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Pregnant with my 3rd and I think we are going to wait to find out the gender till birth but I’m basing which gender off of how long I’m nauseous for?? 😅

My first was a boy and I was sick till 14 weeks. 2nd was a girl and I was sick till 17 weeks 😵

My nausea is finally letting up at 13.5 weeks so I’m like, is it a boy?? I’ve also heard girls you’re usually sick longer? Which I was.

Anyone with multiples have the same nausea lengths but have different genders?? ☺️ Waiting to find out is hard but it’s gonna be fun to wait and see 🥰

My daughter has slept through the night and fell asleep independently until she was 2. Then the 2yo sleep regression hit hard and so did seperation anxiety. It took like 2 months to get her sleeping normal again but it only lasted a week or two and then back to crying everytime I put her to bed and I usually would end up rocking her to sleep out of mom guilt. So she’s 2.5 now and it’s just been this rollercoaster of, she does good, then weeks of not independently sleeping. I realize I prob created the crutch by rocking her to sleep when she cries but my husband has been home evenings and can put my son to bed while I spend forever getting her to bed. I kind of just gave into like, she just needs to right now and that’s okay.

Well now my husband works night shift and i have to put both kids to bed separately. In the past I would literally come in my daughter’s room, rock her for two songs, put her down awake and she would fall asleep alone while I could get my son down. Now it’s taking an hour of putting my daughter down, while my son sits and watches tv and he keeps coming in her room asking when I’ll be done every 10 min and starts the process over again. Then it’s way past my son’s bedtime and I have to do him next for the next 30 +min.

I just want her falling asleep by herself again 😭 I feel awful that I can’t be her crutch but I can’t do bedtime like this anymore… I don’t want to ruin her by ripping myself away and not rocking her to sleep. I’m currently typing this while I’m sitting in the rocking chair next to her bed while I’m listening to her sniffling herself to sleep cause she exhausted her crying 🥺 ugh.

ANY ADVISE from someone who’s gone through this?

My daughter has slept through the night and fell asleep independently until she was 2. Then the 2yo sleep regression hit hard and so did seperation anxiety. It took like 2 months to get her sleeping normal again but it only lasted a week or two and then back to crying everytime I put her to bed and I usually would end up rocking her to sleep out of mom guilt. So she’s 2.5 now and it’s just been this rollercoaster of, she does good, then weeks of not independently sleeping. I realize I prob created the crutch by rocking her to sleep when she cries but my husband has been home evenings and can put my son to bed while I spend forever getting her to bed. I kind of just gave into like, she just needs to right now and that’s okay.

Well now my husband works night shift and i have to put both kids to bed separately. In the past I would literally come in my daughter’s room, rock her for two songs, put her down awake and she would fall asleep alone while I could get my son down. Now it’s taking an hour of putting my daughter down, while my son sits and watches tv and he keeps coming in her room asking when I’ll be done every 10 min and starts the process over again. Then it’s way past my son’s bedtime and I have to do him next for the next 30 +min.

I just want her falling asleep by herself again 😭 I feel awful that I can’t be her crutch but I can’t do bedtime like this anymore… I don’t want to ruin her by ripping myself away and not rocking her to sleep. I’m currently typing this while I’m sitting in the rocking chair next to her bed while I’m listening to her sniffling herself to sleep cause she exhausted her crying 🥺 ugh.

ANY ADVISE from someone who’s gone through this?

I’m hoping I can hear some relatable stories to make me feel better about being so sick during first trimester 😭 So nauseous all day long, no energy, and also just don’t give a fuck about anythingggg. I have a 4 and 2 yo and all we do is screens all day and I feel SO guilty about it 😣 tv, tablet, Minecraft 😅 my 4 yo just asks all day to bounce around between them and I’m like yesss I don’t care just leave me to die. But I feel so bad that I’m no fun.. we don’t do anything, I can’t clean, barely shower, and I just feed the kids snacks all day and whatever frozen thing I can heat up. Pretty sure I still have like a month and a half left of this and I just can’t wrap my head around that we will be doing this for that long and watching my kids brains turn to mush but also can’t do anything about it? Any tips to handle the kids? I’m on nausea meds but life still sucks. We are a screens family but like a few hours a day and then we are doing things/active. Now it’s like a couple hours of play and the rest of the day screens 😅 ugh.

I HATE WHEN IM IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING A WHOLE REDDIT POST AND I SET MY PHONE DOWN CAUSE MY KID OR SOMETHING DISTRACTS ME FOR TWO SECONDS AND I OPEN UP THE APP TO FINISH IT AND THE APP HAS RELOADED AND MY WHOLE POST IS GONE 😤😤😤😡😡🤬🤬🤬

I HATE WHEN IM IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING A WHOLE REDDIT POST AND I SET MY PHONE DOWN CAUSE MY KID OR SOMETHING DISTRACTS ME FOR TWO SECONDS AND I OPEN UP THE APP TO FINISH IT AND THE APP HAS RELOADED AND MY WHOLE POST IS GONE 😤😤😤😡😡🤬🤬🤬

I’m at my wits end with this kid. He’s almost 4.5. He’s just ruthless. He doesn’t listen, we will be sitting there saying “don’t throw that ball inside” as he walks with a smile and throws the ball inside. And it’s like that all day long. Today we were outside painting and playing with water while I was cleaning our kiddy pool out and I set up our Bluetooth speaker and he kept going over to the speaker and turning it down. And I would be like leave the speaker alone this is where I want the volume(it wasn’t even too loud) and he goes over when I’m not looking and turns it down. So I walk over and take the speaker and put it on the car so he can’t reach it and he hits me. The hitting is getting out of hand. Every no, everytime I take something away, every time he doesn’t get his way, he hits me or his dad. We have tried everythingggg, gentle approach, grabbing his hand and saying “I won’t let you hit me” and re directing him, we’ve gotten a little tougher with him(out of burnt out and desperation), and finally my husband has started spanking him. I don’t agree with spanking and it hurts when I have to see and listen to it. He doesn’t hit hard, it’s more of a fear thing and my husband doesn’t like it either. Ive tried telling my husband that spanking him isn’t a good way to teach him to stop hitting But we are desperate like nothing is clicking with this kid. He says no to everything, he won’t clean, he won’t help, he does it with a smile cause he knows it doesn’t make us happy. He picks on his sister which I know is normal but we will sit there and be like don’t do that, don’t hit, or don’t take her toy or whatever and he just does it and continues to do it like we don’t exist until we have to physically move him away. He doesn’t care the consequence. We have tried the 4 min time outs, and taking things away. Idk! Haha I’ve talked to ChatGPT and it’s just a lot of like… gentle parenting, be strict with consequences, it teaches me where my 4 yo is coming from with him having strong will and reminds me that he is in fact, 4 years old. But god the disrespect, I can keep my patience for so long and by the 5th slap or punch from him in a day I just want to lose my shit on him and hit him back. Wake him up! (Obviously it never goes that far) but sometimes I finally will grab his arms a little tight and get down on his level and be like STOP HITTING ME, LISTEN TO ME with a red face and angry voice 😪 I love my kids. I’m constantly googling and teaching myself and trying to learn how to handle him. I want to be a good, level headed mom that my kids respect and we have fun. I have a 2.5 yo daughter and it’s just night and day between them 😅 she’s such an angel so I’m like okay, I don’t think it’s me??? He’s just a special kid..? but pls someone help me with ideas who also have dealt with this?? Does it get better?? I understand he’s four but it seems the way it’s going he’s going to disrespect us forever if we don’t fix something now?

I’m battling with… how one goes about being the one to take someone’s life.. I just found out I’m pregnant with my 3rd and I’m mentally falling apart. I just don’t know if I’m ready to do this again. I have a 2 and 4 yo and life is just slowing down again and I’m getting a little bit of me back. I was finally getting back into things I enjoyed.. I had a really hard time going from 1 to 2 and I’m kind of traumatized from it so I’m just sitting here panicking that’s going to happen again.
My husband isn’t on board with the abortion so it would be my little secret and telling the handful of ppl I’ve told already, that I had a miscarriage. Idk if I’d be sad or what but right now I feel like it’s what I want. But I can’t get over the fact that I’m the one taking its life away… this thing is growing I inside of me that will laugh and play like my two kids now, but won’t if I take away its life and it’s not the fetus’ fault this happened 😭 ugh. I’m battling with just giving in the next few years of my life being miserable again and getting over it. I know I’ll love it when it’s in my arms and all. Just mentally exhausted already 😪😞 I want to enjoy the two I have and be a good version of myself for them… would love anyone feedback.. pros and cons..

I know this post is going to sound selfish and ungrateful but I have to get everything out of me and vent it to someone😭

I hate that I’m even saying any of this out loud. I hate that I feel this way at all but I just found out I’m pregnant with my 3rd baby and I don’t want to be 😭😭😭

I really struggled going from 1 to 2 kids. I had my daughter when my son turned 2 and life just got so hard. He was/is such a hard, defiant, loud, climbing, destroying toddler. I constantly had to keep his baby sister alive from him and I started living in fight or flight mode and I gained like 40lbs in a matter of months which was insane to me because I’ve never been heavier than 120lbs(not pregnant) so it was like wtf is wrong with me. Finally got some anti depressants and lost the weight and now my kids are 4 and 2 and I’m getting my life back and started doing things I enjoyed again.. the kids are old enough to go play in the backyard with me needing to follow them around. I’m finally able to get to me time.

So of course me and my husband start thinking about a 3rd and about 2 months ago we were like, if we want this is 4-6 months, then let’s give it go. WELL the next time we have sex after that convo my husband freakin comes in me and he’s been pulling out because he knew how much I didn’t want a 3rd kid 😭 I checked my calendar and it was right in the middle of my ovulation week and I was like fuuuck. Thought about taking a plan b but then felt guilty stepping in on faith because I couldn’t imagine if I would of plan b on my other two kids and they not exist 🙄 stupid me I was like well we will just see. Sure enough I’m freakin pregnant.

Now that I’m actually pregnant and everything is setting in, I don’t want it 😭 I don’t want to do pregnancy again, I don’t want to do any of it 😭 I don’t want life to get crazy and chaotic and me running around the house like a chicken with its head cut off 😭 I don’t want to be a SAHM with 3 kids at home by myself. I don’t want to start all over again. I’m just spiraling.

I have really bad restless legs that I’m on medication for it but can’t take it now and so my RLS is just through the roof. I’m barely sleeping and just raging pissed about it. I love my sleep. Called my OB last week to talk about it and still haven’t heard anything. Told the nurse that I needed to talk to someone asap cause I’m thinking about terminating the pregnancy cause I just can’t take this anymore. But really I think it’s just an excuse cause I don’t want to be pregnant.

I told my husband the nurse story and he’s like “I cant even hear you talk about terminating the pregnancy like that, that’s just not happening so stop.” And just the fact that he told me what I can’t do just pissed me off even more. Like, my mental state is getting so bad from lack of sleep and you want me to spend the next 8+ months this way taking care of 2 toddlers everyday and you’re telling me I can’t terminate the pregnancy if I wanted to, ITS MY BODY! Ugh.

Again the whole terminating the pregnancy is just me panicking and coming up with excuses cause I’m just so bummed about this pregnancy..

I hate that I wanted my last two babies so bad and felt so happy the whole time that this little baby inside of me right now is getting the worst of me and feeling so unwanted. It’s just that my other 2 kids I planned and was ready for. I was not ready for this mentally or physically and I kind of had no fucking say in this cause my husband ejaculated in me without my freakin consent.

I have in-laws that are super helpful and that’s the ONLY reason I was even considering a 3rd because there was no way if we didn’t have any kind of village. Well I’m about to start feeling super nauseous and miserable and my husbands parents got in a car accident and his dad broke his back and neck and will be in bed rest for the next 12 weeks and I’m like great, so all the help I expected to get is now gone and it’s just gone be me doing this alone and I barely survived the last time I was pregnant with 1 toddler. Again I know that’s so fucking selfish and rude 😅 I’m so glad his parents are okay I’m just expressing my inner worries so don’t hate me…

My mom was just here visiting the kids from out of state and the last thing he said to me before she left was “ I’m so happy for you, you’re gonna be stretched so thin though”
And I could have just started balling my eyes out right there because I fucking know and it’s why I didn’t want a 3rd kid!!! I’m just not the type of person to go, go, go. And I just set myself up for it for the foreseeable future.

Everyday I’m just hoping to have a miscarriage cause that would be the easy way out. It’s so fucked. I hate thinking that way. I hate feeling this way. I hate feeling trapped.

I love my current kids to death. Love being a mom. I wanted tons of kids growing up but after having 2 I quickly learned my limit.

Anyways if you made it this far idk what I’m expecting out of this post. I’ve just been spiraling all morning fight back crying all day in front of my kids and my husband is on a work trip the next two days and I’m just so angry at everyone and feel alone.

So my husband was supposed to work today so l honestly expected nothing to begin with. But last night he came to bed at 2am saying he called off work because he had a migraine. So yay for me not having to parent alone all day. I wake up at 6am with the kids while he sleeps in till 11 cause I felt bad he was up all night with a migraine. He wakes up to the kids screaming, one in the bath, while I'm sweating cleaning the kitchen.

He wrangles everyone up and plops them down on the couch with tv and tablet while he cuddles up and plays on his phone for the next hour. I walk in from the garage carrying the weeks worth of laundry and he finally puts his phone down to say "ohhh yeah happy Mother's Day" and then he tells my 4 yo to get up and give me a hug. (My 4yo instantly gets up and runs to his room telling me he's getting me a surprise and bring out a shoe box with one of his toy cars in it and give it to me with a big hug🥲) IVE TOLD HIM all I ever want for on Mother's Day/my birthday is to just feel special. I don't care about the gifts or what we do. Just have the kids make a card for me, or go pick some dandelions, and make it a big deal to show and teach them/me that we appreciate and care for mom.

Anyways, we put my daughter down for her nap so I sneak away to the bedroom cause she won’t go down for a nap if I’m around 😅 I at least got to lay down for 30 min until I can hear my daughter yelling “mommy mommy mommy” for someone to come get her cause she clearly wasn’t napping today. I lay in bed listening to her for a few min and I text my husband “I don’t think she’s going down today” he says nothing and a few more minutes go by and I can’t handle hearing her yell mommy one more time so I finally text him “I’ll go get her!” and he finally decides to respond “ok” and I come out of the room and he’s sitting there on the couch with my son on his tablet and him on his phone. So he was just sitting there listening to my daughter yell for someone to come get her 🙄🙄🙄 (by the way she wasn’t crying, she just tells mommy over and over again when she decides she isn’t napping) so I come out of the room and I go, “really?? You’re just sitting there??” And he’s like “what??? Why don’t you just tell me that you wanted me to get her instead of just assuming and getting mad” whatever, I just ignored him and grabbed her and took her outside to get everyone off the freakin tv and tablets 😤 AT LEAST I GOT 30 MIN TO TRY AND RELAX.

So idk. I’m just venting. He was supposed to be working today anyways so this would have been my day either way so I’m trying to talk myself out of being grumpy. And then like, “it’s supposed to be the kids who celebrate mom not the husband” blah blah idk why I’m trying to give him the benefit of the doubt? Or am I just expecting too much 🤷🏼‍♀️ He’s only had FOUR mothers days with me and the 2nd one, he literally forgot. My mom brought me flowers and he goes “awh what are the flowers for” 😑 I just want my kids to at least see and learn from him how to treat their significant others when they get older. I’m still going to go all out for him on Father’s Day so my kids can learn from one of us.

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY! 💐