for results but please share with me your timeline (bonus points for those who got theirs early lmao)