r/SexAddiction

Alright I’m just gonna be straight up because I don’t really have anyone to talk to about this.

I’m pretty sure I have some kind of sex addiction. My sex drive feels insanely high, like all the time. I’m constantly thinking about sex, noticing women sexually, and just feeling that urge nonstop. It’s not just once in a while, it’s basically every day, all day.

Even when I was younger I was like this, always chasing sex, always thinking about it, always wanting more. It never really shut off, and now as an adult it feels like it’s just constant in the background.

I’m not trying to be disrespectful or weird about it, I just don’t know if this is normal “high sex drive” or if it’s actually an addiction at this point. It honestly feels like I’m feening for it sometimes, and I don’t like how much it controls my thoughts.

Has anyone else dealt with this?

Hey! I would really like some advice on an issue my partner and I are facing.

At one point in time, we were both sex addicts. He is still struggling with it, while I've done a 180 and now struggle to find the motivation to be intimate. One of the reasons I changed was because he was talking/sexting other women online. Normally, this wouldn't bother me so much, but he says he can only get off to someone with whom he has a personal connection. Him having these personal connections with the people hes sexting and sharing photos with is what I struggle to accept/allow. We've been together for nearly 9 years, and I genuinely don't think he's ever been truly faithful to me.

Considering all of this and the fact that I'm now completely numb to his actions, I'm considering an open relationship with him.

Neither of us can afford to live on our own, so if I end it, we're both fucked. I also really do love him. Other than the "cheating", he is a really amazing partner.

I just don't know how to help him without hurting myself in the process.

Hi, I am a 27 year old guy, and I feel like I have a problem. I think I have sex addiction, how do I know, I usually didn’t date because of commitment issues but since past 2 years I have been with the same girl, who I love as well, and having a long distance relationship. But this was not always, we were staying together for a long time and I had sex with her like 3-4 times a day average and she never stopped me or said no.
The issue is whenever we are far apart, I feel so horny all the time that we do like a video call or that kind of sex stuff. But the issue is that I started to feel that I need to release a lot. Like a pressure of just finishing cause I am always drooling and my pants are always, you know, damped. I tried to ignore a lot, but I am just back.
So I just wanna ask if someone can help me with any suggestions at all. It’s getting really tuff and out of my hand. Please any suggestions!

Question

Can unresolved early sexual trauma of childhood makes a child hypersexual which can lead the child to have sex with different genders in young age of teens and adulthood?

I am living in constant guilt and regret I am struggling with this shit from the age of 8-10 years

Hello friends,

I need help on how i can join any online support group for sex addicts. I have been trying on my own. I always keep relapsing. Your help will be appreciated.

I m using some tools its helping a lot but ı hate my brain

What’s up guys. I think one of the most under recognized and silent addictions out there is findom. Findom because, if you are like me, it’s a very very uncomfortable conversation to have in person with anyone. I have been addicted to this fetish for going on 6 years and can’t even imagine how much money I’ve spent throughout the years….

I’m short on income, I have a loving fiancé who means the world to me, and I have a bad habit of always checking my findom accounts in my spare time.

Just recently I’ve turned a new leaf and decided to delete all my findom accounts. I get the urge to log back into the account before it’s deleted or search up porn online to satisfy my urge…

Is there anyone out there that’s been through findom and recovered? Would love to hear from you and what you’ve done to get through this

hey all,

gif, ever evolving person in recovery

Recently at the gift of clarity from my sponsee I've been pondering a lot about the use of derogatory language.

In my professional spaces I've evolved to use person first language. Keep the focus on the behavior and my side of the street and avoid labeling the other people.

This was and is being exasperated by one of my sponsee who has been feeling unsafe in SAA meeting when people use derogatory language to describe sex workers and their behaviors.

As you some of you know I am one of the mods here and have had people raise concerns about my request to be mindful of language.

Here is my perspective. Derogatory language has been used to dehumanize people to justify and rationalize abuse. Out of consideration for our minor attracted fellows we do not use the p word. Out of concern for people who pay for access to other peoples bodies with dont use the other fin. p*g word.

Why should we allow people to use derogatory labels for sex workers ? I dont think it's fair. Its also something various of my sponsees express make them feel uncomfortable in meetings especially taking ownership of how difficult it is staying sober at the idea of being paid to act out.

Sex addiction takes many forms. For those who act out with people it can be the compulsions to pay for access to a person who would not have allowed you to touch them otherwise. I.e the person who purchased sex. Or it can be the sick and suffering addict struggling to stay sober who caved to the idea of letting someone outside of their attraction spectrum touch them in exchange for something they needed.

Language has power. I welcome you to comment if you disagree and let's have a conversation

22m here My lifestyle was very bad I don't know what I doing I don't have any goals all my peers growing and I stuck in sex addiction looking for girls but not able to talk a girl I am wasting money on hookers wasting every day watching porn I feel like I need 1 girl in my life but I don't have a job I don't have skills i am unable to upskill my self wtf I wanting to sex more I want to grow and earn money but so much mess in my mind I don't feel like I am not doing better in life I am loosing hope

I’m disappointed in myself for sneaking away to receive services from a prostitute (received oral while wearing condom). I was regretting it immediately after the act. When i use to act out more regularly i didn’t feel this way afterward like i had just done something wrong… instead i felt like “damn if i had more money id do it again”. But this time was different just immediate regret. I have a fiancé that i have to go back home to and i don’t think i want to tell her but at the same time i know i don’t want to live with this.

I haven't been masturbating ive been dreaming of sex lately. Woke up watched porn. Threw away all my toys so didnt masturbate trying to kick all this but find my self dreaming about it day dreaming. Wishing a sexual relationship would fall into my lap but at the same trying to stay away from everything. Trying to build my self worth and self esteem.

We know rationally we should not relapse and are destroying ourselves.

So this should be enough, this knowledge. Even if I can't feel it.

if I know, I can force myself (this is almost violent) to not relapse, even if it goes against everything I crave in the moment.

I’ve always wondered what exactly classified an addiction

More specifically does it exist to be a high functioning addict to where it hasn’t caused any progression based issues in the years you’ve maybe dealt with it.

I do believe I have some sort of sex/porn/prostitute addiction. But, I have had good quality regular relationships with women. I don’t blow all my money on sex workers, as I have a life in which I dont want to go broke from the sex workers, because to me having fun with friends and family or the women I date is far more important. I make sure to get tested regularly and don’t have any STD’s. I don’t blow off major responsibilities to go sleep with regular women, sex workers, or watch porn. I will say though i am sure to only pair with higher sex drive women. The way I date does reflect that. Whether or not that’s an issue is up for interpretation cause don’t want to commit to someone with a vanilla sex drive and I do have a general frequency I seek out.

I could go a week or 2 without watching porn or weeks/month(s) without seeing a sex worker. I can go on a dating site, or warm approach women and have had meaningful relationships and fwb relationships.

I guess it gets to a point where I’m not stopping cause…there hasn’t been a need to? Which I think may be a trap, in a way. Like I guess what stops me from going overboard is I have no desire to deal with the despair that comes with over-consumption.

I will go on a crusade to find someone to have sex with when I feel very sad in my life. It’s like I believe I can’t feel better unless I go and have sex, but often times it feels worse after and I begin to cry. Why don’t I seek out sex and hook ups when I’m in a good place? Why is it just when I feel extremely low?

Pls tell

Im very introverted so I dont currently have sex with anyone, but i feel like the sexual thoughts and masturbation might be getting out if hand. Ive been like this since I was probably 6 or 7, no history of SA/CSA. For the past few years i watch porn basically everyday, I masturbate multiple times a day. As soon as a wake up before work, multiple times on my days off, before bed. Ill even wake up in the middle of the night do it and go back to bed. Most of my thoughts are sexual fantasies. Lately ive been thinking about dating but ive realized the only reason I want to is so I can have a constant source of sex. I watch so much porn that I keep trying to find new kinds. Ive recently been addicted to realistic CNC (consensual non-consent) im scared it may lead me to darker stuff (just watching) i feel digusted after but I keep going to it. Any advice would be helpful, or sources in canada

Im sorry for the bad grammar

Edit: I meant do I belong here as the title.

Soy mujer, tengo un impulso sexual que me hace querer tener sexo intenso todos los días, estoy casada, mi esposo pasa x momentos de depre, o sea bajo impulso sexual, esto me pasó antes a mi (yo bajo deseo, el deseo normal y el me respetó), pero ahora se hace difícil porque yo estoy bien anímicamente mi ibido está buena y me siento encarcelada, no quiero tener sexo con nadie más es que mi esposo es muy delicioso para mi y solo quiero estar con él, pero su bajo deseo me hace sentir que no le gustó tanto, pero yo sé que sí, que solo es eso... Cada cierto tiempo tenemos relaciones pero yo quisiera 1 vez al día como mínimo... Me siento atrapada, quiero que él me diga que hacer y yo hacer todo lo que quiera , pero no me pide :c como le hago?

Im soooooo tired of meaning less sex, lust and porn.
I want to be free.

I’m going to go through the steps this summer.

I plan to have a lust free summer.

Nothing unwarranted anymore.

Please wish me luck as I go in this journey.

This is beyond addiction I think and it’s wasted most of my life away. Everything I’ve ever done is based on the prospect of meaningless sex. Except a job? I’ll pick the offer where the company has the hottest women. Which supermarket to go to? The one where I’m more likely to meet some board horny housewife. What do I wear today? The thing that might attract a woman randomly at the coffee shop. What restaurant do I go to when I’m hungry? The one where single women may possibly be.

Everything in my life and everything I do has been based on what will get me laid. And this doesn’t count all of the sugar babies, hookers, and random hookups I’ve had. Almost 200 lifetime. No matter how hard I try to fight it, that drive is always there and won’t go away: Try to meet a random woman who is going to have sex with me. Wonder if anyone else’s addiction goes that intensely.

At least I know it’s an addition now in my late 49’s. 😩