r/Rants

I’m the only person at my house who cares if my house is clean I’m the only person who cares if the yard gets mowed. I’m the only person who cares if the animals get taken care of. I’m so tired of it. Everybody thinks I’m a bitch because I try to make them help me clean, but I shouldn’t have to make them. They should just offer to help like adults but no they will sit and smoke on the porch and watch me struggle with something heavy and never offer to help. They will sit and watch me clean like it’s not their job and I’m the maid. I have four trash bags in my living room that have been there for five days because my boyfriend wont take the trash down and he walks by it every single day and ignores it. My nephew does too every single day he walks by and ignores it. My boyfriend will say don’t do the dishes I’ll do them honey but then he NEVER does. He thinks he’s doing something nice by making me not do them right now but really what he’s doing is he’s making a bigger mess for me to clean up later and making me not trust him to do anything! I have tried going on strike it doesn’t work. They don’t care if they’re living in filth and I can’t stand to live in filth because of my mental issues so eventually I will clean and they know that that’s the problem. They can just wait me out. I don’t know what else to do.
How can I get through to these people that I need them to help me keep the house clean? To be clear there are four adults living in this house!

I feel like it’s interesting how the world has become so unisex and fluid now. Men have long hair down to their buttocks, hair up in buns, outlandish hair color, and now you got “men” rocking bonnets. All this is wild.

People are allowed to be expressive so I get that part but it’s just.. hmm 🤔

In earlier years (and even now still in some places) gay men would be clowned and bashed for doing what “straight men” are doing now.

The hypocrisy has me gagged 😲

Men use to wear caps, hoodies, and durags if anything, now it’s bonnets? Nose rings? Nose piercings? Earrings in both ears?

Don’t get me started on men with leg and thigh tattoos.. that just screams f*galicious. Like who you showing your legs and thighs off for? 😐

I feel like some things should be for females.

Despite being gay and many ppl thinking we all wanna be females I have my feminine tendencies but love wearing boy clothes and hyping up my female friends like the queens they are. Cuz I believe a male can’t truly tell a female how to be a woman nor can a woman tell a male how to be a man.

Maybe I’m the last of a dying breed of ppl who can’t get with or approve everything for validation or fear of being viewed as a hater or controversial at any point by anyone 🤷🏽‍♂️

so i left comments on a subreddit about identity and labels.
apparently they didn’t like my opinion and decided that I was being hateful.
this is unacceptable. People are way too sensitive nowadays.
if you have any kind of belief or opinion other then what they like, they point fingers and get you banned apparently.
it’s pathetic, really.
Waaaaa you don’t agree with me. What’s wrong with you? You’re wrong!
SMH

Today, the gap between the richest and the poorest is so massive our brains can't even process it. If you stacked up the bills making up Elon Musk's fortune, the pile would circle the Earth several times over. A minimum wage worker's would fit in a shoebox. We're not talking "he did better"... we're talking a total change of scale !

And there's always someone ready to defend it : "It's merit" Merit for what exactly ? Nobody has ever worked a billion times harder than another human being. That doesn't exist. It's just a system running for its own sake, period.

"But he creates jobs !"

Sure, and so what ? That was never a gift, it's literally the opposite : if employees could become rich themselves, who'd be left to run the place ? Creating jobs is creating dependency, not empowerment. While you're chasing rent, the gap keeps growing on its own, without the person at the top lifting a finger.

And honestly I don't get how anyone's supposed to get up every morning, work hard, follow the rules, knowing someone else makes in a single day what you'll never make in an entire lifetime.

People can live with inequality as long as itfeels justified. This isn't inequality anymore... it's just absurd.

Just wake up.

I just need to rant about this since no one understands and I feel like I'm just whiny. Anyway.

I am 23. I have been working 5 hours overtime a week and even that has made my chronic exhaustion worse (I have a laundry list of things but biggest thing is a connective tissue disorder so my body is just tired holding itself together, I never feel rested)

Anyway we are struggling financially. My husband is in college full time and barely makes above min wage. After my deductions (insurance retirement etc) I make like 200 if more than him. So I have to work overtime. Recently he's gotten behind in college and cannot keep going how he is he is barely sleeping I'm talking 3 hours a night. So I told him to drop another day a week. He goes to classes in person 3x a week and we share a car.

Ok with that being said big rant part.

My engine is being replaced. It suffered a catastrophic oil leak in our move a month after dealership work. I assume something wasn't placed right and it ran out of oil (literally got an oil change and wasn't due for one till we finished the drive). Anyway. This car is newer just outside warranty and we owe on it. It's low mileage too so a new engine was the only option (2k+2-3k labor)

This means we need money now.

Then my cat gets sick. $1k, he's NEVER been sick in his 9 years of living.

Plus some life stress, childhood friend passing, extra work assigned to me etc

Anyway the only option for me is to pick up more work. If I work 25 hours a pay period, 50 a month in overtime we will make an extra 1,400 roughly after everything. I just don't know how I will do it.

I obviously have to but I am so tired

Like always.

Anyway rant over life goes on I just feel sick and so tired.

Truly ranting at myself lol. I need to sit down and create a monthly meal plan but instead I scramble mid day everyday trying to figure out what’s for dinner 😩

Every time my parents have guests with kids (around my age) coming over, they almost make it my duty to go hang out with them for the entire day/night.

I have aspergers and most of the time these guys judge me from the moment they see me acting or talking the tiniest bit different of what they are used to (whatever that may be). They don't even try to respond to my many efforts to make conversation. I would much rather just talk with my parents and their friends.

And then worst of all. If I don't do this my parents and the guests say I'm being antisocial. Give me a break please.

PS: I'm a 20 year old guy, don't know if that matters.

It's funny how often I hear people say "the world needs more empathy" but people rarely acknowledge it as a negative trait. When empathy is misused, it's damaging and purely ignorant. I've had people in my life who EMPATHIZE so hard with sick perverts. Empathize with people who are abusive toward others, empathize with people who neglect children and let them die, empathize with rapists/killers "because they had a bad childhood" and more.

It sickens me. I don't know how people can have empathy for EVIL behaviors and not give a damn about the victims who suffer from that evil. Like, piss off to every person who does that. You have empathy for everything BUT the victim. Empathy is not always a good thing. And I'm not going to be told one more time, "But you should have more empathy in your heart .🥺" Yeah, I don't any empathy for child predators or serial killers, but you do you. 😒

At this point rn I'm just fed up and straight up disappointed.

We are a gay couple.

I have a son.

My son has AuDhD and some other issues, 7 y/o not able to visit a school right now for example.

This hits us hard. Were doing a lot for him, but he is mostly in a bad mood that affects us too.

We have two dogs, one of them just does not get clean. Always pissing or shitting somewhere. Once a day. More stress.

A cat. Easy one.

My Husband.

Everything but easy. I suspect him to have autism himself. Either that or he is straight up an asshole and never shown that side before.

When we met and dated he was beautiful. Kind, listening, even cleaning the apartment when I was out at work. He always had an alarm set for 7am. Stood up, took care of his dog he loves and of some other stuff while I was at work and my son in kindergarden.

He then had to go to the hospital. Nothing serious, we knew it would be needed beforehand. I drove him there. Few city's over.

There were the first red flags, that I chose to ignore.

My mother told me, he talks shit about me when I'm not there. I confronted him via text. While he's in hospital. Not ideal but I felt betrayed and just couldn't wait. He was really angry - because my mother told me and because I talked to her about us and our relationship. That I was sceptical.

But honestly, I never forgave him for that one. Talking shit about me to my mother's face and pretending I'm the bad one and my mother for telling me.

We figured things out, I thought.

I have to state: he has serious mental issues because of his childhood. I knew that from day one and accepted him with that, knowing, a relationship with him will be on the .. "harder" side.

I am not easy myself. It's alright. I've got chronic migraines. The bad kind. The kind where you loose balance, fall, get neausous and throw up. At least 4 days a week. At that point I had no treatment and was expected to push through that disability.

After his hospital stay he had to rest, I get it. But I continued to care for my dog, his dog, the cat, my son and him. He grew.... Comfortable. And even after healing, he stayed like that. He saw me struggling each day and then he chose to just sleep through it.

It's not like I just relented and kept it like that, I tried talking to him about it on several occasions. That i'm sick of doing everything this household of 5 living specimen has completely alone.

Months went on and in February, my birthday, I thought I might get some ease. Some love.

Instead he woke me early instead of letting me sleep in . He was congratulating with my son, but they were basically jumping on my dead sleeping ass with the dogs at 6am. He knows that I need some sleep too. He chose to ignore it. I woke up in literal pain. He mistook it as "bad mood" and then decided to sleep through my birthday instead. He just went to bed as I stood in the kitchen making my own coffee. He left me alone that day, the whole day. I have gotten no presents from him because his "amazon didn't work" and we were broke yes, but he didn't even made a card with my son from scratch for example. My son did not fully register I had birthday. I was crying. I was sad. I couldnt keep it to myself.

I lived through that.

No apologies, never. The only thing he does is redirecting it on me "you were in a bad mood I didn't want to upset you even more by being awake" shit like that. Where I tell him caring for someone makes it better. He doesn't see that.

I just got used to caring for everything here alone. Tripping over my own struggles and disability.

Eventually we married. That day I remember clearly as fuck asking myself: is this really my future?

I ignored it. Wrong path.

That was three months ago.

Since then there was not one single day that I did not regret it.

He still sleeps through the day, redirects every mistake he makes at me. Projecting on me and my son. Telling me several times a day how everything is just shit. How everything is too much for HIM mentally. HE feels like he is not allowed to be himself at home. While I ask WHY? He already does what he wants the whole day. I am the only one taking care of everything, including his moods. Our family lives with a certain structure that my AuDhD kid simply needs to not melt down every day. But my Husband is shaming me for bread crumbs that I remove myself. He says he removes them. He gets angry when I ask him to bring his own plate into the kitchen because I want to clean up the table. He gets mad when I ask him to put something away in the kitchen, because I literally just cleaned everything 10 seconds prior. He gets mad at ME when he tells me everything is mentally too much for him, hes thinking of vacation without us, and I don't argue with him. He literally told me yesterday: he expects me to argue with him to make him stay.

No.

I won't.

I told him I won't, because he just tells me months ahead that everything is too much on him. I told him, if it's that bad, maybe he needs vacation, time without us. He was mad about that.

He expects me to Kind of fight for him but ignores completely, that I am devastated, that I am simply done with my strength. Without any love in my direction, why should I fight? For what? More bad mood and asshole behavior?

I seriously regret everything.

My son loves him tho. I do too. I don't know how to handle this crap. With a divorce he would get half of everything I own. He owns basically nothing.

Notes: I am the only one of us actually working and getting paid but he is stay at home, sleeping, just being mad about everything. I don't even ask stuff from him anymore. He is at home and does not care for the pets or my son. I have to leave work early every day and have to drive home after every hour of work for short periods of time because he chooses to sleep and I have to watch over everyone WHILE I have to work.

He literally gets MAD cussing when he has to touch the dishes. Or his own laundry. He really does NOTHING

Note 2: I seriously am thinking about somehow leaving Germany

I don’t even think the average man should try anymore; it’s not worth it. I’m below average and haven’t had a match in like a year. Even changing bios or doing any of that helps not at all. The average or below-average man is always going to struggle with dating. You either have to be a 9 or 10 or just look like you have a ton of money in your pictures. Some average guys get lucky, but the majority struggle to get a single match. Women on Bumble and tinder want the most successful men.

Hey again, back here, what's the point in relationships, I have had 3 major relationships and I somehow managed to fuck them up, it was never the other person's fault, it was mine, which I will openly admit, two of those relationships I don't think I was really mature enough to be in a relationship and the third one was because I was a stupid twat, but I don't think it's just that, I'm also a short bearded balding fat ass with autism and as we know, autistic guys don't do well in relationships, no one wants us, well, no one wants me, I'm probably better off alone anyway, if I can fuck up three major chances, then I guess I don't deserve to have anyone, I've also set a deadline for myself that is getting closer, 4 more years in fact, I told myself if I don't have a partner by 30, I'll get the snip, I set myself this deadline to kick myself up the ass to get better and find someone, by the looks of things, it's actually going to happen and I accept that

Idc if it's about winning wars, I fucking HATE forth of July, cause istg I'm gonna lost my mind. I keep having mental breakdowns and can't even rest a second when these dumb fucking people who only chant about politics and drink beer are popping fire works outside Lord in HELL.

I said this before I think but idc

I only joined reddit because I wanted to see what people were talking about sense everyone talks about how fucked up reddit was and holy shit they were right

Why is it every fucking I post literally anywhere some neckbeard limp dick fuckass looser wants to yap about my fucking Grammer or like whatever else

I swear to god its always on this acount never my fucking alt ans yes I know im stateing the obvious I know why everyone in this sub reddit and everywhere treats me like trash

But Holy shit I cant be my fucking self without some scum of the earth looser starting shit im so fucking sick of this shit every fucking time no matter what sub I go to every fucking time

Leave me the fuck alone fuck off fuck off Holy fucking shit

This is fucking social media not a fucking job I dont fucking care about my Grammer fuck fuck fuck fuck off Holy shit fuck off fuck off tuck off shit shit shit fuck

Someone fucking ban reddit Holy shit im so fucking done fuck you fuck all of you fuck this sub

Matter of fact fuck the mods no one fucking understands what this sub is for fuck

You owe me ten bucks if any if you comment something mean btw

Yeah no. I’m not gonna respect someone who’s old enough to understand how to be a decent human being, yet take “respect your elders” as an excuse to act like a child.

Being an unattractive man in my 20s is the worst thing in life. I’ve watched all my siblings get into relationships while I rot in loneliness. It’s truly one of the worst things to have so many unattractive features. Yes, I understand that grooming yourself and going to the gym help, but they didn’t help me. My genetics are genuinely terrible. I don’t think any woman would get past my appearance and want to actually get to know me.

i am still trying to process this. he texted me thursday night but i fell asleep early so i didn't see the text until yesterday friday morning. it said "hey i'm sorry my girlfriend isn't comfortable with us texting. i truly love this woman and i respect her wishes. i am going to cut communication moving forward." i am in complete shock. this friendship was strictly platonic. i never had ANY romance feelings for this guy and we have never did anything sexual at all. i moved out of state back in october 2024 and that's when we met and he has helped out a lot and we did a lot together! we also hung out with this other girl too and it became our friend group during my time i was living in the other state. sadly, i had to move back to my home state 3-4 months ago bcus i couldn't renew my lease after getting laid off. we still stayed in contact and everything. he even deleted me off of snapchat. it's so out of nowhere, there's nothing in our texts that screams flirtatious at all. idk if the gf went through his texts or what. they have only been dating for a few months and we have been good friends for almost 2 years. i told the other girl in our friend group and she is in shock as well. she also got into a relationship but she told me her boyfriend doesn't make him cut off her guy friends and vice versa. she tells me that is controlling behavior if somebody makes you cut off your friends just bcus they're the opposite gender. so i just can't believe he threw away our friendship that i truly valued with no hesitation??? i never thought he would do this, but i guess he is insecure and so is she. he did tell me he is insecure too, but not to the point where you don't have boundaries to stand up for yourself and friends??? sorry needed to vent. i am just trying to process this. it's like i invested into this friendship for no reason???

I do my fair share of dating as well as hookup culture, and I have been outright called "autistic" by 3 different guys who barely know me. I am not autistic.

I have tried telling them that I have been in therapy for 10 years now, and that my current therapist is the only one qualified to diagnose me like that. I have been through 5 different therapists before, and none have ever had any suspicion of autism for me. If I needed a diagnosis, it would have been done by now.

Even after I tell them this, they proceed to try telling me that my therapists are just "liars trying to push an agenda" or that they're wrong or something. Even though these guys CLEARLY don't know shit about actual psychology themselves. They can't even use "you're" vs. "your" properly in their text messages.

This is when I (naturally!) get angry. I keep on explaining to them that I am NOT autistic and my therapist is qualified and knows me well. They then tell me that I'm "overreacting" because "autism isn't a bad thing!!!! It's okay to have autism!!!! I'm only asking because I think I have it myself!!!!". They tell me to "not freak out and just breathe", as if I'm crazy.

When I ask them WHY they think I have autism, they outright tell me "because you don't have any friends" as well as very minor things, such as "being a little loud" or "bouncing back and forth between conversation topics".

Keep in mind, these guys barely know me.

So, not only do they think it's socially acceptable to basically tell someone "I think you're mentally disabled", but they also think it's acceptable to tell someone that they have zero friends to their face. All while claiming they want to hook up with that person????

I do not understand it. Do guys think that outright insulting a girl is some kind of backwards "strategy" to get her into bed with them???!!! It makes zero sense to me. I obviously blocked them all.

I'm just very angry looking back at it. Even IF I was autistic, it shouldn't be socially acceptable for people to label each other this way- let alone to people they barely know.

Please read the small paragraph at the very bottom before commenting. Also this is a positive rant, I’m not actually upset about anything lol just thought some people might think it’s interesting. Also, I feel I can make this analysis as someone who grew up in this culture, but somethings might be off.

I don’t know if anyone is actually interested in this, but I think people don’t realize how there are four different types of country people.(there’s probably more, but this is my take.) You got your rednecks, hillbillies, farmers/cowboys, and your “just the accent, food, & music people.” And don’t be dismayed if you or your local country boy doesn’t quite fit, there are mashes and misfits. I’ll be touching on some stereotypes, but I can do that as someone who fits into one of these categories.(no I’m not saying which one, that’s my business, but it’s not the last one.) Hi everyone, I’m Ally, and class is in session.

1. Rednecks. These are the people who have their Christmas lights up all year long. Usually a bit more unhinged, you might find them walking around with holes in their boots, and trust me they don’t care what you think about that. The ladies may sometimes have a spray tan a shade too dark, but they love Dollar General. Despite the what you may think, they are a great time usually, and fun to be around. They are not ashamed of this lifestyle, they marry young, have lots of kids that are all over the place, and love all of them.

(usually.) They are abundant in small towns.

1. Hillbillies. These are the ones that are sometimes from the Appalachians, but not always. Front porch swingers, they love their rocking chairs, and their elders. Dont be surprised if an old eighty year old granny you’re distantly related to, heard you’re pregnant and made your baby a homemade crocheted blanket, complete with the babies name embroidered on. Sweet tea is a staple, and you best believe you’re getting some kind of cornbread, sausage, and potato concoction for dinner at their house. These people are often superstitious, but honestly maybe you should listen, because you really don’t know what they’ve seen in those woods.(I’m really not kidding.)

3.Farmers/cowboys. Kind of self explanatory, grew up taking care of animals, they often grew up with several acres of land to play on. They love this land and you couldn’t rip them away if you tried. They grew up with the wildlife, and will look at you funny if you say you’ve never seen a herd of deer.(actually probably all of them would.) Stereotypically, these are the kind you’ll see wearing button shirts everywhere, but that’s kind of dying out unfortunately. They’re tough, and probably have a high pain tolerance. There’s not much to say, they’re good people.

4. Just the accent, food, & music people. These people have stickers all over the back of their car. Something about “Lake Life.” These people go out to eat a lot. They didn’t really grow up like the others, just in the area. They love hanging out in parking lots, and blasting rap country.

What do they all have in common? They all love their country and their people. Also let’s not bash anyone in my comments, this is for learning and entertainment purposes only, we are not immature ignorant children who bash people we do not understand. Class dismissed.

they are so nasty. especially in any sub beginning with “am i”. i feel like one person gives a response and everybody else just bandwagons and just offers genuinely vague advice. i cant name a time i asked for advice and got genuinely good advice.

earlier today i posted about an instance at my job where i got a little sassy with a client due to a miscommunication and everybody was acting like i was a spawn of the devil. basically i asked a customer if she was interested in opening a credit card for a discount and she said no. we have to share benefits so i went into that and she even sharper said no and THEN told me she already had the credit card. i simply stated she should’ve told me that initially then i wouldn’t have tried to push it. and i felt a little bad for the tone i used but just felt like it was a stupid argument. but oh my gosh people were assholes in the aitah thread. they were acting like i was this nasty fucked up person for giving the customer an alternative to save both of us the annoyance. and they were just like “the customer is always right” (the quote is hella misinterpreted btw) and claiming i was taking my bad mood out on her which was not true at all. this one woman in the thread was so rude saying she’d report me to my manager for that so i said then i’d just laugh and the manager would too because they don’t take complaints seriously for credit card pushing. and said it is bitchy to interrupt someone when their speaking. she then said that “reflects” the type of person i actually am which is not true. i can be nice or i can be rude. it depends on how im treated. i’m nice to customers but if they’re rude to me i do tell them i will not be spoken to like that because im a human being. and im always nice to customer service people unlike these ingrates in the thread.

and there’s been more, i post about relationship issues, disagreements with family, etc and people act like im this piece of shit. like no im not, im just trying my best. and sometimes make mistakes.

one time i posted about wanting to find a new job, after being pressed to give my reason, when i gave the reason people were telling me my reason wasn’t “valid”. like hello? wanting a new job is perfectly normal and maybe my reason isn’t the best reason but i can leave a job for any reason i wish.

reddit is the worst place for advice because they’re not seeing the whole picture and they just see it off the words on the screen. it doesn’t help how negative everybody is here either. im sticking my posts to stuff about tv and music from now on because the people aren’t overly harsh there 🤣

and i must note, every now and then there are people who are nice and actually explain either what the problem truly was without using nasty judgemental language or making me feel bad about my entire existence. its especially annoying when they use the nasty mocking condescending names that older people use to mock those younger than them.