Married 28M with a good sex life – still craving escorts and getting closer to acting on it. Need help
I’m 28, married, and I genuinely love my wife. We have a good sex life. Despite that, I still get strong cravings for sex with sex workers. I’ve been looking at online ads for escorts near me, masturbating to them, and even texting some. I haven’t met anyone in person yet, but I can feel myself getting closer and it’s scaring me.
I feel completely torn. I’ve been upfront with my wife about these urges. I saw a therapist two weeks ago and it didn’t help much. He basically said there’s nothing wrong with me and suggested focusing on better sex with my wife (more foreplay, turning it into more of a ritual). He also asked to look at my private parts, which felt weird and uncomfortable, so I said no.
I hate my job and a lot about my current situation. I’m not happy overall and I know this is partly escapism, but I’m starting to be afraid of myself and what I might do.
Has anyone been through something similar — strong urges toward paid sex even when the relationship and sex life at home are solid? I’m looking for experiences, advice, or resources. I feel like I’m running out of options.