u/my_soup_

Wtf is wrong with you all?
The “psychodelics are not drugs”, “its a spiritual/emotional/healing journey” stuff really pisses me off.
Like, sure. Use whatever you like.
BUT CAN YOU PLEASE STOP TALKING ABOUT IT???
Every person I know, who likes psychodelics always talks about it, how it “opend their third eye”, “helped them heal” and other bullshit. Just go to fucking therapy, read a book. Do something.
When I say that I am bipolic and I strictly cannot do these kind (or any) drugs, other casual users (like party drug people) are so understanding about it. But the psychodelic users always have big speech about how it will heal me and help me. Tf. I do not do them for a reason. Why these dumbasses cant understand that.
Jeez.

Hi.
So.
I just got out of a really long term relatioship. And I have decited that I just want some casual fun for some time.
But I met his guy. He just fell for me. And I did tell him about my expectations and wants. And it seemd like he understood.
And we have been talking for about a month now.
few days ago he asked me to be his girlfriend. I just said “sure” without thinking.
Idk whats wrong with me. As i dont want relationship right now. And for some reason it was easier to agree than break his heart.
I feel like such a bad person. Idk how to tell him, that i dont want to be with him.
I feel so weird.

Edit:
Thank you all for kind words and encouragement. I will tell him tonight.
I really appreciate you all!

I broke up with my long term partner. We had dead bedroom, that was awful.
And now i cant stop thinking about sex. I masturbate 2-3 times a day. I fantasize about sex, i did had a few one night stands but for some reason i just cant get it out of my system. I think about it all the time.
I cant work nor function as a normal person. I cant make normal connections as my first intention is to bring that person to the bedroom.
What do i do? I cant escape it.

I have never been single for long. I jump into relationships pretty fast (no, its usually not short term, but still. Most of my relationships lasted 2+ years, but still). I am pretty attractive and I am single again. A lot of men show me attention and i hate that i care about that. I hate that i am single just for one month and again i am in a dating world.
I have always needed reassurence from men, even if i dont like the guy.
Like yesterday I was on a date. And it was fun, but… we have really different communication styles and pretty big age gap (not judging anyone, but sometimes you can feel that gap). So i know that i dont want to build anything with him. Buttt. When he criticised my behaviour (not harsh, just that i was telling too many compliments. I do love complimenting people) i felt that i need to “win him over”. I hate that. I hate that feeling, when all i care is approval of man. When i was in my last relationship, i did everything i could to be “perfect” for him and it was torture.
I dont know how to change this. How do i stop?

This man and I have known eatch other for over a decade. We talked a lot and had a few romantic moments (kissing, intimacy and other bedroom activities). But every time something happened - he dissapeared for few months. One time even years. And the reapear again.
He knows about my feelings towards him as i am pretty open about wanting to try a relationship with him, but he never expressed wanting something more.
I cannot say that he is incapable of having a relationship as in those years he did had a few long term girlfriends.
It just really hurts to know that i am not enough. And every time we get close, he just ghosts me. I dont know how to deal with my emotions anymore as these feelings have been for past 10 years. Will it ever change?

TL;DR - in past 10 years i tried to create a deeper connection with a man but every time something happens - he dissapears. Idk how to deal with myself anymore.

My bf and I have been together for more thant 5 years.
We traveled together, he even renovated my appartment. While i was studying and working, he helped me to stay affloat financially. He bought me trips and gave me new computer.
But i always had this feeling that something is not right. In arguments he called me names and was mean to me. If theres any problem, he always told me that thats my mental issue (i am bipolar), he looked at other girls and talked about threesomes all the time (even tho i asked him not to do that). And more tiny things.
Now i just left him and he is angry as he helped me financially and pshychologically a lot. I really dont want to get back with him, as i feel much more better alone, but this past few weeks were a hell to him and he says that my decidion was based by manic episode. Idk if it is true, but i feel fine. I feel like i did a right decition. But at the same time, he helped me so much.
I feel lost. How do i communicate to him, that it was never my intention to use him? This just happened.

I have been in an abusive relationship for 5 years. I have tried, i promise, i have tried to save it. But he cheated on me so many times and finally i was just fed up with it. I left him. It was painful.
Only a few weeks after breakup i met with an old old love. We had short romance 7-8 years ago. And now, after my breakup, we met for a beer and i stayed with him for 5 days.
It was the most beautiful 5 days in my life, we were having sex and talking all the time. We barely slept or ate as we were so busy with eachother.
I fell in love with him. We talked almost every day and the it stopped, i dont know why.
And now its been month since i last saw him.
And i miss him so much. I miss him more than my ex. And i really really want him to love me. But i know that he never will.

I work individually with 16-17 yo. I teach my language and literature.
One student cant control his anger, it is unetical to say, but he is also not the brightest and now… he really wanted me to read “harassment architecture”. I was like “alright, glad he reads” and once i opened the book. It is terrible. I still didnt tell him that i have read it (not even half of it) but he preaces, that he feels seen and that he feels like the main character of that book. Tf do i do. Also, tomorow will be my last lesson with him, so maybe i should let it go? I know teenagers might be more extreme. But not like this.
Sorry for any mistakes, English is not my first language.

I work individually with 16-17 yo. I teach my language and literature.
One student cant control his anger, it is unetical to say, but he is also not the brightest and now… he really wanted me to read “harassment architecture”. I was like “alright, glad he reads” and once i opened the book. It is terrible. I still didnt tell him that i have read it (not even half of it) but he preaces, that he feels seen and that he feels like the main character of that book. Tf do i do. Also, tomorow will be my last lesson with him, so maybe i should let it go? I know teenagers might be more extreme. But not like this.
Sorry for any mistakes, English is not my first language.

I work individually with 16-17 yo. I teach my language and literature.
One student cant control his anger, it is unetical to say, but he is also not the brightest and now… he really wanted me to read “harassment architecture”. I was like “alright, glad he reads” and once i opened the book. It is terrible. I still didnt tell him that i have read it (not even half of it) but he preaces, that he feels seen and that he feels like the main character of that book. Tf do i do. Also, tomorow will be my last lesson with him, so maybe i should let it go? I know teenagers might be more extreme. But not like this.
Sorry for any mistakes, English is not my first language.

I am 27 yo, so its not puberty XD
But i used to smell normal, just like everyone else.
But about 6 months ago i noticed, that smell on my left side of body became stronger and my deodorant just stopped working.
Its really weird.
Maybe theres some ways to deal with that, i feel like nothing works anymore.

By “invading” i mean:

-When I an watching youtube or listening to music, he always starts listening to his music or podcasts on top. (I get it - our music tastes are compleeete oposite, but i would love for him to ask if he can do that).

-If i am watching tiktok, he starts watchin reels louder (i always have to ask him to lover the volume)

-if we are coocking together, he always does the “fun parts” of it, while i am left cleaning and chopping vegetables.

-when we are cleaning together, he alwats does the “more fun” jobs like putting loundry in the washing mashine. And i am left with the not so fun as sorting clothes and putting then to drawers.

-if i am watching something, he just changes a channel or turns off tv completely.

I know its small, but i tried to talk to him about that. It worked for some time. When it got back to this again. Now i am too tired to try being vulnerable with him, so i just make fun of him by doing that (ye… really healthy.)

He is a good person, but i feel like i cant enjoy my daily life without him interrupting it.

tl;dr my partner always takes “fun parts” of daily routines and invades my space. It is minor incoveniance, but i get more and more angry at him.